About One's Past: To tell or not to Tell?

[Baeybe_Bryce]

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Won't knowing that you don't know something hurt too, lil bro?

(Mura man ni text message ui) lolz

OT:harharhar...ate talaga eh...shh...

Ont:i prefer to know it all coz i tell my girl about everything man..tried to be honest as much as possible...but it really depends if both of you care to know about it or better left unsaid...

[tamxy]

..in terms of about you-past, ok ra ka mu-tell. at least naa sad tawn tay gamayng background about ue..

..pero if about ex's and stuff, pls lang! minusi lang kay ma-insecure pd tawn ta, labi na ug puro nindot ang imong i-talk about niya,..haiz...

correct jud ka sis!bitaw there are some things jud na better left unsaid kay maka hurt ra jud!

[laagan_si_organizer]

it's up to him if he would tell me or not...if he can't take it telling me about his pasts because it hurts him, then i should respect that, much as he would respect me with my privacy. i mean, it all boils down to your respect for each other. if he wants to open up with me, well and good, but if not, as i've said, it's fine.

[histrionic0311]

it's up to him if he would tell me or not...if he can't take it telling me about his pasts because it hurts him, then i should respect that, much as he would respect me with my privacy. i mean, it all boils down to your respect for each other. if he wants to open up with me, well and good, but if not, as i've said, it's fine.

yeah, some things are better left unsaid..and now s not d ryt time 2 open up kai of course d grieving process s still intact, nd time cn only heal 8..

[maerkz]

forget the past and just learn from it, no need to tell spread it around

[mastersun23]

some things are better left unsaid. But If she asks i would tell her.

[grlnxtdor16]

mas mu prefer jud ko if kabalo xa... wala i want nga makaila xa nako

[diem]

Good morning mga istoryans. I just want to know your views on, is it important for you to let the guy or girl know about your your past? i mean ok ra ba before ka manguyab or sugton mas maau ba na makbalo or pahibal-on na nimo ang guy or girl about sa past? like for example anak lang ka sa gawas..... dli na virgin ang guy or girl.....

hope i can get an good answer from this thread. tnx in advance.

It's okay to share your history with another, especially someone you care about BUT I feel it's dependent on TWO THINGS: TRUST AND TIMING.

If you feel that you should be honest about who you are and your past with the person you're with, just wait a bit, think things over and determine for yourself if s/he's really a person that you can trust.

It's been said that TRUTH can be a burden. Truth is solid and it has weight. It can either used to support or can be used to break things. So the truth isn't an easy thing to throw around unless you're that sort of person who's really frank and open all the time. (then you've got some personal, social issues).

Tell the truth if you feel that your relationship can bear the weight. Some truths are heavier than others so please don't use it as a test to your relationship or else, you might get disappointed.

Telling the truth isn't bad. It's just a catalyst for change but sometimes the process of change can be unnerving or it can hurt.

Do you remember the first time you pulled your tooth? Or like having chicken pox or measles. Telling the truth is something like that I think, it's exposing oneself to elements beyond one's control and in the end, it's good because we become purer, clearer in knowing ourselves and how the world is; kind of once you get chicken pox as a child, it's less likely for you to acquire it as an adult since you've already developed immunity.

Tell the truth if you want to but only if you KNOW that the person has been truthful to you. The person you're with is someone who's earned your trust. It's a matter of timing, it's often best to see if your relationship can withstand the trivial stuff and trials first before laying out the truthful history. So when, maybe after a year or more. It's up to you to decide what timing is best.

When a relationship has been toughened up by time (like a year's worth of friendship, no less), tested by trials (which you should overcome together easily in good spirits and laughter) and has bloomed trust (your partner has deemed you trustworthy and has always been honest about him/herself with you), then I believe that's right ground for you to share your past.

For your kind consideration Wishing you the best in Life and Love.

[ahoi]

uhm naa rana ninyu oie.. hihi

[caris]

i don't think so..don't want to hurt him..past is past..just 4get it..be happy..stop looking back