Honest answer please?

**cutiecules** · 12-08-2009, 11:52 PM

How many of us (everyone reading) ,has caught thier boyfriend , girlfriend cheating and are still with them?
If you remain in the relationship how do you forget it or at least live with it without any pain...

**Blackjellybean27** · 12-09-2009, 01:10 AM

Originally Posted by cutiecules

How many of us (everyone reading) ,has caught thier boyfriend , girlfriend cheating and are still with them?
If you remain in the relationship how do you forget it or at least live with it without any pain...

Caught mine, hmmmm, a few times and I'm still with him. To be honest, it's hard forgetting it and hard to forgive as well. but everyday I'm struggling to. and he told me I am choking him for that matter. For the guys, do you really think you can blame me for being like that? choking him, i mean. when in fact, i have been pretty lenient with him the past year. i don't check his cellphone, don't stalk him on FB or FS, let him oogle pretty (or not so pretty) girls, let him talk to other chicks while he's ignoring me completely. and me, quiet at first. kg d na kaya i let him know. he gets weird about it, i mean he thinks i am overeacting.
Anyway, today (yup, just today) i realized that i'm really not the one who's insecure here dba? i mean, i am NOT cheating on him in any way. I don't need other guys to tell me I'm pretty or I'm hot, or whatever. I just need my bf, no other guy but this particular guy. I don't text other guys, I don't even flirt at all. So, thinking about it. Who's insecure here? Not me. I am just getting mad at the fact that he did that to me. So, the thought made me smile actually.
He cheats naturally because he's insecure. he needs other women to praise him, he needs other women to flirt with him. he needs other women to have s3x with. That's how I'm going to live with this.
Anyway, TS, there's no guarantee to no pain. it'll always hurt. but we gotta love ourselves first before we give our all. My relationship is fairly young (just a year) and I'm giving it some more time before I decide to bail out or stay.

**heisenberg69** · 12-09-2009, 10:28 AM

Originally Posted by Blackjellybean27

Caught mine, hmmmm, a few times and I'm still with him. To be honest, it's hard forgetting it and hard to forgive as well. but everyday I'm struggling to. and he told me I am choking him for that matter. For the guys, do you really think you can blame me for being like that? choking him, i mean. when in fact, i have been pretty lenient with him the past year. i don't check his cellphone, don't stalk him on FB or FS, let him oogle pretty (or not so pretty) girls, let him talk to other chicks while he's ignoring me completely. and me, quiet at first. kg d na kaya i let him know. he gets weird about it, i mean he thinks i am overeacting.
Anyway, today (yup, just today) i realized that i'm really not the one who's insecure here dba? i mean, i am NOT cheating on him in any way. I don't need other guys to tell me I'm pretty or I'm hot, or whatever. I just need my bf, no other guy but this particular guy. I don't text other guys, I don't even flirt at all. So, thinking about it. Who's insecure here? Not me. I am just getting mad at the fact that he did that to me. So, the thought made me smile actually.
He cheats naturally because he's insecure. he needs other women to praise him, he needs other women to flirt with him. he needs other women to have s3x with. That's how I'm going to live with this.
Anyway, TS, there's no guarantee to no pain. it'll always hurt. but we gotta love ourselves first before we give our all. My relationship is fairly young (just a year) and I'm giving it some more time before I decide to bail out or stay.

nice speech......very well done...

but the thing you need to remember guys "there is no such thing as forgive and forget" it is ony " F O R G I V E ang F O R G I V E " that's the best thing you can do...everytime your bf commits mistake you have no choice but to forgive him even thu og imo na buwagan you still forgive him...YOU must.. and beliv me you cannot FORGET the bad things nga iyang nabuhat...even thu if 10years na ang molabay you can REMEMBER it...

yaw lage mo og cheat oi...heheheh...dili paman gud makontento oi...mangita pa jud lain...wew....

**RainDrizzle07** · 12-09-2009, 10:52 AM

Originally Posted by Blackjellybean27

Caught mine, hmmmm, a few times and I'm still with him. To be honest, it's hard forgetting it and hard to forgive as well. but everyday I'm struggling to. and he told me I am choking him for that matter. For the guys, do you really think you can blame me for being like that? choking him, i mean. when in fact, i have been pretty lenient with him the past year. i don't check his cellphone, don't stalk him on FB or FS, let him oogle pretty (or not so pretty) girls, let him talk to other chicks while he's ignoring me completely. and me, quiet at first. kg d na kaya i let him know. he gets weird about it, i mean he thinks i am overeacting.
Anyway, today (yup, just today) i realized that i'm really not the one who's insecure here dba? i mean, i am NOT cheating on him in any way. I don't need other guys to tell me I'm pretty or I'm hot, or whatever. I just need my bf, no other guy but this particular guy. I don't text other guys, I don't even flirt at all. So, thinking about it. Who's insecure here? Not me. I am just getting mad at the fact that he did that to me. So, the thought made me smile actually.
He cheats naturally because he's insecure. he needs other women to praise him, he needs other women to flirt with him. he needs other women to have s3x with. That's how I'm going to live with this.
Anyway, TS, there's no guarantee to no pain. it'll always hurt. but we gotta love ourselves first before we give our all. My relationship is fairly young (just a year) and I'm giving it some more time before I decide to bail out or stay.

Awwww...sis..will pm you..

nyway...I've been in the same situation before, pero its a bit different coz my ex loves to text and has a lot of textmate and eventually become his gf sa txt, pero its okey coz they are not from cebu then one day he acted so weird nalang, mao na diay to naka uyab na diay xa ug from cebu and iyaha jud gmeet, pagkahibalo nako.. I end up the relationship right there and then..pero he begged man and he will change daw..so ako xa napasaylo..

pero ako na xa g obserbahan..same raman japon xa.. mag chat & mag text and at that time fresh pa gud kaayo ang wound sa akoa, so mura jud ko ug praning like wla ko peace of mind, until one day I decide na I can't go in this kind of relationship anymore, na mag cge lang ko ug wonder ug naa nasad ba xa gmeet nga lain? kinsa napud kayha iyang ka txt? so mao to I end it up.

And didto nako na realize na in a way I did help him to be like that kay sa sobraan nako ka love nya, ako lang xa gpasagdaan and ghatag tanan maka happy nya, which is not good ^_^
kay ang iya jud g ingon nako nano na ingon ato daw mi kay "I spoiled him too much" WTF! murag unsa jung rasona.. dba?

mao btaw sis noh kadtong naay thread dnhi na unsa imong ideal bf or partner or I forgot sa title ang ako g ingon na "a male version of myself" ^_^ pero well we can't really find that version man cguro sa opposite ***..kay we are different in a way, naa man gani similarities pero naa jud uban na malahi...and relationship kay learning & growing man jud dba?

And yes sis, you are right in a way insecure imong bf sa imoha...and daghan xa ug insecurities mao sad to akong bf sauna...ingon ana sad xa ug style..then mabadtrip xa kay "why daw I don't get jealous and he feels na I don't love him enough"

Dapat pa gani he should be happy coz I am not the type of gf na who will always check on him, will prohibit him to do stuff with his friends, I even encourage him na go out with your friends do stuff na you are doing before we meet kay it is part of who you are na baya, and when he plays basketball with his friend I am there, mag cheer!! @_@

Then one day I realize nalang na... I don't want to be in this relationship, I mean after he cheat kay wla ko peace of mind and I realize lang sad jud na why do I stick with him na I know I will be able to find someone who can love me more...and the most important realization sis, kay I really need to love myself first then love myself more, and I don't need to compromise my happiness or stuff that makes me happy just to please someone ^_^

Mao na karon.. I am happy then the ex is always textin kay he misses me daw (wtf! naa na xa uyab nya mingaw daw japon xa nako,@_@)its either he wants to get laid or he regretted what he has done. ^_^

**RainDrizzle07** · 12-09-2009, 10:56 AM

Originally Posted by Blackjellybean27

Caught mine, hmmmm, a few times and I'm still with him. To be honest, it's hard forgetting it and hard to forgive as well. but everyday I'm struggling to. and he told me I am choking him for that matter. For the guys, do you really think you can blame me for being like that? choking him, i mean. when in fact, i have been pretty lenient with him the past year. i don't check his cellphone, don't stalk him on FB or FS, let him oogle pretty (or not so pretty) girls, let him talk to other chicks while he's ignoring me completely. and me, quiet at first. kg d na kaya i let him know. he gets weird about it, i mean he thinks i am overeacting.
Anyway, today (yup, just today) i realized that i'm really not the one who's insecure here dba? i mean, i am NOT cheating on him in any way. I don't need other guys to tell me I'm pretty or I'm hot, or whatever. I just need my bf, no other guy but this particular guy. I don't text other guys, I don't even flirt at all. So, thinking about it. Who's insecure here? Not me. I am just getting mad at the fact that he did that to me. So, the thought made me smile actually.
He cheats naturally because he's insecure. he needs other women to praise him, he needs other women to flirt with him. he needs other women to have s3x with. That's how I'm going to live with this.
Anyway, TS, there's no guarantee to no pain. it'll always hurt. but we gotta love ourselves first before we give our all. My relationship is fairly young (just a year) and I'm giving it some more time before I decide to bail out or stay.

Awwww...sis..will pm you..

nyway...I've been in the same situation before, pero its a bit different coz my ex loves to text and has a lot of textmate and eventually become his gf sa txt, pero its okey coz they are not from cebu then one day he acted so weird nalang, mao na diay to naka uyab na diay xa ug from cebu and iyaha jud gmeet, pagkahibalo nako.. I end up the relationship right there and then..pero he begged man and he will change daw..so ako xa napasaylo..

pero ako na xa g obserbahan..same raman japon xa.. mag chat & mag text and at that time fresh pa gud kaayo ang wound sa akoa, so mura jud ko ug praning like wla ko peace of mind, until one day I decide na I can't go in this kind of relationship anymore, na mag cge lang ko ug wonder ug naa nasad ba xa gmeet nga lain? kinsa napud kayha iyang ka txt? so mao to I end it up.

And didto nako na realize na in a way I did help him to be like that kay sa sobraan nako ka love nya, ako lang xa gpasagdaan and ghatag tanan maka happy nya, which is not good ^_^
kay ang iya jud g ingon nako nano na ingon ato daw mi kay "I spoiled him too much" WTF! murag unsa jung rasona.. dba?

mao btaw sis noh kadtong naay thread dnhi na unsa imong ideal bf or partner or I forgot sa title ang ako g ingon na "a male version of myself" ^_^ pero well we can't really find that version man cguro sa opposite ***..kay we are different in a way, naa man gani similarities pero naa jud uban na malahi...and relationship kay learning & growing man jud dba?

And yes sis, you are right in a way insecure imong bf sa imoha...and daghan xa ug insecurities mao sad to akong bf sauna...ingon ana sad xa ug style..then mabadtrip xa kay "why daw I don't get jealous and he feels na I don't love him enough"

Dapat pa gani he should be happy coz I am not the type of gf na who will always check on him, will prohibit him to do stuff with his friends, I even encourage him na go out with your friends do stuff na you are doing before we meet kay it is part of who you are na baya, and when he plays basketball with his friend I am there, mag cheer!! @_@

Then one day I realize nalang na... I don't want to be in this relationship, I mean after he cheat kay wla ko peace of mind and I realize lang sad jud na why do I stick with him na I know I will be able to find someone who can love me more...and the most important realization sis, kay I really need to love myself first then love myself more, and I don't need to compromise my happiness or stuff that makes me happy just to please someone ^_^

Mao na karon.. I am happy then the ex is always textin kay he misses me daw (wtf! naa na xa uyab nya mingaw daw japon xa nako,@_@)its either he wants to get laid or he regretted what he has done. ^_^

And I am happy sad kadto na relationship kay daghan jud ko nakat onan.. ^_^

**heisenberg69** · 12-09-2009, 10:58 AM

Originally Posted by RainDrizzle07

Awwww...sis..will pm you..

nyway...I've been in the same situation before, pero its a bit different coz my ex loves to text and has a lot of textmate and eventually become his gf sa txt, pero its okey coz they are not from cebu then one day he acted so weird nalang, mao na diay to naka uyab na diay xa ug from cebu and iyaha jud gmeet, pagkahibalo nako.. I end up the relationship right there and then..pero he begged man and he will change daw..so ako xa napasaylo..

pero ako na xa g obserbahan..same raman japon xa.. mag chat & mag text and at that time fresh pa gud kaayo ang wound sa akoa, so mura jud ko ug praning like wla ko peace of mind, until one day I decide na I can't go in this kind of relationship anymore, na mag cge lang ko ug wonder ug naa nasad ba xa gmeet nga lain? kinsa napud kayha iyang ka txt? so mao to I end it up.

And didto nako na realize na in a way I did help him to be like that kay sa sobraan nako ka love nya, ako lang xa gpasagdaan and ghatag tanan maka happy nya, which is not good ^_^
kay ang iya jud g ingon nako nano na ingon ato daw mi kay "I spoiled him too much" WTF! murag unsa jung rasona.. dba?

mao btaw sis noh kadtong naay thread dnhi na unsa imong ideal bf or partner or I forgot sa title ang ako g ingon na "a male version of myself" ^_^ pero well we can't really find that version man cguro sa opposite ***..kay we are different in a way, naa man gani similarities pero naa jud uban na malahi...and relationship kay learning & growing man jud dba?

And yes sis, you are right in a way insecure imong bf sa imoha...and daghan xa ug insecurities mao sad to akong bf sauna...ingon ana sad xa ug style..then mabadtrip xa kay "why daw I don't get jealous and he feels na I don't love him enough"

Dapat pa gani he should be happy coz I am not the type of gf na who will always check on him, will prohibit him to do stuff with his friends, I even encourage him na go out with your friends do stuff na you are doing before we meet kay it is part of who you are na baya, and when he plays basketball with his friend I am there, mag cheer!! @_@

Then one day I realize nalang na... I don't want to be in this relationship, I mean after he cheat kay wla ko peace of mind and I realize lang sad jud na why do I stick with him na I know I will be able to find someone who can love me more...and the most important realization sis, kay I really need to love myself first then love myself more, and I don't need to compromise my happiness or stuff that makes me happy just to please someone ^_^

Mao na karon.. I am happy then the ex is always textin kay he misses me daw (wtf! naa na xa uyab nya mingaw daw japon xa nako,@_@)its either he wants to get laid or he regretted what he has done. ^_^

heheheh...i love reading it...

**RainDrizzle07** · 12-09-2009, 11:46 AM

Originally Posted by quiksilver22

heheheh...i love reading it...

ga balik2x nlang ka ug basa anah.. ^_^

OT:: Wla ka work?

**princes_star** · 12-09-2009, 11:54 AM

yeah its hard to forgive and even harder to forget.. i dont have the answer on how to live with it because every single day is still a struggle for me.. the pain sometimes is so hard that just the mere thought of getting up in the morning and facing another day is so hard.. but i think i'm getting better now in putting on a brave face and acting happy.. and maybe just maybe someday that would actually come true..

**tamse** · 12-09-2009, 12:06 PM

sauna kay katong kami pa sa ako x kay ang picture sa wallet kay iya pang x... imagine.. few days after i broke up with him.. di na nko ma take iyang pag compare ug ang pain... tapos karn after 4 yrs namo nga pag buwag he seems like wanna go back to me... nga di nman ko.. haha... if ever ill caught my bf (kung naa sad ko uyab) ill let him go wui.. i dont like being with the person nga ingon ana nga way klaro ang self... kay way klaro sad iyang feelings nmo..unsa nlng man na? ginamitay?

**heisenberg69** · 12-09-2009, 02:00 PM

Originally Posted by tamse

sauna kay katong kami pa sa ako x kay ang picture sa wallet kay iya pang x... imagine.. few days after i broke up with him.. di na nko ma take iyang pag compare ug ang pain... tapos karn after 4 yrs namo nga pag buwag he seems like wanna go back to me... nga di nman ko.. haha... if ever ill caught my bf (kung naa sad ko uyab) ill let him go wui.. i dont like being with the person nga ingon ana nga way klaro ang self... kay way klaro sad iyang feelings nmo..unsa nlng man na? ginamitay?

korek...tumpak...gamitay jud ang show...lolz

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