Ikaw or imong family?

[babyred86]

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guyz..

unsa inyong buhaton kung inig graduate nmo nahan na daun ka mag minyo, have babies and stuffs like that..
pero ur parents kai taas kaau ug hopes na maynta mka tabang q nila and maybe paliton ug balik ang house and lot nga among g prenda sa sa akong tita.. then himo-an pa daw naq sila ug house. palit ug car and the like .. di mn gud q ka open up sa akong mama kai mauwaw q niya..

here's the thing.. i really want to get married namn gud.. my bf can support me and maybe back me up for a job cuz i really want to work in a cruise liner. bisan medical course aqng g kuha... its not my choice na mu kuha ug nursing pero aq lng g force aqng self to like it anyway..
i want to have a partner..

am i being selfish or are they?..

p.s i know its kinda childish.. pero its what i want mn gud...
what would be the best thing to do and say to them

[mandauesterlingsilver]

hi mam...sa akong lng tan-aw if imo e acquire ug balik inyong house nga gi prenda, him-an sila ug house and buying a car maybe it will take you 10 years to accomplish that. millions intawn ang magtukod ug house karon hasta ang car... i guess dili na fair imong parents. okay ra unta if ilang reason is mag support ka sa school sa imong younger siblings

[babyred86]

thanks mam ha..
unsa kha akong i ingon nla nuh..?

[m!nyanG]

dako ra guro ky nag pangandoy imon parents nmo mam,mao ng gpa skul jud ka nila pra mhatag nmo ang unsai wala nila....cguro try 2 xplain s imo parents n dili dayon2 na nmo mhatag,,try sd open about nahan nka ma married,ky naa pud ky imong needs gud,den mka help mn jpon ka nila bsag pamilyado naka,,if ok rapud s imo bf...

[T0xic]

kining decision making noh!? mao jud ni makapa migraine....

naa ko friend nga the same ug situation. pero kato sila rich na kaayo pero ambut nganu ganahan pa iyang mom nga mutabang iyang mga anak nila mag-asawa. dako kaayo ug balay, daghan sakyanan, sige ra bakasyon. ang reason sa mother kay since dako ilang gasto, dapat lang daw na in return mutabang sad ang mga anak. it may sound so way batasan or something, pero responsibility bya na sa parents sa ilang mga anak nga mu provide para ug ang mga anak na ang naa family, sila nsad ang mu provide para sa ilang kids. mao na as parents, while nag gasto para sa mga anak, bisan ginagmay, mag save sad para sa self kay di jud nato mapugos atong mga anak nga mu atiman nato. naa na na sila ilang own lives to take care of and nough problems to worry about, so di nata angay mag dugang sa problema sa atong mga anak. If sobra sobra ang income sa anak, then muhatag sya, well and good but if enough ra para sa pamilya niya especially if daghan anak, di gyud angay mamugos nila nga mangayo. give without expecting something in return.

[pink_baby_f]

tell them the truth...

they cant force you kay you've decided naman to get married... as they say the truth will set you free, even though it hurts... they have to accept the fact that you've grown up and can decide what you want sa imong life...

your not selfish, your parents are... peace ha... pero dili man sad na mao ang ilang gi buhat nimo if mao man galing na ang ilang gi pangau nimo...

i agree w/ toxic... sa ako lang no, parents jd dili na sila mu ingon na kay sila nag gasto nato angay nato i uli ang atong gi gasto nila... swerte nalang jd ang parents if mu lingi pa na balik ang imong anak nimo (i mean mu gasto sa parents)...

tell them the truth, ma accept ra na kadugayan ang imong decisiyon... peace...

[kiekim]

just let your partner and same time your parents undestand about your plans para dili ka matawag nga ingrata,sakit pud sa part sa imo pamilya nga i-abandon nimo sila right then and there miski cguro kinsa nga ginikanan nga nag-agi ug kalisod they have high hopes for their children that wld someday help them as soon they finish their schooling,its what you call gratitude/ being grateful for everything they have done for you if dili na jud ka mapugngan miski maminyo nka talk it out with your partner to be that you still want to help your family,a little help won't hurt that much perhaps not all that big plans of what they have dreamt of...HTH.

[joan_of_arc324]

pwede man nmu mabuhat ang duha, u can get married and at the same time support ur family, try to tlak to ur husband lng, but of course, kung mo support ka, make sure naa sad mabilin for urself and imo nasad family...

[T0xic]

^^yup pwede sad but....di lang sah sila mag baby sa iyang hubby. kay if naa na kids, lisod na. di ba when we become parents, ang atong priority is ato nang kids and usahay (most of the time gyud gani) makalimtan na nato atong self. makapalit rata ug para sa atong self if the kids are provided for na and if naa mabilin. so for a few years, make your mom and dad your "KIDS", murag in a way pasalamat sad para di sad ta matawag nga way batasan. hay motherrrrrrrr.....fatherrrrrr....you are confusing the TS!

[Raikage1]

for me family.......