need your thoughts on this

[shiira]

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before pa nko na sugta akong uyab, ako pa ng gipaila2 jd sa akong parents. murag 1yr guro to na tense jd kau ang environment sa amoa. up to point nga makgbuwag nlang gd unta ko ky bsan maabtan lng mig alas 10 magkuyog sa akong uyab, daghan na daun pakauwaw nga istorya.

sa una pa gitry najd namo sa akong bf nga ma establish sa ilaha nga kasaligan mi especially cya. bsan unsa ka tan-aw namo nga dli na tarung ilang mga gipangset na rules ky ginasunod lng jd na namo para ma prove lang jd nga tinarung man ning amoa. paadtuon nako akong bf sa amoa, paila2 with them etc but dli cla willing na maila-ila cya ug tarung. wla man koi problema katong gipaila-ila nko akong bf sa side sa akong mama. lingaw raman gani cla.

isa sa reason nanu dli cla parehas ka open sa ubang igsuon sa akong mama is because, gina down nila ilang self. arangan mn gd na akong uyab. nkatilaw ug haruhay nga life nya naay mama nga kanang type nga sosyal jd manamit. magcge ug comment akong mama nga dili daw mi bagay sa akong uyab ky ang datu para lang jd daw sa datu. she had even mentioned before nga mayta dli mi magkadayon.

[Klave]

Hahahays...Crab mentality gamay noh?

Anyways, para nako, you should have decided to take control of your life, when you got a job.
Karon, naa na ka sa level mu-storya og CEOs, you should be able to take control of your life when you WANT to.
Kabantay ka sa word nga WANT? The point really is you are a different kind of "spoiled" child.
Buotan in nature, but took comfort in having your parents decide everything for you.

And it actually shows, you got a job and stable career under their wing.
Ngano man tawon imong uyab naman intawon ni confront sa imong parents, ngano dili ikaw?
Anyways, I am just opening your eyes, that aside from persuading issues there might be something with you.
You might be in their eyes still like a child. Naive of the real world and still unable to protect yourself.

[shiira]

i do take control and fight for some of the things that i want - career wise. mao ng i attained this level sa akong career ron coz i fought for it no matter giunsa pa nila ug try ug talk bad about my decisions ky lagi d daw ko makuntento sa akong present gibutangan(they have this mentality nga since dra ka una nadawat meaning mao jd na para nimo. they're not open to me venturing out para makakita pa ug nice opportunities).

Sa personal wants rman jud ko maungot nila woi. When I think about asking for a bit more freedom ky nahan ko magdugay2 uli to spend time with bf, go out with frends til wee hours of the morning, mka think ko na dli ba ni selfish ra kau nga i.force jd nako ilang gnahan? Ma konsyensya mn gd daun ko if rasunan dayon ko nila why they won't allow me to do stuffs that i like. kana rajd sa aspect sa akong life nga dli ko cgurado if magtuman ba ko sa gusto.

[shiira]

also, if naa kay buhaton nga butang nga pangusgan jd nimo buhaton, pa konsyensyahon man ka by saying nga "ana man jd na basta maka graduate na ug mkatrabaho. maghinilas nalang jd. magtuman sa ilang gusto".

[pinkpumpkin]

time to moveout na TS. you're old and wise enough na to make decisions sa imo life. dont mind ur mom, sobra ra sad siya.

[dickron]

TS mura kag si Sarah Geronimo..kidding lang jejeje..

[shiira]

@dickron, nanu Sarah Geronimo man bai? hehe lagi im considering moving out na sa amoa but para nalang pd ma lessen akong guilt is i planned to do it nig graduate puhon sa amo kinamanghuran which is next year puhon. ky i planned na nig trabaho nilang 3 sa akong mga manghud ky sila napd akong paabagon pra mka plano napd ko pra sa ako future.

[master stanan]

dictatorial parenting mn ng ilaha TS. Ang dakong sayup nganu wa nlng ka nla gipa MADRE.

Try to talk to your father first unsay plano nmo ug knang problemaha, or kamu duha sa imu uyab mag talk sa imu papa una. Then talk to your mom, chance na sa imu papa na mu stand up sa imuha. Kung di mada seek advice. Murag kelangan na cla balik counseling about parenting.

ug kung di sa mo mag minyo...enjoy sa! larga sa Bangladesh or sa Fiji TS explore new worlds

[hobie]

Taasa oy kapoy basa hehe.
Advice. Emancipate your self TS.
Ako, nag lain nako at age 23 when I got a job with steady income.
(Steady ra ha dili stable)
HEhe ..but still I did go emancipate myself and I was happy.
But now na minyo na, balik sa parents kay luoy sila walay kauban sa balay sila ra duha sa ako mama and papa.

[Klave]

they have this mentality nga since dra ka una nadawat meaning mao jd na para nimo. they're not open to me venturing out para makakita pa ug nice opportunities).

Crab Mentality plus being blindly contented...such a dangerous pair, eh?
Swerte ka nga you are smart and confident enough, that you can surely strive and reach for more...careerwise.

Sa personal wants rman jud ko maungot nila woi. When I think about asking for a bit more freedom ky nahan ko magdugay2 uli to spend time with bf, go out with frends til wee hours of the morning, mka think ko na dli ba ni selfish ra kau nga i.force jd nako ilang gnahan? Ma konsyensya mn gd daun ko if rasunan dayon ko nila why they won't allow me to do stuffs that i like. kana rajd sa aspect sa akong life nga dli ko cgurado if magtuman ba ko sa gusto.

As advised by some, and me remembering that you don't really come from a well-off family. Well explains your situation.
Some parents do think like how your parents think, and that is wrong, even they know its wrong, but they are too proud to admit it.

Anyways, the point is ayaw ka consensya, ingana lang ka lawom ang ilang influence nimo.
That is why you have this unnecessary guilt towards trying to go against their whims.
The real question is, when are you going to start living?

Just think about it this way, you will never mature if you continue to stay under their wing.
Even if dangerous mugawas, when are you going to start and learn how dangerous the world is?
You owe it to yourself to allow yourself to fully grow and be independent.