Sister-in-Law's Husband is getting on my NERVES!!!

[nijazared]

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TS, was your sister in law aware that you had plans to get married in 2010?

Para sa ako lang TS ha, there's no point in getting mad to what happened. Just leave it be, don't stress over it since it is totally out of your hands naman kung dili jud sila maminaw. But if you really want to resolve it, then ask for forgiveness and ask them to do the same and leave it all behind. Talk it over, invite them over if you have to and tell them you want to patch things up.

[yhantrix]

Yes indeed sis. The issue not about who was wrong. But it is all about forgiveness. I can see that you have not yet forgiven them, and maybe led you not to ask for forgiveness from them. It is unhealthy to keep a grudge in your heart. If you keep on holding to that grudge it will not hurt the person you hated in anyway, you will just end up hurting yourself. Learn to let go of that anger and hatred. Humble yourself. Ask God for forgiveness and ask for the grace to forgive the persons that have hurt you. It maybe their fault, but in the end what would matter is how you resolve this conflict. God taught us to be humble and compassionate. As what Jesus taught as "Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who trespass against us".Try giving them the benefit of the doubt for they may also have a valid reason why they did it. Try to look at things at a different perspective or point of view.

"To err is human, to forgive is divine."

done with our past issue. i already asked sorry sa akong sister in law, and nagka suod mi ug balik... i also stated on the first lage that i also added back her husband with the same note, pero unsa man iyang gi reply? if you can read it back, maka trigger man gani iyang reply. pero wala nako tubayi, anyway we are not even close.

ang issue man gud ron, nagka suod na mi ug balik sa akong sister in law, pero its seems that her husband is holding her back. i know my sister in law very well, she's not that type nga mudumot labi na if ni ask ug sorry then nibalik ang communication... its her husband i guess..

[yhantrix]

TS, was your sister in law aware that you had plans to get married in 2010?

Para sa ako lang TS ha, there's no point in getting mad to what happened. Just leave it be, don't stress over it since it is totally out of your hands naman kung dili jud sila maminaw. But if you really want to resolve it, then ask for forgiveness and ask them to do the same and leave it all behind. Talk it over, invite them over if you have to and tell them you want to patch things up.

im done with what happened. OK na mi sa akong sister in law, nibalik na gani among ka suod.. ang issue karon kay nikalit lang ni ug distancya akong sister in law nako... i know her personally and she's not that kind of person. so i guess iyang bana ang nagbawal niya nga makig close nako ug balik..

[yhantrix]

fellow istoryans, ang issue na ron mao ang pag distancya sa akong sister in law nga unta, nakasuod na nako ug balik. i have a strong feeling nga iyang bana ang napa distancya nya nako..

[steve 27]

maybe grabe ug impack ang imo gibuhat nila maong ingon ana sila ug tagad nimo....dili ka kabasol nila..its your fault..dili dapat ka masuko kung magpakasal sila...ikaw ang walay respeto ato nga time...dili na gyud na maulian ang gap ninyo .mao na ang bana sa imo sis-n-law nagpakatotoo dili sya plastic iya gipahibalo nga dili ka welcome nya.mao na every action nato ato gyud isulod sa ato brain b4 we act..ayaw nalang kasuko nila ..likay kay dili ka welcome...JUST PRAY!!!

[DeepwateR]

TS, you must really love your sister-in-law a lot since you really value your closeness and her husband is probably jealous of that closeness ninyo. He obviously seems to have not gotten over the past if suko siya maclose ka sa imo sis-in-law. Well, here's the sad part. Your sis-in-law is married to him now. She is his wife and submits to him as displayed by marriage vows. like you are with your hubby. Ayaw nalng sila i-mind for now. They too are probably adjusting to married life. Just be open to your sis-in-law if she needs you. But if she doesn't want to talk to you for now for some reasons, pasagdi nalng usa. Truth will always prevail. Wla man gud ta kahibaw unsa gipangsulti sad sa magtiayon inside closed doors. When she is ready to talk to you and be close to you again, she will come. In the meantime, enjoy your life with your husband, work, etc. There will always be troubles with in-laws. To the husband of your sis-in-law, you are wife to his bro-in-law so give time for adjustment. bisan 3 years pa, molabay rana ang panahon. Focus on yourself what can make you happy. don't sweat on the small stuff. I know easier said than done and writing here is a start, nga napagawas nimo imo gibati. and yes, prayer helps alot!

[bemS]

yeah i think ang sister in law ni ang center dre.. ang friendship

[monrose29]

last hirit nako...

wala man problema mag pakasal sila... ang ako lang.. hambugero manubag ang laki.. kina hanglan ba gyud diay na mo ana sya og tubag..

"WALA MAN KO NANGAYO UG KWARTA SA AKONG GINIKANAN PARA MAKASAL KO, USA PA, DILI NAMAN NA USO ANG MAMALAYI OI"

mao nay naka trigger.. walay mo pugong nila kong na-ay silay kwarta but unta respeto sa parents nga mamalayi og mag sabot sa kasal deli ingon respeto kay tungod mag pakasal ang lain igso-on but respeto mag istorya kong unsay pay mga ikatabang or tambag man lang to each family kay mao nay atong na andan.. unya mo ingon pa gyud sya og wa sya mangayo og kwarta sa ginakanan... so nag pasabot nga nag salig iyang igso-on nga tabangan sa ginikanan? kailanga pa diay na e sulti? kasabot ko sa ilang point nga deli sila gusto nga ma postpone ilang kasal kay basin kogn mamalayi pa mo reklamo ang bana sa t.s og mao unya nay rason nga ipa lipas lang usa ilang kasal kay ang t.s sa maoy una.. kay una man nag sabot.. which is unreasonable gyud ka ayo..... para nako deli naka angay mang hambug kong daghan kag kwarta or kong unsa status nimo sa imogn kinabuhi.. taronga lang og istorya ang tawo kay makasabot ra na.......deli naka angay mang hambug...

ang akong gikalagotan ang iyang pag tubag.. gyud... kay pila ra may ingon nga.. na-a naman koy na tigom og nakasinabot naman sad me sa parents aning imong in law......

[kajrot1]

@TS taas sa story oi hehe
dapat nimo buhaton ana kay prankahan nmog storya!! ^_^ sayon sulti lisod buhaton heehe
bitaw pray over nalang na siya sis

[j-RoLD]

TS: I won't dwell nalang sa issue kay it's way too personal for me to decide on your behalf or give comments nga wa gani ko masayod sa side pud sa pikas. For discussion's sake, the relationship has turned sour based sa imong gi-narrate. What I usually do about sa mga tawo nga molikoy ang pagtagad kay confront them and ask them what the real problem is. Para nako, bati man gud nang mag-FB or anything other than a personal confrontation kay murag you're trying to build a wall between the two of you. Ask her, in a way nga kalma lang ka mosulti ka niya. Ask her what's the real score why it turned sour. Then make some action plans. Nothing beats the idea of confronting someone in a situation of this ilk. Make it sure lang pud nga kanang kamo rang duha ang magstorya.