Single mom na, Working far pa

[phoenixes]

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Can you share your ideas on how to brisge the gap between a child and a parent epecially for a mom that works far from the child making them only see each other once or twice a year for only 2 weeks max per visit?

[digitalsuperman]

its difficult. as a child who had a mom working very far(abroad) it was quite difficult. luckily i was around with people who are willing to guide me..

but as a child it was frustrating somewhat depressing when you need your mother and she isn't there.

when my mom comes back from australia adjustments have to be done because you live your life without any mom tell you what to do and your mother comes and controls everything. luckily i understand what she's trying to do and i compromised.

im only speaking on a child's perspective.

[d`monyita]

Four things : Computer, Fast internet, Webcam and a headset.

That is the best for now.

[phoenixes]

its difficult. as a child who had a mom working very far(abroad) it was quite difficult. luckily i was around with people who are willing to guide me..

but as a child it was frustrating somewhat depressing when you need your mother and she isn't there.

when my mom comes back from australia adjustments have to be done because you live your life without any mom tell you what to do and your mother comes and controls everything. luckily i understand what she's trying to do and i compromised.

im only speaking on a child's perspective.

Thanks sa imo gshare... I grew up too na wala ang parents pero karon ako na ang anak and I am trying to figure out unsaon na inig uli nako k lisod naa kaayo kun mu ingon ko "dili" k padung na luod ug hilak dayon tago sa kwarto sa lola or iyaan.

[HenryLiwanag]

Four things : Computer, Fast internet, Webcam and a headset.

That is the best for now.

totally agree

[scope_hunting]

its really very difficult.. maybe all you can do is maximize your time with your kid whenever your there in pinas during your vacation... and never fail to communicate if you're away.. buy a computer.. install YM, SKYPE etc.. they have free PC to PC calls bisan pila pa mo ka oras mahuman og storya..

[jannjan27]

lisod au na if ma lau ang mga bata sa parents and most especially sa mom.. sa akng experience akng mom ang nag work abroad ever since bata pa ko, pero swerte lang ko kay pinangga au ko akng lolo and lola mao na wla ra ko mangita sa akng mom kay sauna baya lisod au mo communicate sa mga nag work sa abroad.. but when ni dako nako mangita nako sa akng mom. especially kato "nagdalaga" nako. sumtyms man gud HIGPIT na au akng mga grandparents nako kay gibilin lagi ko sa akng mom nila in w/c nakasabot rasad ko kay buotan man sad ko nga bata.. hehehe pero naa jud times nga "feeling" nako nga lahi ra jud kung naa akng mom kay mka express ko sa akng gusto e sulti niya dili ko magpanagana niya kung naa ko gusto e ask niya nga advice or kanang naay mga event sa school nga naa ang mga parents usahay dili nako ganahan mo attend kay mauwaw man ko nga wla koy dala bsan akng mom or dad. hehehe dala man gyud..nya kato pa jud bata pa kaau ko like mga elementary days feeling nako gud kay akng mom ug dad akng lola ug lolo nya akng mom ug dad kay tita ug tito ra nako nga nag vacation sa amng house nya kung mo lakaw kang mami nya sungogon ko niya dili e uban dili ra sad ko pero kung akng lola ug lolo mo larga nya bilin ra ko sus! mura ko mamatay.. dili ko mo kaon cge ra hilak mao na naka realize akng mom nga layu na kaau mi ug gap.. mo hilak nlng gud cya kay mura rami sa akgn mom ug "kaila" dlili friends ha.. mura ra ug kaila kay dili man mi mag storya.. adto ra ko permi sa akng lolo ug lola, adto ko mo tapad ug slip sa akng lolol ug lola. mo hilak nlng gud akng mom kay kung adto ko slip akng room mo sulod man cya kay mo tapad mao na adto ko slip sa akng grandparents.. pero ni abot jud sa point nga naglalis mi sa akng mommy kay naa man gud 2 1 time nga iya ko gikasab-an kay nagtuman ko sa akng gusto nya murag nag tubag mi ba kay ako cya giingnan nga ayaw pagbuot kay wla man ka kahibalo unsa akng gibuhat kay wla ka dri... mao after ato kay cge na uli akng mom. mo uli cya sa akng bda ug xmas... uli na jud cya twice a year.. pero after ato nakasabot rami sa akng mom kay ni storya cya nga lisod jud kuno iya life didto pero gibuhat niya tanan just to give us a good life in phil bahala na maglisod cya... karn amo gibuhat kay every monday,wednesday ug sunday mag chat mi nya mag webcam mi permi nya tawagan sad nako cya permi.. nisamot mi ka close sa akng mom kato nag minyo nako.. everytime mo uli akng mom dri sa phil mag bonding jud mi permi, adto ko slip sa iyang room nya cge lang mi kuyog mag malling, shopping manga-on sa gawas, mag storya till dawn.. amo jud gisulit ang time nga nagkuyog mi.. mao na if padung nasad mo larga akng mom,, hilak 2 d max lagi.. tagbaw gud am2 akng hubby,, maygani kay understanding sad au akg bana.. hehehehe... crying baby man gud ko... karn ok na au mi akng mom.. basta communicate lang jud... huh! taas noh! cncya na ha..

[sexy_roxy]

its so difficult jud kng layo ang mom sa kids, . lahi ra jd kaau kng ngka uban mo. but dli mn jd na malikaya, mg depende mn pd na sa reason labi na kng nalayo ky nanginabuh. ang importante lng jd ana ky constant communication. good ky naa na internet krn nga dali ug sayun ra nga means sa communication. single mom mn pd ko, ma miss mn jd gani nko ako daughter kng mulakaw ko labi na jd ky work ko ug gabie nya dli nko xa mataparan ug tulog.

[joshbonz]

its' kind of what my sis and her daughter (my niece) has before. My sister was an OFW in KSA, and my niece is left with my mom. Though bridging the gap is I acknowledged, very hard indeed.. they can only hear each other thru cellphones.. BUT.. the price and sacrifice of earning money outweights more than being working here with a meager income. My sister knows this.. she even said if ari lang cya mag work.. maglisod jud mi ug meeting up our day to day needs.. though it pains her not being able to see my niece grow up, but mas mupili pa cya ana than makakita cya sa iyang anak nga magkutoy ang tiyan or cya mag ka utang utang sa mga silingan aron lang makakaon sa inadlaw adlaw...


just my take...

[hunt99]

pareho sa akong igso-on og iyang anak mas nindot na mag communicate mga every week through caling or pede sad webcam or headset plus pag emailing