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    Default -= Why it Pays to Play Hard to Get!! =-


    According to Bertrand Russell, "Human nature
    is constructed so that it gives affection most
    readily to those who seem to demand it the least."

    This being the case "and I assure you it is" then
    what hope can any normal human being who
    intensely craves love and affection have of
    winning the one they want?

    Won't their very need for the other person be
    the thing that turns the one they want away
    from them?

    The answer is "NO!" It is not the need for love,
    which all people inherently feel which drives
    others away from them, but it is their
    indiscretion about exhibiting that need.


    What we need to learn is to make a distinction
    in our lives between the way we feel and the
    way we act! Or, in other words, we must learn
    self-control.

    Not that we should suppress our emotions to
    the degree that we deny to ourselves what we
    are feeling. No, no indeed.

    We should always realize and be honest with
    ourselves what we are feeling inside.
    But we must be discerning, discreet and wise
    about the things we know about ourselves,
    which we share with others.

    Just because you find yourself desperately
    wanting someone, for example, doesn't mean
    you should act desperate. But neither does it
    mean you should try to deny the feeling in
    yourself.
    So you feel desperate! So what?! There's no
    shame in that. Join the club. Millions of
    wonderful, great, fantastic people who have
    lived long before you have felt this way. There's
    nothing wrong with wanting.

    But what I warn you against is not trying to
    control the way you talk about it to others. You
    see, a dog should wag his tail, not have the tail
    wag the dog. And YOU are the one who
    ultimately controls your behavior, your
    emotions should not be doing that.

    Remember when you were small and felt
    unhappy and upset about not getting your way?
    What did most of us do?

    We would lie down on the floor and act out our
    emotions by beating our fists on the floor and
    kicking wildly. But when we got older we
    learned to put away childish behaviors and hold
    back, except in the area of romance.

    What I'm saying is that we need to be mature in
    this area as well.

    "But," someone cries out, "isn't it dishonest to
    not express what you feel?"

    "No," I answer. "It's a simple matter of growing
    up."

    The mature thing to do is to learn to distinguish
    between feelings and actions. Feel intently,
    deeply and honestly. But keep your behavior in
    check.

    That person who keeps his behavior separate
    from his feeling ultimately commands the most
    respect, and love from others.

    Remember how, as a child, you were instructed
    that if a big dog came rushing up to you, you
    must do your best not to show any fear?

    The reason was that, if you show fear, it
    encourages the dog to bite you. Well, sadly, the
    same thing applies in human relationships.

    If you tip your hand too soon that you're feeling
    vulnerable to the other person, then it actually
    invites them to emotionally burn you in some
    way. So act as brave as you can and keep
    your feelings to yourself.

    The key thing to learn from Bertrand Russell's
    statement is that love is given to those who
    seem to least demand it.

    Because the truth is we all need
    love "desperately" but we can overcome the
    built-in disadvantage by learning how to act.



    courtesy of Rocknolds

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    Default -= Why it Pays to Play Hard to Get!! =-

    If you tip your hand too soon that you're feeling vulnerable to the other person, then it actually invites them to emotionally burn you in some way.

    i thnk i've told u that already. russel is more articulate though. heheh. unya dong... does this mean u agree with what u posted? undang nag dayok ha. ayaw na palabi emot emot :P

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    lagi lagi!!! sorry na gud :P

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    the harder the better.. but you have to know the limit or the tables might turn on you

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    ^^^ heheh btaw basin matuwang nya ka sa tantong pa bug-at nimo

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    it pays to wait...

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    Default -= Why it Pays to Play Hard to Get!! =-

    lahi sad na ang wait lahi sad na ang pa hard to get ... palugit kaai

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    Default -= Why it Pays to Play Hard to Get!! =-

    be paitent...

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    Default -= Why it Pays to Play Hard to Get!! =-

    OK mn ang p'lugit, cos dha nmu makita if love dyud ka sa guy, if he gives up easily then he dusn love me dyud.. simple as that. ye.. it pays to wait..

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    Default -= Why it Pays to Play Hard to Get!! =-

    why play hard to get? honesty is still the best policy... i don't see the point of pakipot if you really like the person...go for it...get to know them...and see if you want to pursue and take your relationship further or not...it's the only way...

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