AFTERMATH of a BREAK-UP

[beyee]

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break up can or change my life

what are those changes chums? care to share?

since i tried nga kadaghan nag buwag sa mga past relationship, ni bato na akong feelings,...

murag easy na para nako nga i-let go..labi na kung dli ako ang nibuwag..problema lang kay

what's my life after the break up?

kung buot huna-hunaon, sayun ra man gani unta mangita ug lain..problema is lisudan ko kay dili ko kabaw mo diskarte...

just like the others have said that once you're stuck in a rut you lost ur confidence and gone rusty with ur skills in dealing with other peeps esp the opposite ***, is this what you're going thru bro?

seeing me right now, my being cynical about some things, partly is caused by my past relationship nga di ko kadawat nga in-ato ang nahitabo nako...betrayed as in iniwan sa ere w/o even having the guts to break up with me

i feel you sis.. it's like gbalewala nila ang pila ka years ninyo panag-uban na gsayon sayon ra og biya and worst, they were not men enough to end things or give you the real reason and took the easy way out by leaving u hanging or sugar coating their real reasons why they want out.

hahayss... boys...

[beyee]

it was a rough time for me. The first thing i did was to cry, felt the pain(it took me 3-5 mos).During the crying period, i multi-tasked. I managed to let go of the feelingsfor my ex thinking that he will never coming back. next i took care of myself- i became productive, had fun with my friends. ultimately, i'm healed. i'm very happy now

wow... good for you sis.. people just have its own pace of healing noh? continue to be happy sis

you binge eat then get overweight....

hahaha... this is what i hate.. we have become "emotional eaters" -- we binge to our hearts' content tsk tsk

i'm yoyo dieting.

immediately after the breakup, i told myself i need to get in slimmer shape (im shapely but chubby, not fat), it's his loss, he's gonna regret this for the rest of his life, i told myself that if he doesnt want me, some other man will. so i dieted, exercised, and took diet pills. i slimmed up, and some men noticed (mostly younger, i think), but i just couldnt bring myself to encourage them. i cant meet their eyes or even smile. i got more depressed, i cried every night, but i worked harder during the day. i went out more. i even went on out-of-town trips with my co-workers, which i normally didnt do.

now, almost 4months after the breakup, im still depressed. i regained whatever pound i lost, and gained new pounds too, but i learned to hide my feelings. to the whole world, im happy coz i smile and laugh a lot, but inside its a different matter. i guess i just need more time to get my act together, and i think i need to slim up again.

we had the same situation sis about the yoyo dieting... on our first break up, i was so obsessed of slimming down coz he went back to his old flame who happened to be so sexy and i was chubby.. so i starved myself (which isnt good) and went back to dancing (my passion) then I slimmed down and he saw me again and asked me back.. out of katangahan and too much love for him, I took him back... then after a couple of years, back to my chubby shape, he left again for another sexy girl and he never came back since last yr.... this was the hardest blow and I lost my self-esteem to be with other guys... dikit ra jud ko sa ako mga friends and when i can sense that guys would ask me out, mopalayo nako coz I had this preconditioned notion that guys don't dig chubby girls like me... so not to attract men, i binge so i'll be really fat.. now i'm sooo overweight

[ritchepaul]

Break-ups are always inevitable in any given relationships. May it be in a sour note, bittersweet or simply a mutual one, individuals go through a lot of changes in their lives -- either good or bad.

In your case, iStoryans, does your break-up changed you positively or have you become a cynic in the end?

Personally, my life had undergone a total overhaul that it compromised my views on certain issues when it comes to relationships. I have become more experimental which I never thought of doing in my past life. My friends saw me now as if I'm getting back at my ex for hurting me and I realized that I messed up completely. So right now, I am trying to reconcile with my own self and be more mindful of my actions.

Please feel free to interact in this page guys..

My break-up, it changed me a lot. I part of me died and I view the world differently after such incident. Our worlds before used to revolve with our partners and the moment separation take's it toll...kaboom! Our world crumbles and every second of our lives seems painful.

Everyday, memories haunts our senses (labi na maka-visit ka sa mga malls), thoughts about our love ones invade our senses thus disrupting our very soul.

"There is no greater woe than living a life everyday thinking about those happy memories"

[beyee]

My break-up, it changed me a lot. I part of me died and I view the world differently after such incident. Our worlds before used to revolve with our partners and the moment separation take's it toll...kaboom! Our world crumbles and every second of our lives seems painful.

Everyday, memories haunts our senses (labi na maka-visit ka sa mga malls), thoughts about our love ones invade our senses thus disrupting our very soul.

"There is no greater woe than living a life everyday thinking about those happy memories"

I know what you mean bro... we have acquired this silly anxiety creeping in us everytime we visit the places which were memorable when you were still together. So to avoid such feeling or fear, we hide our dear selves in our shells and sulk... as the saying goes,

"lumiliit ang mundo natin.."

and i'm in this crap and it really sucks... Like in my case, I used to enjoy watching movies alone or eat out by myself -- but I can't do it anymore for fear that I will be seen by him or by peeps I know and they would feel sorry for me... or paranoid nalang jud ko? hehehe

sooo damn hard...

[ritchepaul]

This is what I wrote during after the break up:

Sometimes….in sleep I reach for you just to find myself alone and cold winds gust inside me chilling my every bone. When morning comes, dreams of you stubbornly will not last, as I beg them each to stay, they speed off to the past.

In darkness your scent floats by, as if it’s in the air, and for awhile it makes me think you really could be there. Those evenings bring back memories of when we snuggled tight and times we were entwined in heated, love filled nights.

It seems I hear your voice whispering in my ear and for a fleeting moment my heart feels you are here. It makes me yearn to see your eyes, to kiss your tender lips, and just to care as time taking its toll.

Curled up upon comfy purple sheets, listening to the rain’s song. Tapping lightly at my closed window…not yet ready to rest. Playing with a piece of my black hair as my eyes stare at the ceiling.

Thinking about our lovely past, such peaceful thoughts I think tonight. Climbing out of bed to crack my window, standing close enough for the midnight breeze to tickle my plump cheeks bringing upon her favorite smile.




I’m like a specter here.

Haunting those memories that were once a sweet reality along with nostalgia and bliss roamed from within my very existence.
Looking forward towards that great blue yonder with full of hope and anticipation.
But it turned out to be a dream…like a nocturnal affair, like an entity without a physical sense.

And now… A soul lays its curse…its heart chanting hatred and anger…longing for revenge.
A soul thinks that it undergone an abuse…but is it?
A living soul harbors hatred towards my very being…a soul that was once a part of me connected by my chains of memories.

Little does that soul knows that I’m slowly fading away for every silent strike it strokes.
When time and fate one day decides to dispel hatred from that soul… surely it will start to long for it’s love…the soul’s melodies…love’s lost refrain.

And maybe at that point…It may realize that I have already ceased to exist.

[beyee]

wow... I love how you put into words the imagery of a person's longing and reminscing for ones lost love thanks for sharing your work ritch, i bet peeps can relate to this.

[ritchepaul]

I know what you mean bro... we have acquired this silly anxiety creeping in us everytime we visit the places which were memorable when you were still together. So to avoid such feeling or fear, we hide our dear selves in our shells and sulk... as the saying goes,

"lumiliit ang mundo natin.."

and i'm in this crap and it really sucks... Like in my case, I used to enjoy watching movies alone or eat out by myself -- but I can't do it anymore for fear that I will be seen by him or by peeps I know and they would feel sorry for me... or paranoid nalang jud ko? hehehe

sooo damn hard...

They say all people will eventually move one...but really depends on sa quality sa inyong relationship prior sa break-up.

[beyee]

They say all people will eventually move one...but really depends on sa quality sa inyong relationship prior sa break-up.

so true.. it's not the amount of time given to the relationship but the depth of how involved you were.. he was my first bf for 4 years plus and since day one, if not the perfect gf but i believed i was the best he ever had coz i made sure of that... i made him my world and my life then when he left, he took a big part of me which is so hard for me to move on... i'm not begging for a reconciliation though... i just want my old self back but i just dunno how and where to begin.

[ritchepaul]

so true.. it's not the amount of time given to the relationship but the depth of how involved you were.. he was my first bf for 4 years plus and since day one, if not the perfect gf but i believed i was the best he ever had coz i made sure of that... i made him my world and my life then when he left, he took a big part of me which is so hard for me to move on... i'm not begging for a reconciliation though... i just want my old self back but i just dunno how and where to begin.

I really don't know how and where to begin as well...for I'm still picking up fragments of my former self. Since the day after my break-up, there's no divertion that could hold my memories back. The moment we love this certain someone...we gave up a fraction of ourselves...to compromise on some things thus to show them how much we love them. The moment things went sour, it left our hearts hollow...a huge hole and we felt that there's no one could fill that void.

[ritchepaul]

wow... I love how you put into words the imagery of a person's longing and reminscing for ones lost love thanks for sharing your work ritch, i bet peeps can relate to this.

Thanks...

In hours of quiet thought one cannot but be overcome by longing for the past. We go through our old belongings, who is no more, or an idle sketch maybe, will catch the eye and vividly recall the moment it was made. after the lapse of many months, to come across a living letter and the mind calls for those days when they were written. A melancholic reflection