Too much complications..H-E-L-P me!!!!

[mataid]

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I am having problems with my marriage. I've been married for 2 years and 6 months now, no children. I am not happy anymore. There's no intimacy in our relationship anymore. No emotional attachment. Hubby is not sweet to me..I feel like I don't exist. He would go somewhere without my knowledge. He would only tell me later. If he wants me to do something for him, he wants me to do it right away. He wouldn't tell me that he loves me..wouldn't touch and kiss me or making lambing..unless I take the inititative. One night, I asked him why, he just said, coz it's not a "Man Thing". He's very inconsiderate. What?! Would you believe that? I see lots of couple whose husbands/bfs are so sweet with their wives/gf. Therefore, I lost interest on him..specially, on our marriage. I am giving up my marriage now.

And then, I met a very sweet guy. Actually, he's a friend (was ex-bf) of my friend...but she didn't love him coz she loves someone else. Anyway, I was his shoulder to cry on. He was really inlove with her..and he hasn't totally moved on yet. Now, he's planning to come here for a vacation. European diay sya na naa na sa US. He asked me if I can tour him around and be his company for the rest of his vacation. He didn't know that I am married. But thanks to my friend who told him about my shaky marriage. There's nothing really special between us. It's just that I really like him. My friend is letting him to get close to me despite of my situation. And vote pud ako friend sa ako for him. According to her, he's the ideal man for me..and not my lousy hubby. Pero karon, he stops talking to me. Maybe it's because he cannot accept my situation...?? But my friend told me that he asked for my number..but I never heard from him yet I am so excited to see him and spend time with him. I miss him.

If you people were in my shoe, what would you do?

[vahnhelsing]

complicated jud... lisora sad ani imo situation hatagan advice uy...
taysa, have you ever asked yourself y man ingon ana imo bana ron?
basin naay apan sa inyo kaminyoon... nimo? or niya?

[mataid]

Thanks Van for the reply.

I've thought about it before. As far as I am concern, wala ko nag kulang sa iyaha. I did (still doing) everything for him. Did my best to be a good wife. Pero wala ra japon sa iyaha. By the way, he was divorced with his ex-wife filipina pud.

[beyee]

i was told by my guy friends dat in order to give a spark in ur marriage, be a mistress to ur hubby as well... rekindle the "fun" times uv had in the past (learn the art of intimate massages for ur hubby, wear something eye-candy for him, treat him aphrodisiac food or research in the net of new ways to get ur hubby into bed like u said, at times u took the initiative to start it) coz mebe ur routine in ur marriage got too monotonous that being intimate has become a "chore" for ur hubby...

try dat first TS before plunging to some "platonic and harmless friendship"

if all else fails... why not consider a third party? meaning, counselling

[vahnhelsing]

okiz...huh, grabe ikaduha ka ug ugaling man.. unsa man sad ila gibulagan?
sa uyab pa mo sweet kayo mo or dili? dako man kaayo gud nga basis ug unsay kinaiya sa taw
sa dili pa uyab... nakutaw akong libog... is he a busy man? i think ang blema ani kay dili sya katahatag ug quality time sa imoha, labi na sad nga la moy anak..

[i-c-u-p]

Hey...It sounds like you are in the tweenties?....Reason?...Your thoughts are still immature...( dont be offended)

You have to understand that a marriage/relationship must have one common goal and purpose...
Have you consider jotting down yours before you commit?....If you did not, the way your partner treat you does not preempt for separation, worse making yourself to fall on the same crevices again....You are at your worse vulnerability....Instead of entertaining outside world...Being married is your world now...He is your world now...So far your thoughts and rationalization makes me believe that you dont know yourself that well, worse you commit and let this husband of yours get into your life suppose to be for- forever.

There are a lot of people/relationship pretty similar situation as yours, but that should not be your basis to make decisions and falling in love or out of love. Do not be confuse of what you see and hear in public about other relationships PDA.

Drop your fantasy and dreams of being in "lala land"...DO NOT EVEN consider going out with some else, no matter how you reason it out, its not the solution of your problem..it will just going to get worse.....

Talk to your husband in all honesty......like ALL HONESTY TO UTMOST SENSE.

[coolguyiam20]

ot:mgpungko lng ko oi.maminaw sa mga tambag sa mga banggiitan..mura dli ko angay motambag ani dah..
heheheh..kay dli ko k.imagine gud..hehehe..minaw lang ko ninu mga master..ehhehe

[mataid]

@ beyee: Thank you for the reply. I did this 'mistress' thingy to him. But it doesn't work. He dismissed by saying.."I know you're tired". Nakz, ako pay gi ingnan ana..I think it was his polite way to say NO. I even tried to let him watch some porno clips. He just fell asleep and was snoring. *sigh*

@vanhelsing: He told me na the reason na gabulag sila was that, ang babae kay nangabit. He took her to Australia..then after 2 years, ang girl was having another affair with her co-worker at the factory worker. He was sweet to e during uyab2 pa. Pero he's not showy..lalo naa mi sa public. Dili gali makig holding hands sa ako if man lakaw mi. Pasagdahan rako motabok sa dalan. He's a busy man kay naa man negosyo gamay..pero not so busy para mawal-an sya ug oras nako.

Do you think guys, I should resort to divorce?

[vahnhelsing]

ot:mgpungko lng ko oi.maminaw sa mga tambag sa mga banggiitan..mura dli ko angay motambag ani dah..
heheheh..kay dli ko k.imagine gud..hehehe..minaw lang ko ninu mga master..ehhehe

labi na kong naglibog ani cool este lester!!! hahaha!!!

@miss murag bati sad ug makigbulag sad ka dayon just for that reason... sama sa gipost sa isa kaistoryan mas maayo magistoyaanay mog tarong ug ngano ingon ana inyong sitwasyon..
lisod ug moresort dayon ka sa ingon ana nga decision... naa jud mga laki nga dili showy sama sad nga naay mga girls dha!!!! nga dli showy!!! heart to heart tok mo...
ayaw sa ug entertain ug lain nga guy until maresolve ni imong problema coz for sure you'll be adding more pain and problem to solve..

[coolguyiam20]

ah yano ra mn ang ingon og divorced..
mura ra mn og trial and error ana..dli na pinoy imong bana TS noh??
wa lang guro jud ka kasabot niya oi..mao na ang nkalisod basta dli prha nato gud kay maglisod ta og adjust jud..