Having 8 kids is a kind of blessing

[necrotic freak]

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no, from mandaue .thanks sa imong reply

ic.. abi nako labangon ra naay science high school.

[DyslexicHeart]

I was deeply touched by Mam Kenah's sharing and the others who were also generous enough with their testimonies...

I've been a full-time/hands on mom since I got married and I sometimes wonder if I made the right decision in being such considering the difficult economy we are having. I question myself whether it is worth it to sacrifice my career in exchange for being with the kids and attending to their needs 24/7. These past few weeks, I've been contemplating of going back to work. Aside from augmenting my hubby's income, I've been missing the life I used to have in sales and marketing. However, a part of me does not want to leave the kids. And, I've been thinking that it would be unfair to the last two kids if I would go back to the money-making business since I was with the eldest during the formative years of 1 to 6 years old.

Honestly, I could see that my eldest has turned out to be a vivacious, smart, dutiful and independent child. She has been in the honor roll and I always get compliments from her teachers and other school staff. Contrary to the fact that kids turn out to be dependent if their mothers are always with them, mine isn't. She even anticipates for the needs of her younger siblings. I have seen the benefits of being a full time mom this early.

Part of this hesitancy of returning to work is the problem of getting an efficient yaya. Gone were the days when the yayas could do multi-tasking and were loyal to their employers. I also could not trust my kids' care to my in-laws because they might spoil them or implement those old psychologically-harmful disciplining measures.

Just last week I got sentimental when I attended my eldest's school program. I thought if I will be working already who will be with my kids during important school gatherings. Kids get their esteem when they see their parents make an effort to make their activities top priority.

A deep sigh indeed... My kids will never pass their formative years again. I am praying that God may lead me to the right decision and I am also asking for Mother Mary's intercession.

[DyslexicHeart]

Thanks sa imong reply....honestly I gave up my career as an account executive .....coz of the problem sa helper. ...Lain lain akong helper then akong na observed everytime lain akong helper ang mga bata naa sad silay mga new language or mga lihok nga bag o para nato.
One time I attended a seminar which one of the speaker is a social worker.............She says the critical AGE of a child is from 2 years up to 6 years old whatever you teach and input to her/his mind will never be erased...then when he reached at the age of 7 he knows how to execute whats his likes or he has his own thinking . In short makamao na siya mosupak nimu. In this, I apply the career vs. family- I choose family because I could never find my family again once it is destroyed WALA NA but the career I could find it as long as kugihan ka lang then also God will provide it to you in the right time.
I share these, coz some, not all moms like me have the same thoughts I have. Some are blinded by the material things or easily bothered inside the house , (its not easy being a fulltime housewife, boring jud, Labi nakun di ka kamaong mo update ) but you have to sacrifice and you will be rewarded at the end. Now I have a new career, that I could spend more 70% of my family and 30% for my career.
Hope that, the things Ive shared makatabang sa uban or maka learn sad sila. SACRIFICE LANG JUD.

Agree, gyud ko ani, Mam Kenah...
Dili gyud lalim. Muabot gyud ang panahon nga boring ug monotonous pero unsaon na lang tawn ang mga bata kung isalig lang sad sa mga katabang .

[necrotic freak]

Speaking of ADHD my eldest daughter had just resigned from her tutorial job in Ma. Luisa her student is a son of a famous family in cebu, and you know what the kid just discover by his mom last June that he had an ADHD, but the boy was very smart in fact he is top 2 in his class. He is studying in one of the Paref school here in cebu Sprindale. Dili tingale tanan naa ana hinay sa academic, although iya mom naa ra jud sa ila focus sa study.
Be ready jud sa financial crises, pero nakasurvive gani ko nga eight ako kidz. Daghan kaau kog trials naagian sa ako life. Before, na mis understood jud ko sa ko mga in laws the way I brought up my children, but now hinay-hinay na nila nakita ang akong effort. pero thank God .....wala jud twn ko niya pasagdi. Dont forget to have a devotion for your family. Thanks for your reply...Good Luck and God Bless! I know your making the right decision.......

mam, unsa man gyud ning ADHD - Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder? kay ang akong edlest man gud grabe gyud kaayo ka kiat. dili jud siya pwde dili maka lihok2x bisag 1 minute lang.. nya sahay dili jud patuo mag duwa gyud siya ug iyaha.. pero makamau man pod siya sa school na sulod man pod siya sa top 10 sa ilang class. pero gi awardan pod siya ug Most energetic sa ilang class kay dili jud ma bang2x ang ka kiat. ADHD kaha akong anak mam?

[DyslexicHeart]

same here.. had problems with helpers too. murag 6 na tingali ni agi namo nga helper since my wife gave birth to our second son. pulos wala mag dugay kay pulos pod mga badlungon. among anak permi lang mahagbong sa katre kay ma una pa ang helper maka 2g kaysa bata. karon 2ys old na ang manghod ug 6yrold pod ang maguwang ug kinder-2 na.. wala nalang mi nag helper oi.. tinuod jud sacrifice lang gyud.. labi na pulos lalaki among anak pwete ka badlungon maka luya ug binantay.. i hope kung mo dagko na ni among anak makagihawa na intawn mi, ug dili lang unta mo samot among labad.

just want to know, i understand your from labangon right?

Haaay... Kasuway sad gyud mi ug katabang nga abusive sa mga bata. Salig lagi mi kay niece sa kaila. Susme, kung ako diay ibilin kay naa koy mga errands himuon sa gawas, harsh-handling man diay kaayo sa mga bata. Tingala nalang ko anaa nay mga "kusi marks" ang akong baby. Kawatan pa gyud. Among gi-kick out. Susme, gipulihan na sad ug mosuyop...Kalisud gyud intawn makakita ug tarong nga helper nowadays.... The kids pa gyud can pick-up sa mga negative nga attitudes sa mga katabang!!!

[DyslexicHeart]

mam, unsa man gyud ning ADHD - Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder? kay ang akong edlest man gud grabe gyud kaayo ka kiat. dili jud siya pwde dili maka lihok2x bisag 1 minute lang.. nya sahay dili jud patuo mag duwa gyud siya ug iyaha.. pero makamau man pod siya sa school na sulod man pod siya sa top 10 sa ilang class. pero gi awardan pod siya ug Most energetic sa ilang class kay dili jud ma bang2x ang ka kiat. ADHD kaha akong anak mam?

NecroticFreak, I really don't know how to assess for ADHD but you can ask your pedia about it. Sir, tanawa sad kuno iya kinan-an if kargado ba sa sweets. Energetic man gud ng mga kiddies basta sobraan sa tamis. kana sad masobraan sad sa gatas kay anaay mga milk nga sweet, more ang sugar. Suwaya kuno, sir, minimize sweets...

[necrotic freak]

Agree, gyud ko ani, Mam Kenah...
Dili gyud lalim. Muabot gyud ang panahon nga boring ug monotonous pero unsaon na lang tawn ang mga bata kung isalig lang sad sa mga katabang .

mao gyud na sige reklamohan sa akong asawa.. gawas nga boring kaayo stressful pagyud kaayo mag bantay ug laki nga bata. mao nga usahay kung weekends wala koy office ako nalang tagaan chance si kumander maka laag siya ug maka relax, mo day-off siya nya mo relibo pod ko. hehe

[necrotic freak]

NecroticFreak, I really don't know how to assess for ADHD but you can ask your pedia about it. Sir, tanawa sad kuno iya kinan-an if kargado ba sa sweets. Energetic man gud ng mga kiddies basta sobraan sa tamis. kana sad masobraan sad sa gatas kay anaay mga milk nga sweet, more ang sugar. Suwaya kuno, sir, minimize sweets...

sakto gyud ka mam, murag sa gatas gyud na. amo bitaw gi ilisan ilang gatas ug dili kaayo tam-is dili man ganahan pabutangan gyud ug asukar.

[P-Chan]

I am a mother of 8, 6 girls and 2 boyz . 7 of them are in school, my eldest is a freshman in UP Cebu taking up Biology - a DOST scholar, my second child is a SK councilor ,a 4th year H.S. consistent honor student and had gone to the national competion/regional competion in journalism. the 3rd one is a girl a 2nd year H.S. in Science High School her in our place.and my 4th child is also a consistent 1st honor and also with my 5th and 6th, the 7th has just started his first preparatory days in school.
This is a gift given by God....to me. I have send them to school even sa among ka poor. Would you believe my hubby is only taxi driver.........? and me its just a plain housewife(recently lang active in real estate 6 mos pa lang). Nothing I could ask for more........

wow.... unsa inyo secret mam?

[Kenah]

You are really blessed.

thanks! mao bitaw akong gi share , gusto nako naa sad maka learn sa ako experience................