a bleeding heart ---> medyo taas ni...

[Nymph]

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what if u're in love with your boyfriend...? and he says that he loves you, too. whenever u're together, u're so right for each other... you have common interests, laugh at the same things, the two of u are more or less at the same brain wavelength, you ask each other what the other person wants to eat or where to go to and decide on that, you support each other on your dreams and goals, you comfort each other during hard times, and the two of you feel so right in bed you have the occasional arguments... but always manage to patch things up.

but what if the girl is a romantic and the guy is not? and the girl, in nature, wants... needs... to feel pampered and precious. she loves her boyfriend. she accepts him for who he is... that he isn't a romantic. she loves him... that's why she's stayed with him. but what if deep inside, the girl needs romance? and everytime she sees another girl whose guy gives her flowers and cards and poems and plans heart-stopping dates, the girl feels the sharp tug in her heart even more. romance is something the guy can't give... what then?

what if the guy isn't very good at long-distance communication? the girl (being the romantic person that she is) sends him e-cards, frequent daily emails, etc... but the guy, at best, only sends her an email once a day... none during the weekend. and sometimes, no email at all in one day. but the girl knows how easy it is for him to email her... considering that he works in front of a computer with internet access all day. granted that the guy says he's busy, everytime the girl checks her email... reads "You have 0 unread messages."... her heart stops and bleeds. the girl then turns to her friends for support and draws strength from them... even if only through email because the girl is currently in another country, away from everybody she knows. what if the girl thinks,"my friends email me and continuously provide support and encouragement... but the man i love sometimes can't even take the time to send one email in a day". the girl will be going back to the Philippines soon. but disapppointment has been her companion... and she isn't sure how to handle the relationship when she gets back... but she knows she loves him. she loves him... yet loving him causes her pain...

... and so her heart bleeds again...

... what then?

[SpW_Clear]

i remember my lovestory... it was exactly the same with yours....

try to talk to him about this... maybe he doesn't know that you're hurting... maybe for him it's just okay... try to let him know your feelings.... everything that is inside, pour it out!

now wen things still don't work, then give it a quit... but please be careful of whatever decision that you may have. it's very difficult to go on with life having regrets!

good luck ,dear!

[Nymph]

hmmm... i've told him already. but as the case may be, he had a point when he said that it's who he is. i mean, i have my bad points too... and he doesn't complain (he didn't tell me that, it's just my opinion). sigh... do i just need to adjust? it would mean then that i have to just let romanticism go, huh? i've already done a lot of adjusting... sometimes i want to tell him that maybe he should be the one to adjust now i know... selfish of me to ask him that.

if u don't mind me asking, what happened with your lovestory? did it work well in the end...?

thanks for the well wishes

[twalalyn]

hahay!ako pud eng-ana ako na feel in some instance when i see someone being romantic nga maka ana ko nga maynta eng-ana-on sad ta ko sa ako bf oy nga maka feel tag kilig to the bones bsag panagsa bah labi na kanang daghan kay tag problema a2bangon...maybe i should try talking to him pud & open up....luoran sad bya kay ko oy nga mura ko usahay mo expect nga he would do something kay naay special occassion nya wala diay cyay gibuhat.

[crinkle]

it's similar to mine... i've learned to stick with him for a while, though but in the end, i had to let go...

you may be "on the same brain wavelength", but it doesn't mean you have the seem needs or the same priorities in life... you may even have different levels of maturity...

i suggest that you ponder on things. if you're really sure he loves you, go on with it... but if you feel that you really need that pampering and a guy who'd be little more affectionate, i guess it's time to search for greener pastures.

[crinkle]

it's similar to mine... i've learned to stick with him for a while, though but in the end, i had to let go...

you may be "on the same brain wavelength", but it doesn't mean you have the seem needs or the same priorities in life... you may even have different levels of maturity...

i suggest that you ponder on things. if you're really sure he loves you, go on with it... but if you feel that you really need that pampering and a guy who'd be little more affectionate, i guess it's time to search for greener pastures.

[Nymph]

twalalyn> hehehe pareha diay ta nga luoran... mu-expect nga naa buhatun. like for example kanang mga monthsary ba kaha. hahayyy... na-anad naman lang ko nga wla siya kilig-to-the-bones nga buhatun. ako na la'y mag-plano2x para namo... at least makilig pud ko sa akong gibuhat hehe good luck sa pagstorya ninyo about ana! balita-i unya ko kung unsa

crinkle> you're definitely right that the 2 of us don't have the same maturity level. maybe karn, i can still handle it... pero i guess, pareha pud nimo, maybe i'll have to learn to let go. i mean, a girl can only take so much pain... although ma-antos pa karn, dili man ta superwomen nga makaya tanan pain, right?

[SpW_Clear]

hmmm... i've told him already. but as the case may be, he had a point when he said that it's who he is. i mean, i have my bad points too... and he doesn't complain (he didn't tell me that, it's just my opinion). sigh... do i just need to adjust? it would mean then that i have to just let romanticism go, huh? i've already done a lot of adjusting... sometimes i want to tell him that maybe he should be the one to adjust now i know... selfish of me to ask him that.

if u don't mind me asking, what happened with your lovestory? did it work well in the end...?

thanks for the well wishes

Sad to say, it didn't.... he broke up with me... i didn't insist... just let him go coz i thought it's for the best... i thought it will stop all the pain... but i was wrong... it's been 2 years already and it still hurts... done everything to move on but it's hard... maybe i'd been so selfish too, i just didn't notice it...

in your case, try to work things out... try to accept him na lang... the greatest lesson i've learned is to love without expecting something in return... so love him the way he is.. just be observant lang with his feelings for you...

[Nymph]

this is weird... my current boyfriend and broke up more than 2years ago. if not for the fact that the 2 of us got back together again this year, i'd say that our love stories are the same...

he broke up with me... i suffered for 2years... i wanted him to be romantic... i didn't notice that i did many wrong things. creepy that they're the same with urs, huh...? but i have to admit, it makes me feel better that i share the same pain with other girls out there. so, you see... i understand the pain that you're going through right now... and i won't say that it's easy because it isn't.

the best advice that i can give u right now is... be with friends and family. surround yourself with their love and attention. do things for them that u would have done for ur ex. furthermore, do things for yourself... your career, your studies, your hobbies... anything that u love doing. i know that the pain would still be there... that u'll still miss him... but it's the best we can do being the soft-hearted, love-struck people that we are. but u'll be surprised at all the things u missed before. and know that u're not alone in this, girl.

wow... this is some girl talk we are having here... and thanks for the advice. deep inside, i knew they were the right things to do... but i just needed a wake-up call again... so thanks.

for anyone there pa nga ganahan mu-share sa ila love stories, share na ta na. nobody can give u unbiased advices or opinions like strangers can and if naa pud mo advices, problematic girls like us would appreciate them. besides, we all need the encouragement we can get.

[tolstoi]

dump him..get a lyf