dillemma

[chillaxkat]

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guys, naa ko i share, im in a state of dillemma jd right now, hope maka share mo ug insights and share ug experiences if naa moy same situation with mine. I know some people will have harsh comments but that's fine, kay we are all entitled to our opinion and everyone has their own values and morality..

last week, nagbalik mi sa akng bf,he went to our house to reconcile , we ate, watched movies, it was around 12 am na man, so sleep na mga tawo sa house, we decided to do it in my room. After a few minutes, naay ni gawas sa room sa ubos, mine is upstairs, it was my uncle , and he knew na naa akng bf sa akng room, now he wants me to get out of the house and look for another place, and he is not talking to me na, then ni ask ug sorry akong bf, even went to talk to him the following day, gusto sa akng uncle pakasal na mi, but ganahan ko na mo move out sa balai and rent a room, but my bf wants me to live with him, unya nalang daw mi pakasal.. dili pa baya mi dugay nagka relasyon, wala pa mo 1 year. do you think mo go ko sa idea to live with him in his family's place? or mag lahi ko on my own while continuing with my relationship with him. thanks kau ninyo

[chad_tukes]

i need some clarifications.

1. How old are you?
2. How old is the guy?
3. Why would your uncle want you to marry this guy?
4. Where are your parents? Are you living with them?
5. Did something happen inside the room? if yes, did you use protection?

you first have to answer these questions in order for us to give you a clear and definite answer.

[d`monyita]

move out. ka-afford man kaha ka?

[Dondon]

Follow your heart, hehe.

(maayo kaayo mu comment mura naa sa lugar haha)

[joshbonz]

IMHO lang sis..

if you're old enough to do it then you shouldnt be too concern with it.

Imong uncle kay na hurt lang jud iyang PRIDE, knowing that you have done it (w/ your bf) inside his house pa jud.. (old folks are conservatives by nature)

this is what is legally called ' Caught in the ACT'..

we have to understand pud nga your uncle being a parent at some point, would always have a fatherly feeling to their daughter or in your case, sa iyang niece. Seeing you w/ your bf in your room and in his house, makes him less uncomfortable thinking the indecent acts you did (inside your room), and hurts his fatherly ego, moreover his PRIDE.

i'm just wondering lang pud why your uncle's in your house? is he also living inside your house together w/ your parents? or is its your uncle's house jud and your just practically residing in his house? if that's the case, where's your parents by the way? are you from the city jud?

sakit jud mainsulto if mao na ang situation nga nakipuyo lang ka sa balay sa imong uncle and you're doing this insulting acts to him. If you can afford nalang.. why don't you move out and rent a room nalang (all by yourself pa, if you can afford it though).

if nag school paka then.. wala jd kay mahims.. just remember daghan na na juntis kay nagpadalos dalos lang sa ilang gibati.. then ultimately most guys when naa na ang problema.. mag likay likay na dayon..so asa man ka padulong balik? sa imong close relative lang gihapon (if you don't have your parents here sa city)

if nag work naka.. then take my advice, pag move out and rent a room or better a whole house nalang (if your salary can afford). You will have better peace of mind pa ug wala pay masakitan nga feelings and you can have all the privacy you want pa jud in case mu duaw balik imong bf sa imoha..

IMHO lang again..

[chillaxkat]

We are of legal age na, Ancestral house man ni xa, my uncle lives here, as well as our family, my mom ra, na iyang sister, kay wala na man koy dad. I want to move out but the question is if mo sugot ba ko sa suggestion sa akong bf na adto lang ko sa ilaha papuyoon , so in short, mag live in mi.. kay for him, mag minyo ra mi padulong. I am thinking of renting for myself man unta gud until he told me about it. until now, naa pa ko sa among house, dili pa managad nako ang mga tawo , kiwaw kaau.

[chad_tukes]

are you working?

[chillaxkat]

are you working?

yes ,we are both working na..

[Dondon]

IMHO, ayaw sah mo pag live in, unya na if sure ball na gyud.

[chad_tukes]

yes ,we are both working na..

if you're working then i'd say go for it. if tan-aw nimo makaya nimo makig live-in, and if love gyud ninyo ang usa'g usa, i don't see anything wrong with living together under one roof.

you are an adult already. you can literally do whatever you want to do. worried ka sa imong uncle? temporary rana. taronga lang ug storya imong uncle (or your mom), makasabot rana sila. they can't strangle you forever.

kung naglibog ka asa ka puyo, you have to consider the environment. you said dika tagdon sa inyoha? what if di pud ka tagdon sa ilaha? you know what i mean...

if you can afford to rent, then by all means, go ahead and rent. mas better if mag rent lang mo kaysa you live with his relatives/parents (kana kung ma afford ninyo).