How can I tell to him that I already had a baby? I need ur advise guyz (UPDATES)

[joshbonz]

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Fyi, we have a date tonight and he'll going to take me out for a dinner.. shall I say it to him tonight? I'm afraid that our date will be screwed just for the sake that I have a baby.... Is it the right time?

you alone can answer that one sis.. read between the lines and look for tell tale signs...

I assume this date tonight is not the first date that you go out with... right? just listen and observe.. if you think he is in a jovial mood to open up any conversation.. then just go along with it.... later on.. if your conversation turns up into serious matters.. you may try to inject something to him to set the mood in the perspective manner.

If by chance lang on this date.. he is not kind of open to any topics that you might discuss later on... Then don't tell it...

A date is a date.. every guy (including me) is expecting to have a very wonderful night to spend with the girl he love... observe carefully his actions or his moods.. that's where you can find the answer if this is the right time or not..

Break it to him gently lang.. don't drop the bomb right then and there... like i've said... if you can control and guide your conversations with this date.. then at the end.. you can condition his mind to accept whatever you want to tell him later on.. (as the night goes thru)


Good luck!

[monrose29]

dai sheila..

kong tino-oray gyud na iyang gugma nimo. ang kanang pag tug-an nimo niya sa imong tinuod nga pagkatawo nga aduna kana diay baby.. ma-o nay dakong sukdanan kong unsa dako iyang gugma nmo...

you like it or not mo abot gyud mo diha nga point.. ayaw pa abota nga sa lain nga tawo pa sya makahibaw.. kanang ikaw gyud ang mag sulti niya sheila... if u love him.. you surrender your self to him, kanang wala kay gi tago.. ma o nay true love... and true love understand the situation, think of the brighter side..

unsa-on mana nmo kong love ka niya unya deli sya maka dawat sa imong baby? masakitan na ang dapat masakitan.. we been through many heart-ache many times, ma-o nay nag pa lig-on nato kong wala tay mga problem deli ta kama-o mo survive...

go girl.. ayaw na padugaya... as what i said basin sa lain tawo sya maka hibaw. ana imong sitwasyon. basin mag think sya nga imo sya gi ilad.. be honest.. to him.. and m sure he will be honest with you pod kong tino-od gyud na iyang gugma nmo...

[cmcanch]

u shud have told ur bf b4 u got involved wid him, but since manag-uyab na mo dis is d ryt time u shud tell him, dont wait na cya makadiscover. first reaction ana niya is he will feel betrayed jud...jaz giv him tym to decide dont pressure him kay samot ma-irritate cya. ma-affected jud ego ana ur bf...but f he loves u dat much, he will accept d situation, f he doesn't den u must accept his decision maskin sakit, ing-ana man jud na f mo-venture ka ug love. Lisod man gud dire sa ato kay dili pa kaau madawat sa mga boys na ng-kaanak u sa lain, but naa pud uban na maka-accept ra...if u really luv him jaz pray 2 God na ma-accept ra unta niya, remember dis always having a child doesn't make u a lesser person...things happen wid a reason, f he cant accept den dont force urclf sa iya, maybe he's not d one jaz wait 4 d luv dat is set 4 u....

[monrose29]

^^^ correct... ka dyan ate...

ma-o jud neh mga sakit sa uban pinoy kong na-a na gali baby. ma discourage dayon... pasalamat ko nga deli ko pinoy.....

[SheilaB]

[color=navy]By your words, he seems to be a great guy but consider this please, to have such a guy to be attracted and fall for you shows that you're also a very wonderful person as well, SheilaB

Anyway, if in the sad event... he holds it against you that you have a child then it just seems to me that it shows he's not as great as you make him appear to be.

Before your date tonight, pray for the best but expect the worst. Pray to God for strength, courage, wisdom-- ask God's Help in this matter. Pray for the best.

God bless.

Eventhough I don't know him so well but the way he act to me for the past 3 weeks I have noticed that he is really a great guy, of which the kind of guy that the girl who is wishing for.

[joshbonz]

nobody is great unless he is proven great..

don't mix your thinking w/ your love for him.. learn to set them apart...

that's all.

[SheilaB]

you alone can answer that one sis.. read between the lines and look for tell tale signs...

I assume this date tonight is not the first date that you go out with... right? just listen and observe.. if you think he is in a jovial mood to open up any conversation.. then just go along with it.... later on.. if your conversation turns up into serious matters.. you may try to inject something to him to set the mood in the perspective manner.

If by chance lang on this date.. he is not kind of open to any topics that you might discuss later on... Then don't tell it...

A date is a date.. every guy (including me) is expecting to have a very wonderful night to spend with the girl he love... observe carefully his actions or his moods.. that's where you can find the answer if this is the right time or not..

Break it to him gently lang.. don't drop the bomb right then and there... like i've said... if you can control and guide your conversations with this date.. then at the end.. you can condition his mind to accept whatever you want to tell him later on.. (as the night goes thru)


Good luck!

Thanks for the advise

dai sheila..

kong tino-oray gyud na iyang gugma nimo. ang kanang pag tug-an nimo niya sa imong tinuod nga pagkatawo nga aduna kana diay baby.. ma-o nay dakong sukdanan kong unsa dako iyang gugma nmo...

you like it or not mo abot gyud mo diha nga point.. ayaw pa abota nga sa lain nga tawo pa sya makahibaw.. kanang ikaw gyud ang mag sulti niya sheila... if u love him.. you surrender your self to him, kanang wala kay gi tago.. ma o nay true love... and true love understand the situation, think of the brighter side..

unsa-on mana nmo kong love ka niya unya deli sya maka dawat sa imong baby? masakitan na ang dapat masakitan.. we been through many heart-ache many times, ma-o nay nag pa lig-on nato kong wala tay mga problem deli ta kama-o mo survive...

go girl.. ayaw na padugaya... as what i said basin sa lain tawo sya maka hibaw. ana imong sitwasyon. basin mag think sya nga imo sya gi ilad.. be honest.. to him.. and m sure he will be honest with you pod kong tino-od gyud na iyang gugma nmo...

Thanks for the advise guyz... i will remember all with what you've said.... I'm very thankful that I'm here... I love this site a lot!

[rudjard]

dai sheila tell him straight i believe nga ud overcome heartaches from ur past; mas aau cgro if u looked back what happened to u and ur formers then ask urself "why it didn't workout"

better cgro if dili dayon ka magdali-dali then put ur daughter first before u make sudden decisions nga at the end will only end up where u started.

by telling this guy who u really are doesn't make less as a person but rather giving both urself and this guy a chance to choose what is right. kng mausab iyang pagtan.aw nimo then i believe he really isnt' into u but rather he jst want something else from u.

by accepting the truth u not only make urself bck on track but also having security that in the end would lead u to happiness. u see u never have lost rather its a win-win for u.

good luck dai!

[SheilaB]

u shud have told ur bf b4 u got involved wid him, but since manag-uyab na mo dis is d ryt time u shud tell him, dont wait na cya makadiscover. first reaction ana niya is he will feel betrayed jud...jaz giv him tym to decide dont pressure him kay samot ma-irritate cya. ma-affected jud ego ana ur bf...but f he loves u dat much, he will accept d situation, f he doesn't den u must accept his decision maskin sakit, ing-ana man jud na f mo-venture ka ug love. Lisod man gud dire sa ato kay dili pa kaau madawat sa mga boys na ng-kaanak u sa lain, but naa pud uban na maka-accept ra...if u really luv him jaz pray 2 God na ma-accept ra unta niya, remember dis always having a child doesn't make u a lesser person...things happen wid a reason, f he cant accept den dont force urclf sa iya, maybe he's not d one jaz wait 4 d luv dat is set 4 u....

Thanks for remembering me sis... 'coz sometimes I felt like I'm a stupid and nobody cares for me. I felt so envy with the other girls 'coz they don't have a problem when it comes to singleness... But I'm so thankful that God give me a gift which is my baby... an angel sent from heaven.

[ic3s]

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