it's a family problem that's been running for years

[disenchanted]

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ni happen pud ni sa ako first degree cousin 3 years ago. she's so involved and close na kaayu sa iya bf nga wala gyud ayu.. imagine ha, iya father (ako tito) namatay na and kami ni save sa iya and nagpa eskwela college - nursing sa cebu doc.. u know what happened? gusto mu uli sa province to be with the guy and mukuha lang ug kurso nga associate..

despite repeated advise and counseling, wala gyud maminaw.. what we did, gipatumanan namu. age niya is only 17 ato nga time.. she took for granted ang opportunity. sayang kaayu just to be with the guy nga walay ayu. worst, (wala ko manaway) bati gyud kaayu nawng ang laki and siya kay daghan kaayu na ibog sa cebu doc. iya bf mura gyud ug boy-boy niya. kung sa barkada pa, mao na nga membro nga dakul-dakulon sa grupo..

sayang kaayu.. now, she's begging us nga mu eskwela balik sa cebu doc but sayang ang opportunity.. a door of opportunity has been opened for her but look, she took it for granted and now gamahay na siya..

[khimmy]

talk to her.. she needs counseling.. pasabta gyud siya nga she can still find other guys nga mas deserving and mas maayu for her.. she's still young mao wala pa siya naka realize sa iya gibuhat and sa situation..

since its not yet late, i-develop pag ayu ang bond nimu sa imu sis.. get involved sa tanan niya buhaton. if magpa load siya, kuyugi hantod midnight. imu mom, tell her also nga mag bonding mu tulo sa imu sis.

she's hesitant... siya man mismo mudetach sa iya self from us... she'd rather talk with the guy for the whole day than go out with us... wa nami kasabot niya...

[khimmy]

@disenchanted

gud thing sis sa imu cousin nahapen... lisud jud ning sister najud nimu ang maagrabyado..
maluoy ko sa ako parents jud coz they're burning their brows off para lang mahatagan mi ug maayu nga future...
and here comes this guy nga i dunno what the he** he's up to with my sister nga murag iyang gihimu ug financer....

[disenchanted]

I feel you, sis. Samoka gyud anang naay uban tao ma involve sa ato family and they're d reason nganu magka buak buak ang relationship sa family circle. How bout i-confront ninyu ang guy or talk to him in a nice way para makasabot. Pero sis, mas better gyud nga magka heart to heart talk mu with ur sis.
I dunno how u'll do it but ma timingan ra jud na..

[joulekelvin]

pakulata nang lakiha... nagabusar da!

[heisenberg69]

pakulata nang lakiha... nagabusar da!

atong kulatahon pre...

[bosin]

You should have a counselling gyud

[Klave]

Actually, pareho ta og situation times 2...meaning duha ako manghod nga spoiled kaayo og attitude.
Initially, I have to blame the parents for underestimating parenthood.
They are simply thinking that as long as we are provided, ok ra tanan.
Unfortunately, We need all the guidance we need from our parents.
They are actually strict with the guys pero sa girls, mura jud sila mga prinsesa.
Kami maoy sugu-sugu-on unya sila sitting pretty lang, they think that they are "higher" beings for that situation.
Resulta, we have 2 selfish, self-centered girls who can't even cook, clean or do any household chore.

So coming from experience one thing that controls teens of this generation aside from her boyfriend.
THE BAON...make her understand that she has to earn it now, not just simply get it.
If she does something bad, take a little away, she can't do anything as long as she has no money.
If you know her friends, i-seminar na sila to not give her money or even let her borrow money.

What I do really understand in this situation is that, the parents haven't given her the guidance she needed when she was younger. She doesn't have anyone she can trust except her boyfriend. You will have to do something radical at this point to get her into senses and you can only trust her at that point to make the right decisions given a radical situation.

[khimmy]

What I do really understand in this situation is that, the parents haven't given her the guidance she needed when she was younger. She doesn't have anyone she can trust except her boyfriend. You will have to do something radical at this point to get her into senses and you can only trust her at that point to make the right decisions given a radical situation.

headshot jud ka bro... since im the eldest, i used to do most of the household chores..
manglaba, hugas plato.. and the like... (but nachange pagcollege na nako.. i had to delegate some of my tasks to my younger sis.. we agreed nga naai division of tasks) okay ra unta to pagstart kai easy breezy man but then niabot ang guy sa iyang life she started to mumble na and murefuse na ug sugod... if she has no way out, wala xai lain choice but mu do sa iya responsibility while on the phone with her bf.. dili naxa efficient ky miskan unsaon di naman jud magkadimao iyang mga tasks...

i give part of the blame sa amu parents kai gi spoil xa for a long time compared nako...

[khimmy]

atong kulatahon pre...

hhahahah pwede!