Comparing kids

[Melody Blakely]

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my sis has a 1-year old girl and a i have a 2months old girl. Relatives inside the house keeps on comparing the 2 kids, Usually in favor sa 1-year old kid. we live in the same house.unsaon man nimo nga dili magka-conflict sa duha ka bata when they grow up?

[boski]

try to balance the attention.
ayaw ipakita ang favoritism kung naa man gani.
ky ineg dagko ana nila anha na manggawas ang insecurities
nya magkaproblema na noon ka.
pareha sa akong mga amigo. dli balance ang pagpangga sa ilang mama
ineg kahubog anha na manggawas ang ilang mga kalagot sa usag-usa

[necrotic freak]

pagka way buot pod ana nga mga relatives oi.

[Sol_Itaire]

you have to educate your relatives first. they should not be comparing children. ever

[xtn]

you have to educate your relatives first. they should not be comparing children. ever

agree. better if u tell them.

[hayden]

Tell them you don't want your children to grow insecure about themselves.

[Melody Blakely]

And to think the one comparing the kids is my mother, I hate the fact that she's comparing my 2-month old baby girl to my sister's 1 year old girl. In favor of my sister's 1 year old girl. Just like she compare me to my sister before.
Example: Kung akong i-take a bath akong baby akong sagulan ug warm water para dili kaayo bugnaw. Then ang baby girl sa akong sis nga 1 year old na karon,pag baby niya sa grippo lang nila ipatungod ga pweting bugnawa. Muana dayon akong mama about sa akong baby "ipatungod nalang na sa grippo imong baby, nawa na ag baby sa imong ate sauna ipatungod raman, walay warm water isagol"

I already told my mother nga "lahi-lahi man ang mga bata, dili man tanang bata pareha sa baby ni ate" still she keeps on comparing my baby girl with sister's 1 year old kid.

Ganahan jud siya nga kung unsay naagian sa baby sa akong sis, musunod sad akong baby. Just like kung unsay gi-agian sa akong sis before, para sa akong mother kelangan maagian jud nako.

But i want also my baby to have her own path

[ahyango]

at this stage wala pa effect ang comparison sa imo 2 month old baby, proactively speaking, so if it doesnt continue until she reaches pre school age she will be ok. anyway, talk to your mom ui.. tell her na napungot naka sa iyang style na sige mag buot buot..

[Melody Blakely]

at this stage wala pa effect ang comparison sa imo 2 month old baby, proactively speaking, so if it doesnt continue until she reaches pre school age she will be ok. anyway, talk to your mom ui.. tell her na napungot naka sa iyang style na sige mag buot buot..

You're right, but knowing my mom, she will not accept any critisms, or failure. Masuko nuon kung storyaan. Kinaraan nga style ba. Unlike the new generation parents nga maminaw sad sa sulti sa other members of the family. But my mom, she wants everything under her hands.

Maybe, we'll get out of the house beore my little one reaches 2 years old. But for now, i still don't know what to do with my mom comparing my baby with my sister's kid. hahai.

[ahyango]

well you dont really have to give in to her demands right?