why MEN go ASTRAY or having GF or MISTRESS

[edgeowns]

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Both sexes do. But I admit, we men do it more. Why? Cuz men are idiots and selfish!

[512mvgu1]

man is polygamous in nature. mao na. heheh ma ibog gani ko minyo.

[Serene]

Double-standards? Yeah right! And whose fault is that?! Im sorry but im not stupid enough to smack myself on my head just for this. I hope we can all share our opinions here safely...and that means people should not use their power (being a site keeper) if they don't like what they read or if someone have guts to challenge their beliefs.

I still stand by with what i wrote here. If someone else is not satisfied with their partner, dump them. That way, no one will cheat.

[zer0_cooL]

man is polygamous in nature. mao na. heheh ma ibog gani ko minyo.

fallacy! you're generalizing it...

just because one or two did it mo ingon na dayon ka na men are polygamous by nature?!? how about those others who are not doing it?!? madala sa kahig tungod ana..

[b|tcH_g0dd3sS]

Double-standards? Yeah right! And whose fault is that?! Im sorry but im not stupid enough to smack myself on my head just for this. I hope we can all share our opinions here safely...and that means people should not use their power (being a site keeper) if they don't like what they read or if someone have guts to challenge their beliefs.

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Did a SITE KEEPER try to abuse his/her power in this particular thread? Please let us know because we are concerned and we are bound by rules too.

[joshbonz]

not all men are polygamous.. only some lang..

Satisfaction..and the proper harmony in life.. when you are not seeking questions or answers to your present relationship.. when you have other priorities in life to not always think about getting a mistress or another gf...

on the context of the family life

there are men as well as women who are family oriented... seeking pleasures not only thru their wives but also to their children.. like ive said.. when you come to the point of your life that you stop looking for answers already and just concentrate more on what you have already.. then you will always say to your partner that your thankful that he/she had come to your life, your wife/husband will not be just what they are to you, they will be your friend, a loving mother/father of your children, and a good husband/wife to support you all the way..

When you put God as the center of your family life.. nobody can divert you from loving your family more...


On the context of a bf/gf... it depends lang sa gravity sa inyong love ug commitment to each other... if both of you are committed and live lovingly.. always sharing the ups and downs of your relationship, then i think no 3rdparty will ever come your way.. unless one of you will lose that grip (that binds your relationship) and seek solace and comfort in another person's arms.. love, care, communication and awareness is always the key to bring both of you back in each others arms

[vern]

I am abusing my power by telling the honest and simple truth that ... oh yeah women aren't any different than men that you make yourself and other women out to be. If you truly believe that, you live in your own delusional world where dolphins swim in the skies and pink bunnies talk. If you feel abused by the truth, please jump off a cliff. Sounds to me like you got played, all I can tell you is ... don't hate the playa, hate the game.

[spoil]

Why don't we stop judging each other and try to understand better why things are as they are.
For example ngano more often mag cheat ang guys than girls? simple lang, culture.
Women who cheat will be persecuted more than men who do, mga chismis pa lang pilde na ang baye, thus giving the women less motivation for doing the "wrong thing". Also by culture, the more women guys have, the more "macho" they are. But if we reverse it, the more men a girl has, the more "burikat" she is. get the picture?
So as a mechanism, girls will generalise all guys for being polygamous because of this imbalance in our culture. We can't even blame them, we guys have the advantage anyway (or do we?)

Let me ask you girls. For example, if you were in a LONG-TIME (as in years ang inihap) relationship which is not exactly your "ideal" but sort of the "almost pwede na" kind. Then you meet this guy, who is soooo "match made in heaven" for you. He likes the same stuff you do, enjoy the same conversations and has the looks nga makatagak ug p@nty, as you girls say. simply put "soulmate" kumbaga. To top it all, he genuinely feels the same for you, WOW!.. What do you do?

Now thats a dilemna. This situation happens to some if not most guys who are in a "pwede na" relationship. For options, we could always leave our BF/GF for a good enough reason, but what if there's none exept to "replace" Him/her. Additionally, this also includes considering what will happen to the him/her after you left.

Sa kultura natin, its easy for a girl to leave, because guys are stronger (supposedly) and it is always easier to find an alibi for leaving the guy (barkada, bisyo, etc). But for the guy to leave the girl, labi na for another girl? We all know that we can't just say "I'm in love with another and I have to break up with you", for a lot of obvious reasons.
NOTE: Only a handful of guys can actually do it without caring for what happens to the current GF.

For married ones, c'mon. There's never a good reason to break up a family so stay out of this, ingon pa "ngano ni enter", (anyway I cant blame you kay mangabit nalang jud ang inyong ONLY resort).

In some cases for us guys, the new girl does not know about the number 1 girl, unless she found out and is ok with being number 2 (in the mean time). Basta love makabuang jud na, bisan unsaon. I think this could happen inversely too, more or less.

As far as I know, the obvious SOLUTION IS, just be with the "love of your life" secretly, wait till you get caught and accept the "breakup" the GF initiates. At least, it wont be as hard on both of you any other way.
Hence the term pangabit usa. (kung minyo na, pangabit nalang, hahahaha)

Anyway, I'm just curious, If we actually had a BALANCED (meaning: Girls are not persecuted, but are similarly commended, for enjoying many men, and guys can be seen as fragile and weak as women) society, what would you girls do in a similar situation?
Please take note, I know a handful of girls who've actually DONE it, so cut the pagmamalinis and be true to yourselves.

BE TRUE TO YOURSELVES ALWAYS AND STOP HIDING BEHIND THE ILLUSION OF OUR CULTURE.. opinyon lang po.

[stabwounds]

@spoil bungog ko sa explanation da... no comment sulti na tanan... ill just read on

[ajol]

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