Does love actually fade away with time?

[tonvlad88]

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@tonvlad88

Bro, I'm a married man for almost ten years.....so I'll just share this experience to you, ikaw nalay bahalag relate sa imong mga pangutana.

During my days as a bachelor I was able to persuade (ilad) few ladies to have a healthy relationship with me (one at a time hap..dili ko two timer)....The love that I felt during those times was filled with tremendous PASSION and ECSTASY and so with it's corresponding heartaches....There were even times that I can no longer distinguish the fine line between True Love and Infatuation....Mao nay gi-ingong gugmang ga uros-uros,,,,,but I enjoyed each of those relationship that I had both Ups and Downs..And I believe that my formers partners also felt the same (maayo man daw KUNO ko mudalag relasyon...pili-an lang gyud hinoun) (lol)

When I got married the kind of LOVE that I felt when I was still a bachelor was more or less the same ...ONLY in the first few years.

What happened next? asa na tong gugmang ga uros-uros?

The PASSIONATE / ECSTATIC love that I use to feel with my wife faded away.........BUT...BUT...it was replaced with an even more stable and endearing love,,,the kind of love that I experienced ONLY AFTER several years from the first day that I got married and shared a single household with my wife...The kind of love that is more understanding, more compassionate, more forgiving and more patient.

To sum it all up? This love that I feel for my wife NOW is way much better than the previous kind of love.

How did I get it?......I'm not really sure how to answer this because I had not pre planned it nor had I anticipated it.....but I somehow I feel that this kind of love can be acquired through RESPECT for your spouse, COMMITMENT to your family, SHARED happiness, and DEVOTION to your religion (or if you're an atheist maybe devotion to what is considered MORAL)

So TS, I hope you can find something useful in my experience......and by the way,,,Marriage life has DEFINITELY it's UPS and DOWNS too...So better keep a cool head.

reading your comment,, nakita nako nmo ang akong life today,, same jd kaayo!! (i bet your kind of chixboy pd) hahhha.... anyways,,, your telling me about how your love towards your wife grew up,, but you never stated the ways to enhance it.... i do respect my partner, but i gues its not enaf,, actions really speak louder than words japon so please elaborate more please hehehe

About marriage,,, im still 23,, what do you think? is it too early??

[tonvlad88]

no time with each other,mas priority pa ang laing buhat niya kesa nako and most of all natuka nako sa possessive attitude.

ohh i see,,, pero did u try to approach and tok about it with your partner?? being possessive means hes just too afraid to lose you... (i can assure you dat coz ing ana sad ko now with my girl)

[krizz]

yes. hurt najud ko sa mga promises na mag bonding mi but turn out wla ky cge lang unya nana. its not normal nana guro ang grabe ka possessive gusto sad ko bisan gamay lang na freedom gani. kay ako im not the jealous type man gud, dili rajud ko magpakialam niya ug ask ug kinsa iyang kuyog or asa xa. ug ako gani tanan na details dapat kahibaw xa,ug naay boys masuko ky ma inlove nya daw ko. normal ba nah?

[tonvlad88]

yes. hurt najud ko sa mga promises na mag bonding mi but turn out wla ky cge lang unya nana. its not normal nana guro ang grabe ka possessive gusto sad ko bisan gamay lang na freedom gani. kay ako im not the jealous type man gud, dili rajud ko magpakialam niya ug ask ug kinsa iyang kuyog or asa xa. ug ako gani tanan na details dapat kahibaw xa,ug naay boys masuko ky ma inlove nya daw ko. normal ba nah?

hahhha,, honestly,, even akong girl mo txt nako nga mo adto xag colon or malls becoz part sa iyang work coz naa daw xa importante paliton, d gani ko mahimutang.. hahhha.. kabalo ka kung what naa sa akong mind afraid ko na what if dd2 nya makit an ang tao nga g reserve ni GOD for her?? so mawla na xa nako.. i know it sounds crazy but thats what i really tink. kuha nmo ang connection? ehehe... b d way,, if d ka ing ana ka selosa nga type ma feel baya na sa laki na murag baliwala ra xa nmo.. u know what,, nindot baya kayo bsahon sa text ay if mo ana ang girl to us guys nga please ha,, likay sa mga parasites. hehee kiligon sad mi ana bah..

[krizz]

yes,i get it. and na open akong mind na his afraid jud diay na mapunta ug lain. basin dli ma totally fade ang feelings nako tungod sa imong giingon. thanx for ur advice!

[koralstratz]

About marriage,,, im still 23,, what do you think? is it too early?? :confused:

Bang......As long as you and your partner are of legal age , it does not matter how old you are BUT marriage should ALWAYS go by these rules: (but not limited to)

1. Emotional maturity of BOTH couples
2. Psychological maturity of BOTH
3. Physical capability of BOTH
4. STABLE job of at least one of the spouse. (much better if BOTH)
5.And Last but Not the Least......Full understanding and UNWAVERING commitment to this vows:
"To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part"

[tonvlad88]

yes,i get it. and na open akong mind na his afraid jud diay na mapunta ug lain. basin dli ma totally fade ang feelings nako tungod sa imong giingon. thanx for ur advice!

heheh... good to hear dat... i know both of you can work that out... for the better... just be open lang.. so dat magka sinabot jd mo..

[tonvlad88]

About marriage,,, im still 23,, what do you think? is it too early??

Bang......As long as you an your partner is of legal age , it does not matter how old you are BUT marriage should ALWAYS go by these rules: (but not limited to)

1. Emotional maturity of BOTH couples
2. Psychological maturity of BOTH
3. Physical capability of BOTH
4. STABLE job of at least one of the spouse. (much better if BOTH)
5.And Last but Not the Least......Full understanding and UNWAVERING commitment to this vows:
"To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part"

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hahahaha.. the first 4 rules,,, we are both capable with it (i can assure dat),, and for the 5th: HOPEFULLY AND LOOKING FORWARD!! hahhahahahah

anyway tanx

[farmboy]

i guess i have to close this thread because of this comment. Thanks for sharing your answer with me. I really appreciate it. Again thank you

b d way,, i pressed like

oooh good heavens..

pagkasakit pud paminawon nga ang thread i close sa TS tungod sa ako comment. cge lang brad.. ako lang i delete ako comment. thank you sa pag like.

and you are welcome..

[tonvlad88]

oooh good heavens..

pagkasakit pud paminawon nga ang thread i close sa TS tungod sa ako comment. cge lang brad.. ako lang i delete ako comment. thank you sa pag like.

and you are welcome..

waaaaaaaaaaaaaaa sayop man imong g tink oi... its not dat ako e close because tongod sa imong comment... waaaahh your thinking the wrong way,, hehehe,,, i find your comment very useful man gd.. dats y ako nlang unta e close ang thread..hehehe, but naa may ni comment and maikog sad ta if ako lang e hang up ang thread while naa pay ni comment. hehehe promse2x wala koy g mean ako e closed coz naa koy hard feelings sa imong comment.. walaaaaaaaaaaa jd..hehehe cge ako nalng ni e continue nga thread...