Warning:The following topic is all about stalkers, let me remind you that the one who post this, yeah thats me Graphicare, is not a stalker himself hehehehee.....
Dr. J. Reid Meloy, author of Violent Attachments and editor of The Psychology of Stalking, is an expert on stalking behavior. Pathological attachments, he says, most often occur in males and generally start in the fourth decade of their lives. It follows a fairly predictable progression:
1) After initial contact, the stalker develops feelings like infatuation, and therefore places the love object on a pedestal.
2) The stalker then begins to approach the object. It might take a while, but once contact is made, the stalker's behavior sets him up for rejection.
3) Rejection triggers the delusion through which the stalker projects his own feelings onto the object: She loves me, too.
4) The stalker also develops intense anger to mask his shame, which fuels the obsessive pursuit of the object. He now wants to control through harassment or injury.
5) The stalker must restore his narcissistic fantasy.
6) Violence is most likely to occur when the love object is devalued, as through an imagined betrayal.
Stalkers appear to come in three basic varieties, with a perverse twist on stalking that adds a fourth important category:
* Simple obsessional
The most common form is male with a female with whom he was once sexually intimate.
* Love obsessional
A love-obsessed stalker tends to idealize a celebrity or someone he has seen from afar and he develops an unrealistic belief that the target person will agree to a relationship.
* Erotomania
Someone suffering from this more extreme obsession believes that the victim loves him or her.
* False victimization
Claiming harassment and stalking when none exists, this behavior is usually carried on by people with histrionic personality disorders.
Another method of categorizing stalkers comes from the team who wrote the FBI's Crime Classification Manual:
*Non-domestic stalker, who has no personal relationship with the victim
*Organized (based in a calculated, controlled aggression)
*Delusional (based in a fixation like erotomania)
*Domestic stalker, who has had a prior relationship with the victim and feels motivated to continue the relationship; this constitutes around 60 percent of stalkers and the aggression often culminates in violence.
Stalkers tend to be unemployed or underemployed, but are smarter than other criminals. They often have a history of failed intimate relationships. They tend to devalue their victims and to sexualize them. They also idealize certain people, minimize what they are doing to resist, project onto people motives and actions that have no basis in truth, and rationalize that the target person deserves to be harassed and violated.
While many stalkers view their actions within a delusional framework and therefore see no need to get help, a few do actually approach professionals. One case resulted in a landmark decision that shifted certain responsibilities onto the shoulders of therapists.
Content taken from the book entitled - The Psychology of Stalking and report studies from the FBI Crime Manual.
All About Stalkers!!!
Originally Posted by xidor
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