ADOPTED CHILD: To Tell or Not to Tell?

[orochimaru700]

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mas maau gyud sulti-an nga gamay pa

[memriesnabox]

da best is to tell ........

[hallerz]

must tell as early as possible...explain it step by step nga masabtan jud.

[orochimaru700]

magsakit ang bata kung dako na sulti-an, mag rebelde na nuon

[justinblake]

Maayo gyod sultihan daan....

[salbahis]

tell the child but only at the right time, probably kanang maka sabot na siya gamay...

[JoyCeeMarie08]

better na makabalo xa while bata pa ky daghan mga bata na dako na kabalo mag rebelde na nuon..

[ambokz]

to tell jud,nya psabton ug maau ang bata.

[Range22]

xultian xa in d ryt tym..

[iheartnoelle]

nagcomment ko here tapos tyming nawagtang ang wifi so my super-taas comment kay napapas. tsk tsk. anyway, either way naa gyud nay negative effect. think about it, kung bata unya di pa gyud siya ka-grasp anang pagka-flexible sa konsepto sa pamilya, maglisod gyud kag pasabot niya. kids think that families are comprised of mama, papa, sila and siblings, if naa. They dont understand yet nga pwede gihapon "family" bahalag mama ra or papa ra, or papa ug papa (gay dads) or mama and mama (lesbian moms), etc. tapos we tend to forget that being bullied at school for being "adopted" creates wounds that run deeper and may affect his perception on things ig dako niya.
If you tell them when they're old, of course mahurt gihapon sila and they will likely rebel because of the resentment they feel. Naa manay unasked question, which is: "wa diay ko gi-love sa akong tinuod nga mama? kay gipanghatag raman ko."

best thing is to tell him/her when YOU are ready to support your claim nga pinangga gyud nimo siya bahalag di siya gikan nimo. Kay when you tell someone adopted ra siya, he/she will go looking for proof gyud if you're treating him/her differently or not..