tried the first step which is self-observation, pero lisod man kaayo.
read somewhere that there are three fundamental components of the psyche:
1. ego
2. personality
3. consciousness
The first component is the subconscious, or egos, which are a multitude of inner states, drives, desires, and impulses, such as fear, anger, pride, laziness, and negativity.
The second component is the personality, which is basically a vehicle for the other parts and is formed by our upbringing and environment. It includes learned skills such as walking, talking, reading, and so forth.
The third component is the consciousness – the spiritual essence within. This is the part that experiences peace, happiness, love, and spiritual faculties of all kinds.
-mods, please delete if duplicated thread na ni, thanks-