The Secrets to Guys Revealed!

[babyjr]

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The Secrets to Guys Revealed!

For the past few months we have been asking guys the same questions that you girls usually ask us. Things like how to get a guy to notice you, how to get a guy to like you, etc. Although we thought we had the answers - we thought we'd go straight to the source - GUYS! Their answers weren't always surprising (see - we did learn something from our guy friends and ex-boyfriends!) but the number of responses were. It seems that there are tons of guys of all ages that want you to know their "secrets". So for all of you girls out there that want to know how to "get a guy" - here's how:

1. How does a girl get a guy to notice them?

The Number 1 answer was to be yourself! Theory being that if they're going to like you, they want to like the real you. Showing off seemed to be a big no-no, as did wearing a lot of makeup and looking like a tramp. Not that looks didn't matter - they did. Guys seem to like a girl that looks nice and makes an effort. Although this was more important to the teenage guys than the older the guys. So gals - show your personality - and look your best doing it.

Something else that was mentioned quite a bit was making a move. Guys don't like to have all of the pressure resting on their shoulders. Many suggested that girls should make the first move. Start a conversation. Say hi. Smile at the guy. Sometimes they are a bit clueless. Help 'em out a bit.

2. How do you get a guy to call you and ask you out?

Again, most of the answers were very similar - and probably not what you want to hear. #1 answer to this question was "You can't." There was no surefire way to "get a guy to call you". Sorry gals. But all is not hopeless. The 2nd most popular answer: Don't wait for it. Ask the guy out. If you're a bit shy, quite a few guys out there suggested that you find out the guy's interests, then hint at an upcoming event that you know he would like, and say you would like to go yourself. If he gets the hint - he may ask you out. Now, this would only work out in the end if it really was something that you would like. If there's nothing that you would both like - it probably won't work ou tin the end. Move on.

3. How do you ask a guy out so that he won't say no?

Again, there is no way to be sure a guy will say "yes". But there are ways to get the odds in your favor. #1 - build up a friendship with the guy. Make sure you have things in common. Talk to him a bit before asking him out. This could take weeks - or just hours. Make sure there's some sort of connection before asking him out. #2 - suggest something that the guy would want to do. For example: If he's been talking about wanting to see the latest action movie - ask him if he'd like to go. Many of the guys that answered our survey did say that they do like girls asking them out. But they hate scenes if they say no. If this should happen to you, play it cool. Sure it hurts - but as one guy said "Sometimes things come up and you just can't go. If I say no, but she's really cool about it, I may ask her out next time."

4. How do you make a guy like you?

OK - I think by now you can guess the answer to this one. That's right - you can't. Almost 100% of the guys we surveyed said you just can't make a particular guy like you. However, there are guys out there for every gal. How do you get someone to like you? Be yourself. Overwhelmingly our guys said they want a girl to be themselves. Having a sense of humor also ranked up there as well. We've said it before, and now we have guys saying it "Why would you want to make a guy like you? If he doesn't like you after knowing you - move on! Some other guy will."

5. What is the right way to flirt with a guy?

There are many ways to flirt with a guy it seems. But for most it comes down to just a few simple things: eye contact, smiling, laughter and conversation. So gals - if you like a guy - give him a little eye contact. Send your best smile. Start a conversation and be relaxed. If you're not a comedienne - you can still have a sense of humor. Laugh at his jokes. (But only if they're really funny, please.) If things seem to be going well - a little light physical contact can't hurt. Touch him on the arm while talking for instance. But don't get too touchy - especially at first. It can freak him out.

6. What's the one thing you should never tell a guy?

Although the answers differed slightly - the majority ruled that talking about your ex(es) and other guys that you like was a definite no-no. A guy doesn't want to hear what you like or liked about another guy. Just as we're sure you don't want to hear how hot the chick in the next booth is. Our guys also mentioned that this changes over time and that the closer you are with someone - the more you can mention your past. But it is still touchy for most.

Something else that ranked high on the list is that guys really don't want to hear about your periods. As one guy put it "Anything having to do with your period, its awkward for us, just like you'd feel awkward if we told you we killed a puppy or something..." So table the girlie talk gals...

7. What do you do if he's already got a girlfriend / wife?

LEAVE HIM ALONE! The best you can hope for is friendship - but it's even better to set your sights on someone else.

8. What should a girl say when giving a guy her phone number?

"Call me." It's simple - and what most guys answered. Others said they really don't care. The best line we got was "I'd really like to talk to you again." But for the most part the guys want you to play it cool - especially if they haven't asked for your number.

9. What would turn a guy off the most?

Talking about your ex, flirting with other guys, being fake, jealousy, clingy chicks and acting like a slut were the most common responses. Bad breath was also a turn off for a lot of guys - so be sure to keep some mints handy.

10. How can a girl tell if a guy likes her? What are the signs?

How can you tell if a guy likes you? According to them - it's easy (sure it is......):


He'll talk to you more - or less.

He'll hang around you more - or less.

He'll act shy around you - or flirt with you more.

He'll make eye contact with you.

He'll smile at you.

Uh huh. Thanks guys. LOL. Communication seems to be key. Listen to how a guy talks to you. Does he seem more nervous around you than he did before? Or does he ask about you more? Most guys had different responses - but all seemed to agree that if you really paid attention - you would be able to tell. And if you can't tell - ask. (That's what the guys said - not us.)

More....

We gave guys a chance to offer any additional comments or advice, and here is a bit of what a few had to say:

Girls, never be someone who you are not. You don't want to end up living the rest of your life a lie. Its not fun.
It is acceptable for women to express interest in a man.

Take the initiative, a lot of guys hesitate, and both people possibly miss out...
Just be yourself. That's the best way to attract YOUR mate. If he can't accept you without your social status or who you hang out with, then he isn't worth it.
*** and love are very different in the mind of a guy, most guys will sleep with any attractive female who shows interest, but they are surprisingly picky about falling in love.
If you dont try you wont know ..give it a shot ... you'll do fine!

............sakto gyud bt. not all sad gyd

[ohohoy]

mostly sakto..

[hachiko]

haha, naluya ko ug binasa pero lingaw. nice article

[cptn_star]

dpende ra man ni...weather weather...boys are not created equal.

[colby]

nice,thanks. but better if personal experience.

[colby]

1. How does a girl get a guy to notice them?

to be yourself! show your personality - and look your best doing it.

2. How do you get a guy to call you and ask you out?

There was no surefire way to "get a guy to call you". Sorry gals. But all is not hopeless. Don't wait for it. Ask the guy out.

3. How do you ask a guy out so that he won't say no?

build up a friendship with the guy. Make sure you have things in common.

4. How do you make a guy like you?

there are guys out there for every gal. How do you get someone to like you? Be yourself.

5. What is the right way to flirt with a guy?

few simple things: eye contact, smiling, laughter and conversation.

6. What's the one thing you should never tell a guy?

the majority ruled that talking about your ex(es) and other guys that you like was a definite no-no.

7. What do you do if he's already got a girlfriend / wife?

LEAVE HIM ALONE!

8. What should a girl say when giving a guy her phone number?

"Call me." It's simple - and what most guys answered.

9. What would turn a guy off the most?

Talking about your ex, flirting with other guys, being fake, jealousy, clingy chicks and acting like a slut were the most common responses. Bad breath was also a turn off.

10. How can a girl tell if a guy likes her? What are the signs?

He'll talk to you more - or less.

He'll hang around you more - or less.

He'll act shy around you - or flirt with you more.

He'll make eye contact with you.

He'll smile at you.

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Ako gi summarized imo post.. Taas kaayo, pero nice brad.

[colby]

I'll share my personal experience..

1. How does a girl get a guy to notice them?

I stare @ them especially If I like him. It works so far.

2. How do you get a guy to call you and ask you out?

I wait, but usually I ask a friend so we can all go out, not just me and the guy.That is a good start and its not so obvious you like him.

3. How do you ask a guy out so that he won't say no?

build up a friendship with the guy. Make sure you have things in common.

4. How do you make a guy like you?

Be yourself and give him more attention.

5. What is the right way to flirt with a guy?

eye contact, smiling, laughter and conversation. -RIGHT ON THIS ONE.

6. What's the one thing you should never tell a guy?

ex lovers, problems and your ideal guy

7. What do you do if he's already got a girlfriend / wife?

WIFE- LEAVE HIM ALONE, karma will haunt you.
GF- wait if mag break...

8. What should a girl say when giving a guy her phone number?

the usual thing I say to people when I give my number, "keep in touch ", "Text text"

9. What would turn a guy off the most?

no proper hygiene and dishonest

10. How can a girl tell if a guy likes her? What are the signs?

Here is my clue why I know my 2 exes and current bf likes me:

a. always texting me, asking how am i
b. gives me more attention
c. Mag pa sweet and say things na usually he will never say to girls he doesn't like
d. seems to be very happy every time he sees me
e. asking somethings about me through my friends.

[Fern]

this all sounds like a trait of a Gay momo

[arf2]

haha chuya tinuod ni dah!!

[yvonne6]

Comment From a Man:
1. How does a girl get a guy to notice them?

Ya..ur ryt... once, we'll notice u want attention from us we will take advantage of ladies...

2. How do you get a guy to call you and ask you out?

hehehe nice lady to be my #2 or #3.. for fun indeed

3. How do you ask a guy out so that he won't say no?

heheh a girl doing a first move?...is juz good for dinner

4. How do you make a guy like you?
do anything..we love making fun heheheheh..

5. What is the right way to flirt with a guy?
A woman who does a 1st move is always flirty... no need for planned actions.. just come close!

6. What's the one thing you should never tell a guy?
(I say your comment on this one is right!!!)

7. What do you do if he's already got a girlfriend / wife?
Come close..if you want fun...... and heartaches in the end!

8. What should a girl say when giving a guy her phone number?

"Call me.".... i love this one

9. What would turn a guy off the most?
(I say your comment on this one is right!!!)

10. How can a girl tell if a guy likes her? What are the signs?


He'll act shy (kuno) around you - or flirt with you more. (this one is right!!! )

He'll make eye contact with you.(i love this one..heheheh )



Take the initiative, a lot of guys hesitate, and both people possibly miss out...




Bottom Line:
Even at modern times, Filipino men are still conservative in nature!
Simple, conservative & formal women to be GF#1
"Modern" women for fun or GF#2, #3, etc...

*** and love are very different in the mind of a guy, most guys will sleep with any attractive female who shows interest, but they are surprisingly picky about falling in love.

i was gonna comment the same thing. this may work in more liberated countries like the states where men have high regard for women, no matter what. in here, i mean, diri sa ato sa pinas, lahi jud. if u do these things, mahadlok na hinuon ang lalaki but sure will take advantage of you, mangabang man gani ang uban, kana pa kaha ang libre noh? maayo kunog gubag kay balibaran. anyways, filipino men in particular, although im not generalizing but almost, tend to brag and be proud kung ang girl is making the first move. they have the tendency to think nga igat ka and u can almost do this to every man you like, scares the men to be committed to you. lahi ra gyud ang ideal woman nga naa sa mind sa filipino guy. atong mga laki, mo ingon dayun, siya may nag una2 nako maong nagka uyab mi. so before trying these moves suggested, make sure you know enough the kind of guy you like kay imbes ma duol ka niya, basi na hinuon you will end up hating each other because sa iyang pag tanaw nimo after sa imong mga gipang himo. careful girls, be very careful