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1.Be Quiet
“The greatest power is the power of silence, and the essential self is silent.”
Quietness in an atmosphere means there is the presence of quiet minds, and quiet minds are not only relaxed, they can concentrate easily and create more freely. Imagine you are in the library of your mind, browsing the accumulated wisdom on the shelves of your life – listen to the silence, be aware of the stillness. Ask any of the inner voices that may come to interrupt your attractiveness to please be quiet! A quiet mind permits you to listen to your heart. Now you can allow thoughts, ideas, images, and insights to emerge from the shadow of your subconscious on to the radiant screen of your mind. Unfortunately, the screen of our mind tends to be fully, occupied by re-runs of the past or projections of possible futures. All the while your heart is patiently waiting speak to you about wise and beautiful things but it cannot get through. The reason? Noise.We spend most of our lives either creating or consuming a noise called thoughts. The world out there has been getting noisier and noisier. Don’t get the wrong idea, the aim is not to shut out the world, try to avoid the sounds of our modern age, or even to stop thinking (at least at this stage). The aim is simply to increase volume of your own inner quietness to give yourself the chance to connect to your well-spring of inner power and hear what your heart has to say (sometimes called intuition). This is not an instant process. It takes a little practice. Here’s how.
Begin by speaking less throughout your average day. Do you have to say everything you say? No! So cut out what you don’t need to say. Then, after a few days, focus on saying what you do say more softly, and more slowly. When you do this you will begin to rediscover an inner rhythm, which is more like your natural rhythm. You will know it. You will begin to feel more comfortable and at ease with yourself and with others. When you do these three things – speak less, speak softly, and speak slowly – your mind will do the same in your conversation with yourself. You will notice how much calmer you are, and how much more energy you have at your own disposal. You will also begin to see both sharper and easier. It is where we find our true self, free of all mental pollution. It is where we find real peace and power. And when we have found that our inner peace and our inner power we cannot help but transmit it into our relationships and into the world. This is why silence is the language of the soul. This is why true love, which is also silent, is the language of the heart.
2.Let Go
“All suffering and sorrow have the same cause – attachment. Don’t become attached to anything.”
Just as the bird has to find the courage to let go of the branch in order to fly, so we also need to let go of our branches if we are to know the exhilaration of soaring to our highest potential. The branches we hold on to are our attachment on the inside – our beliefs, ideas, and memories. And then there are the outer attachments – people, possessions, positions, and privileges are a few. But as long as we hold on to any of them in our minds we will live in fears (of letting go and therefore loss or damage) and we will never be free.
Everything comes and eventually goes. All that you have now, all that is your life today, has come to you for you to use, for purposeful use, but not holding on to. All you have to do is remember two things:
1.)It is not possible for the soul, that’s you again, to possess anything.
2.)If you don’t let go, nothing new can show up.
Write down all your attachments – internal (beliefs, ideas, and memories) and the external (objects, people, places). Take one time at a time and ask yourself what would life be like without them, rehearse your life without them. They will still be there but you will no longer hold on so tightly and fear will be no more. Now you are learning the most valuable art of enlightenment schools – detachment.
Three things to remember:
1.)Don’t expect instant success. Don’t beat yourself up when you notice how attached you are to something. It takes time to heal the habits of a lifetime. The most common habit formed in everyone’s lifetime is to become attached and therefore dependent on something or someone for our happiness, peace, and contentment. This is what makes us all suffer dozens of times a day.
2.)Never lose sight of the results of learning detachment – freedom from fear in all its forms.
3.)Watch out for one of those paradoxes – the more you let go/release, the more people, opportunities, and ideas come to you!
*Change your relationship with that you are attached to from owner/possessor to trustee. And then, when whatever you are a trustee of (which is everything in your life right now) is relieved of your company, there will be no pain, no sorrow, only an easy release, accompanied by a natural acceptance and a quiet serenity.
3.Let be
“Interference is futile, it only results in absence!”
Most of us are so busy interfering in the lives of others, either in our minds or in our conversations, that we forget to interfere in our own life and consciously create it here and now. This is why many of us spend most of our lives trying to live someone else’s life. We are great fixers, and as we watch other we can hear ourselves attempting to sort the out in our own heads.
Why do we all fall into this trap?
Most of us are taught two fatal beliefs when we are young. One is that we can control others. The second belief is that others are responsible for how we feel.
So next time you find yourself in a conversation that begins to generate judgments of others, be aware and be quiet. Quietly retire from the topic and learn that the art of shifting focus. At first you will find this art quiet challenging especially in the company of people you know well. Shift focus to what? Try taking it inside instead of outside. Not with the aim of dumping your feelings or imposing your thoughts, but by sharing what you are learning from life and how you are enjoying the challenges of growing. You are learning, hanging and growing aren’t you? As you do this you will begin to recognize the moments when it is more appropriate to ask instead of tell, to inquire instead of impose, to listen instead of talk, to reflect instead of reinforce and in doing so, lead your conversational companion into the territory of themselves, so that they may also learn, change, and grow. See how subtle leadership can be!
*As you learn to “let be” you quickly realize the power in the art of acceptance. Everyone and everything is just as it is meant to be right now, at every moment. When you walk the path of compassion, you are demonstrating love in action and there is greater chance of healing.
4.Listen In
“Your inner tutor is always available to you.”
As human beings, we have one thing in common – we are all unique!. Each one of us is simply a being of consciousness with in a human form – everything else, including race, nationality, profession, belief system, or religion is created, learned and misused to generate our sense of identity. Consciousness, self and heart are synonymous. Your consciousness is your receptacle of truth and wisdom, which lies at the core of your heart, not your physical heart, but the heart of your consciousness. We innately know who we really are and what is truly right. However, over time, all our externally focused learning, experiencing and creating, sometimes called our conditioning leaves us disconnected from the voice of truth within.
Like most people, you may have a tendency to ignore this voice, sometimes deliberately drowning it out, especially if you know it will lead you away from what you think will give you pleasure, feed a dependency, or sustain an attachment. Every time you ignore it, suppress it, or drown it, you only hurt yourself, and eventually that pain will emerge as, explosive emotion, negative feelings, or dysfunctional behavior.
And so it’s time to heal and hear your still, small voice within. It’s time to learn how to love and respect what is sometimes referred to as your “inner child” – the pure, innocent, and unconditionally loving aspect within your being that has been neglected and ignored for too long. However, you will need to create a certain deep, inner quietness for the process of listening and healing to begin. Only when you create this quietness in your own mind can you begin to hear your inner teacher, so that you may receive some intuition. Only when you are ready to recognize and value the wisdom you carry at the core of your being will you “be quiet” turn your attention inwards and “listen in”. All you need to do is remember you are the listener and not the noise, you are the thinker, not the thoughts. You are the creator, the life – giver to your thoughts; you are not your thoughts. You are silent, your thoughts and feelings are the noise. The moment you separate yourself from your thoughts or feelings you instantly reconnect with your peace and, you will begin to hear the voice of your innate wisdom.
5.Accepts Everything
“Resist nothing because it only strengthens what you resist and prolong the struggle.”
Whatever you resist or push against simply persist and pushes back in equal measure. It seems to be one of those iron-clad laws within our energetic universe. When we decide to resist something or somebody, either mentally or physically, we only empower the object of our resistance, either in reality, or in our own minds. Mental and therefore emotional resistance, then becomes a habit. Actually, it’s only and always fear which lies behind all our resistant behaviors.
• If you want to disarm another, begin with acceptance.
• Of on the other hand, you want to enjoy the ability to influence people and situations, always start with acceptance.
• If you want to encourage and empower another to change, start with acceptance.
• If you want to resolve conflict in any relationship, begin with acceptance.
• If you are going to be a leader, always begin with acceptance.
Don’t make it conditional. Otherwise it’s just resistance disguised as acceptance you are still trying to control others and you are still scared.
Acceptance connects you with the energy of the person or the flow of the situations and when you connect and flow you will have maximum influence. But as soon as you resist you disconnect, you find yourself trying to control, and barriers go up immediately.
You are not your habits, but you tend to identify with your habits, sometimes saying to yourself that they are “my nature”, so that the moment you struggle and therefore resist a habit it’s as if you are trying to change even stronger, drains the power, weakens your ability to establish new patterns of positive thought and behavior.
The deepest secret of all inner change and healing is self-acceptance, not self-resistance, and certainly not self-rejection. So whatever feelings come, whatever emotions emerge, learn to accept them. That begins with becoming aware of them, simply observing them, acknowledging them, and then accepting them. The result is integration. In reality when you do this, you are really accepting yourself, and that is the beginning of loving yourself. And that is the beginning of healing.
• Steps in transforming our unwanted habits of thought and/or emotion;
1.Acceptance
2.Detachment – from the inner voice of self-criticisms and self-rejection
3.Focused application of knowledge and wisdom to create a new pattern of thought, feeling and behavior.
When you do recognize an unwanted or negative emotional state, be careful not to lose yourself in the emotion. That’s not acceptance, that’s indulgence and once again only reinforcing the habit of creating the emotion. Accept the emotions that you feel, detach yourself from them, then simply observe, the emotion will begin to dissolve. Emotion does in the light of detached observation. Don’t forget that true love is not an emotion! Love never dies, which is why there is no need to “make love!” Love is already made, it only awaits expression.
6.Know Yourself
“You cannot start living “for real” until you know who and what you are.”
The common language of the world is the language of labels. We think we are what the label says. And then, when the label is threatened or moved we get very upset. We find it hard to see the illusion and realize that the truth is we are not our nationality our gender, our race, our religion. But we are taught to think we are, and that’s extremely unenlightened. It also makes life an extremely painful journey.
No one teaches us the value of getting to know the self. As a famous Greek philosopher once said, “the unexamined life is not worth living” – which really means that self is seldom fully known. To know oneself is to be aware of one’s true identity (spirit), true nature (peace), and true purpose ( creating, giving, and receiving). When this is experienced and known, you will then begin to understand where emotions like anger, and depression, pain, and discomfort, emptiness and greed come from. You need to know how and why these feelings surface in your personality, otherwise misery will visit you frequently, there will be an absence of meaning and you will feel that your life has no value. When you drop all false identities you will begin to regain an awareness is much more of an experience, that it is an idea, which is why meditation is the best way to reach it.
Unless you do this, unless you consciously set out to experience what you truly are, behind all the labels and false, transient identities, (position, nationality, belief systems, etc.) you may simply repeat the most frequent living pattern in human life today, where almost every human being is born, lives, and dies without even knowing themselves.
Remember, how you see yourself completely influences how you see the world, what you think about the world and therefore what you give to the world is what you get back from the world. But you already know all that, don’t you? This is why identity is destiny.
7.Pass On
“Everything comes to pass it is for use, not possession, and passing everything on, enhances the value of the passed and the passer."
Awareness of flow means being that the river of life is flowing to us at every moment. Going with the flow means accepting whatever comes, and putting it to good use… before passing it on.
Being in the flow means allowing whatever comes to move on freely, without being influenced or holding on in any way. If you do not pass on whatever comes to you, then you are trying to block the flow of life and that’s when you feel pressure. Pressure is always self-inflicted. Every time you feel yourself to be under pressure, look at what you need to pass on to someone else. What do you need to release to let go, allow to move on? It could simply be the way you are thinking. If you’re thinking negatively, don’t pass it on to someone else but instead to your inner rubbish bin. Then incinerate the rubbish. When you do, you will discover a quality of contentment and a kind of surrender that is one of the deepest and most profound forms of relaxation.
The river is the perfect metaphor for life. We are all in the “river of life”, while each one of us is a river in our own right. What does the river do on its journey from mountain to ocean? What is its highest purpose? Its highest purpose is to nourish and sustain every living creature that it touches on its way to the ocean. The field, the flowers, the trees, the animals and of course, you and I – we are nourished but the river. It is the same with our own purpose in life. Why are you here? What are you here to do? To nourish and be nourished on your journey through life. The highest nourishment is wisdom and the highest wisdom in action is to give without wanting anything in return. To pass on whatever has come to us, to others, and to the world.
This is why work is not work. When you enter your place of work, you are not there to do a job, get the money and run! You are not there within a community of relationships to nourish and be nourished. To follow into and through the lives of others, to fulfill your highest purpose, if you choose. All our relationship are such opportunities. They are opportunities to serve, to give, and to pass on what we hold in the hands of our mind and heart. Simply be available for others, simply give more where you used to take, simply see everything and everyone in the river of life as your opportunity to nurture and nourish. Only then you will discover your life purpose. Only then will enthusiasm and energy begin to evade your heart. And only then will you find the greatest happiness, the truest love, and the deepest peace. See the difference it makes.