
Originally Posted by
nitwit
It reminds me of my situation way back a long time ago, w/ my twin sissy. My mum pampered her as in spoilt her so much with expenssive clothes and etccc.... she used to drop her subjects and get drunk the whole time and when my mum found out, we thought she is gonnastop doing what she was doing yet instead, to our dismay..instead of cutting her extravagance she is pampering her more but with me (not to brag) i get good marks at school and sometimes i get recognition but none of them days that i can remember that my mum step a foot during my recognition day. She was nowhere to be found with those special events of my life for all she cares about is my sister.
It hurts alot to think about it that i even questioned myself many times why the treatment isnt fair. I get upset and devastated that i always make a way out of my friends. As i finished uni, i move out straight away (cant stand a nerve being with the same roof with my sister, so done with her childish b*llshit)... got a good job and my family's business got broke (mum couldn't afford to spoil my sister anymore)....
but with all those times, i've learnt one thing.. IGNORING is the best way. Everytime i see my mum buying things for her, i just pretended i didnt see anything that way i dont get hurt 'till i got used to it and my mum realized that due to my cold treatment towards her. I just always say YES the whole time as if i was paying attention to what she was saying.
NOW, i've got everything that a person of my age would be satisfied but im not, cause I can see that my mum loves my sister more than me and that terribly hurts.
I've got a good life and my sister is still depending with my mum (and her baby out of wedlock). Mum even does the "motherly"job for her baby cause shes always out dating.
For you...I know its gonna be hard but just try to do your best to excel on some things. Someday your mum is gonna see her mistakes and the things she've missed. Never ruin yourself just to get your mums attention cause that will never happen. She instead will hate you. Just do your best, learn to ignore for the meantime, the more that you ignore her...the quicker she sees her faults. goodluck