
Originally Posted by
Monmyhand
It took me years to learn how to control jealousy.
Jealousy arises because of many factors, one most toxic is Insecurity. The feeling that your lover is being too friendly, often seemingly "inviting", especially if she is in an environment full of males. It starts with a little doubt, and like acid, it burns through the system, and when you confront her with it, it simply ignites a bigger conflagration.
Over time I realized how much of herself she gave to me, her body, her soul, her heart, her time, resources even, and Insecurities tend to hide those, and present itself, therefore breeding ill contempt. How unfair and insulting would that be to the very essence of LOVE.
I realized this: if I really love her, as I honestly do, I should hold her in HIGH ESTEEM AND RESPECT. I would even ADORE her like a goddess. That is my love for her. Love however is fragile and needs to be nurtured, but there are so many negative thoughts that the siege is endless.
It takes strong resolve really to learn this. Now, I feel I am a better man for my love, and I really hope that she sees and feels it. Jealousies are like rust.. it corrodes and eventually weakens the structure of Love over time.
Mai... I love you so much. I am sorry for the heartaches I have caused you due to my jealousies. Please be the goddess that you are to me.
Jealousy is hardest to control in proportion to the Fears that one has in losing the only love that matters.