ADOPTED CHILD: To Tell or Not to Tell?

[azaleayve]

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inform the child jud when he/she is ready. If he/she is at the right time to understand everything. As long as wala nakuhaan or napakita ninyu nga he/she is an outcast walai problema.. pero sahay lage, you need to make an effort pa jud to get the child closer after learning everything kay maka affect baya jud na sa disposition sa tao....and if possible dala.on ninyu siya sa iya gigikanan to let him or her understand iyang self..para closure nlng pod...

[s3thk]

for me, it would be best if you tell the child because he/she has the right to know

[sasunaru]

nagcomment ko here tapos tyming nawagtang ang wifi so my super-taas comment kay napapas. tsk tsk. anyway, either way naa gyud nay negative effect. think about it, kung bata unya di pa gyud siya ka-grasp anang pagka-flexible sa konsepto sa pamilya, maglisod gyud kag pasabot niya. kids think that families are comprised of mama, papa, sila and siblings, if naa. They dont understand yet nga pwede gihapon "family" bahalag mama ra or papa ra, or papa ug papa (gay dads) or mama and mama (lesbian moms), etc. tapos we tend to forget that being bullied at school for being "adopted" creates wounds that run deeper and may affect his perception on things ig dako niya.
If you tell them when they're old, of course mahurt gihapon sila and they will likely rebel because of the resentment they feel. Naa manay unasked question, which is: "wa diay ko gi-love sa akong tinuod nga mama? kay gipanghatag raman ko."

best thing is to tell him/her when YOU are ready to support your claim nga pinangga gyud nimo siya bahalag di siya gikan nimo. Kay when you tell someone adopted ra siya, he/she will go looking for proof gyud if you're treating him/her differently or not..

nice read.

i think i would adopt one someday.

[lord-lord-lord]

mas better kung imo ingnon kung ready na ang bata. ky kasagaran sa mga bata karon hinan-aw kaau ug salida. sundon kanang mag rebelde2x..

[porbidaman]

we have a 9 y.o kid customer who frequently visits by for cellphone load, when asked:" kinsa imong mama dong?" he'd answered,"kang ***** pero adopted man ko ni ******, among silingan."

[cheeky_b]

I asked a lot of parents and so-called parenting experts about this, and they said that the best time to inform the child is when he/she is able to understand. You can't wait until late teens, you can actually tell him/her at the start of the schooling age. Just make sure that they know that you'll always be there and that it makes no difference.

[budzzz]

So, to tell, or not to tell. We have no option; they will be told. Better coming from us, in measured, loving tones, than from the upstarts of all ages who feel their obligation to make sure everyone knows who is real and who is not.

And, adoption is part of all of our family now, a very important part, we do not wish to hide the truth, we want to play the hand we were dealt, in truth and love. We are real, our family is real, our love is real, and our ability to deal with the truth is real. We cannot fake cheeriness about it; we have to feel the awe of it, believe the joy of it, and understand the complexities of it, in order to pass that on. The story telling begins in the heart of the parents, then the rest is easy.

[asst.techwrite]

Dapat sultian dayon TS aron maka-adjust dayon cya.. Kay sometime gani naay parents mo sulti nga d ka tinood anak niya but anak diay niya tungod sa kalagot ba den masakitan pud baya ka if ingon anaon ka sa imong parents. dapat sultian nalang daan before adto pa cya makadungog sa uban nimong kaila mas sakit para niya.

Dapat lang kung makahibaw ang anak dapat iyang huna-hunaon nga swerte cya nga giadopt cya kaysa naglaroylaroy cya sa dalan nga walay mga ginikanan og wala ka feel og love, trust and faith.

So dapat makahibaw na cya daan bisan gamay pa cya so need lang balik-balikon nimo og sulti niya kay basin dili dayon niya masab-tan...

Thanks

[street_of_no_return]

para nako, ako gyd sulti.an ang bata oe kai makadako gyd na siya lain nman ang impact. Everyone deserves to know the truth and the truth itself will set you free.

[AkoSiMayang]

ako manghud adopted..and gisultian jud na namo siya gkan bata pa..pa.bisitahon man gae namo sa iyang tinood na mama..nindot man gud na basta sultian daan kay para di nana cla makalitan kung moingon tag ing abot na sa sakto na edad...naa man gud possibilities nga mag rebelde cla basta dako na ninyo sultian...