What more does he want from me?

[Blackjellybean27]

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I'm starting this thread for a friend... 'cause she's not an istoryan but she's got this problem with her boyfriend...

They met through chat and they're in a solid exclusive relationship right now. it's been a while and they're still together, almost a year in fact..
The thing is, the guy keeps on texting other girls and still chatting on irc. as for the texting thing, he's never really been able to explain to the girl y mag cge pa sya text2x or kinsa ka text nya. (Well, if you ask him daw he will reply just a friend.. which of course is what guys usually reply noh!).. as for the chat thing, ingon sya bored lng sya and he just wants to pass the time..)
Confusing man gud ang guy, 'cause he would tell her he loves her just the way she is, but for the girl naman she thinks he's still looking for something else...

Her questions are:
* If he really loves her, why does he keep on doing that?
* Does that mean that it's okay for the girl to chat and text other guys as well?
* What must she do for him to stop texting and chatting, aside from "banning" him from doing those things? she doesnt want to tell him to stop, because she wants him to stop on his own...

Please help, naglibog nako unsa e advice sa friend ko... k for me, i know the guy and i know he loves her. that's his only fault, flirt kaau...

p.s. my friend is not ugly, she's pretty.. just in case mu comment mo na basin ugly friend ko... she's also sweet, doesn't put much restrictions on the guy, mu selos gamay (pero not totally selosa jud...), she doesnt even make pakialam sa phone ng guy, she's caring and loving.. ana lang.. so she's always asking me, what more does he want from me? dira nako na confuse on what to say to her..
unsa ma say ninyo

[carbrill]

basn wa ra jud lingaw iya uyab... if nahan jud cya mo stop cya y di na lng nya ingnon nga di cya ganahan sa gipangbuhat nya... kay sa iyang itago2x iyang kalagot nya...

[Maikeru]

If I only knew the guy (your friend's bf) I might be able to provide a good advice. but since I don't I can only leave you with "let them talk about it". Let your friend open up. Because the only resolve I can think of is an honest conversation between them.

Regarding sa chat and tx, it is not always the case nga nagFlirt2x. But dako jud noon ang chances.

[anjo9778]

[john_yo]

dili naman na angay libogon maam. i gues she knows the answers to her question..... iya lang gi agi og pa libog2. hehehe

[Blackjellybean27]

basn wa ra jud lingaw iya uyab... if nahan jud cya mo stop cya y di na lng nya ingnon nga di cya ganahan sa gipangbuhat nya... kay sa iyang itago2x iyang kalagot nya...

She told him naman... gi vibrate mode nlang ng guy daw ang phone nya
unya she told caught him one time na nag chat pa, and the guy told her na d na sya mu chat daw, promise...
I used to chat as well, and it's very likely na you're going to find someone you like on chat. ok ra man if di ka mukuha ng number ng girl sa chat dba? unya if the guy gets the girl's number that only means na nahan sya makig meet right? or am i assuming too much?

[dKyOrt22]

chat addict mana ang laki ...

let them talk about it...
ipagawas najud sa girl nga dili jud xa ganahan sa gipangbuhat sa lalaki,
murag nasakitan najd na ang girl...
kay kung iya lang na i-lo-om2x iyang gibati..
madugay mo-surrender nana imung friend...

[KASAAC]

well I think dapat gi ila2x unta pag maayo sa imung friend ang guy before siya nakig relasyon...pero kay naa na naman jud, siguro makig close siya sa mga friends sa guy or family ba kaha...then pasagdan lang na niya iya uyab sige text or chat sa lain gud basin wala jud lingaw, masakpan rajud bitaw na kung naa jud ginaguhat na dili maayo...

[dekada73]

ana mn jd na sahay ky boring but agig respetar lang unta sa iya gf ky moundang na unta xa ug tx2x ky unsa pamn pulos sa iya gf f cge paxa chat2x ug tx2 sa lain? hmmm.. mura na nuon ug ga collect and select ang guy? tsk.. tsk..

[Blackjellybean27]

Thanks for your thoughts guys... at least I would know how to tell my friend how to deal with it.. coming from a guy's point of view naman...
it's just confusing k when she confronts the guy about it, she would ask him what do you want me to do?unsa d mo ganahan nako?
and the guy would always tell her na he loves her the way she is..
pero ana lng, nanu mu cge pa chat2x...
I have to give credit to the guy as well.. as far as i know, ig human work ng guy k derecho na sya uli sa girl.. unya the only time they're not together is when they're both at work... btw, they dont work at the same company.. so that's the only time na d cla magkita ng guy..
i hope lingaw lng ang gpangita ng guy.. nahadluk man gud ang girl na he might get tempted with girls on chat.. guys who chat, kahibaw jud mo sa mga girls on IRC dba?