Help: Ex mag-sigeg paramdam

[personalmgt]

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Hello there guys, as you can see, im a regular sa Computer Hardware forum and hardly visits this forum. But as a geek, I also have a wrecked love life.

Well let me put the scenario easily:

-Girlfriend breaks up with me last April 2008 because she thinks we're not having enough personal space. Pero wala siya mosulti na katong ok pa mi(seriously, i would gladly adjust), naa diay miy problem.
-Girlfriend now resides in Manila since June 2008.
-Distance doesn't matter.
-Since my birthday last December 18, nag-sige na siyag paramdam nako. I accepted her sorry and her peace treaty as I am not a guy who's too rude to neglect good old friends.
-Up to now, sige siyag paramdam nako through messages. Paramdam like "i missed you". Messages like this from her makes me nervous and full of guilt.

Now this is the problem, a week ago, she texted me na she misses me and if pwede daw I could add her in facebook and ym(because I wiped all my connections to her except for my cellphone number). At first, I thought things are going to go fine like I don't care about her anymore. I also happen to be a computer junkie, so online ko pirmi. It's not that hard not to notice what's she's up to at times. Pero I noticed something's wrong with my reactions, i feel a lot of guilt and nervousness when I see what she posts(no not forum) online. It also makes me wonder na since siya ang ni-buwag nako, why is she still making contact with me? I am entitled to live a day without worrying about her kay as you have figured out, siyay nakigbuwag nako. But why man ni?

PS: ex is my very first love.

I don't know what to do. I'm being nervous and I feel guilt at most times. I can't breathe. What's happening? What should I do? What do you think guys?

[ethzneuron]

1. Do you miss her?
2. Do you love her?
3. Do you hate her?

OT: the geek is having a problem on his heart.. if this is a computer issue, it would be easier..
mao sa ni ako ask kay taga-Computer Hardware man sad ko gud let's start troubleshooting!

[dKyOrt22]

1. Do you miss her?
2. Do you love her?
3. Do you hate her?

OT: the geek is having a problem on his heart.. if this is a computer issue, it would be easier..
mao sa ni ako ask kay taga-Computer Hardware man sad ko gud let's start troubleshooting!

bitaw... answer his questions... so we can answer your question "WHY?"

[beyee]

sakto si neuron TS, ask urself the q's mentioned ni neuron... u better talk with ur ex, mebe naa pa mo unresolved issues... para pod makapahungaw pod ka..

[personalmgt]

1. Miss her, not anymore I think. Kay gi-kumusta naman ko.

2. I'll be honest but I think I still do love her(this is counted at the very grain of a salt in me). I think the reason why I think sapoton ko is because magselos ko bisag wala na mi. I haven't asked her if naa na ba siyay boyfriend but hell if I care. If makabalo ko kung naa ba, will it do any benefit to me?

3. I hate her kay she dumped me when she's not telling me na naay problem. Another is that if she dumped me, nganong magsige man gyud siyag paramdam. Diba kitang mga bisaya, naa man tay saying na ang gisuka dili na kan-on dapat? kung ako ang suka, nganong gisige pa man ko ug kaon?

The very last reason why I hate her is that, she doesn't know how holy-mother-of-great it feels to get dumped. From what I know, people don't like the taste of their own bitter medicine, but they will need it.

Paeta sa, maayo kaayo ta sa mga computer pero fallout guy gyud kaayo ta sa gugma

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i guess your break up was a bad idea. the break up probably gave your ex-gf the space and time to think and feel how it is to be without you and realized that you're an important part of her life. break ups are sometimes not the end, sometimes it's a beginning of something new, something better. instead of thinking much about how you feel (guilt and nervousness), try to dig in a little deeper: are you still willing to take/accept her back?

[Drake24]

Sakto jud si ethzneuron....kung Computer pani...FORMATON lang ni nako oe para ka usa ra!!! Wagtang lage na tanan...hehehehe

For me, I think she still have feelings for you bro...
A girl who continuously texts you even she's the one who broke your heart may be still in love with you..Considering the fact that she is your first love and keeps making "paramdam" with you. She may want to rekindle the flame and wants you back....

The guilt your feeling right now maybe butterflies in your stomach.. You're confused bro, and you don't know what to do....or is it maybe the memories in your past that keeps haunting you.... (^ ^)

[beyee]

my ex was like that TS, he broke up wid me without any signs jud then after weeks, cya napod nag cge paramdam and same jud ta og reaction na nagwonder why magparamdam na sya mismo nibuwag...

i think naka realize na imo ex what she has lost big time.. so karon she's making up for all the crap she has given u in the past... trying to reconnect with u again is giving her a solace of the misery she must've felt when she dumped u...

so what's ur next plan/move? u can't be like this forever... wait, wala diay ka nicheck sa iya Fb if naa siya bf just to answer ur q lang gud...

[personalmgt]

You're confused bro, and you don't know what to do....or is it maybe the memories in your past that keeps haunting you.... (^ ^)

I think its the memories gyud. The breakup gave me alot of lessons, alot of trauma too. It only made me more conscious on the way I will love. For sure, the next time mogugma ko, dili unconditional. Conditional na gyud ko siguro(nazi omg).

I was talking to her the other day, we talked about things that could do better for my lovelife. But when our conversation got related sa among wrecked relationship and I was saying things that I should have done para modugay pa among relationship ato, she was like "oh my, you finally got what i meant to you and you finally understand the things i want you to understand *hugs*"

so what's ur next plan/move? u can't be like this forever... wait, wala diay ka nicheck sa iya Fb if naa siya bf just to answer ur q lang gud...

My next plan is to directly ask her why is she still doing all of this para makabalo ko unsay buhaton sunod. I don't care if magkadayon pa mig balik or dili. All I want is a life without worries.

If I ask her if naa ba siyay bf? Like I said in my previous post, will it do any benefit to me? If mo-ingon siyag yes, what will I do? The same goes if she says no.

[beyee]

If I ask her if naa ba siyay bf? Like I said in my previous post, will it do any benefit to me? If mo-ingon siyag yes, what will I do? The same goes if she says no.

you have a point TS.. much better u ask her and let her lay out all the cards in the table... sa ako lang ha, hinay hinay lang sya chika nimo at the same time checking if ur still emotional available.. and if ever she wants to work it out again, she's checking if u both are on the same page of getting back together... mebe mauwaw na sya ask nimo makigbalik k sya bya mismo nakigbuwag...

and wait, right after u talked dba, she got the impression u have finally learned something about realtionships, morag she was asking for that sign if u ever catch her drift about what she really wants in ur relationship... basta pag storya namo TS...