Divorce, Legal Separation, Annulment: What is your stand?

[cholokoy]

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Mao nay giingong, gipasaylo pero gibulagan.

[Ms.Beau]

^mao jud bro. forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean reconciliation.

forgiveness is letting go of the desire to take revenge, to let go of the hate. reconciliation is the restoration of trust. di man ma restore ang trust right away coz as you said, trust is earned...it'll take time for the offender to prove he/she is truly repentant and is now trustworthy. if it takes the offender 2 years to mend his ways, does it mean i should hold my forgiveness for 2 years also? dili oi. i can extend it as soon as i want. forgiveness is for myself, my own health, my own peace of mind.

[rey04]

that is where me and evs and whoever else it was here... disagrees with you... you see marriage as a burden. the burden is the problem NOT the marriage per se.

if you have a balanced marriage then dili na siya burden but if you have a problematic marriage then that is very burden. if marriage is not burden then why not marry your sperm donor instead?

did i say you decided on divorce? i was asking you a question. at least u said it na gyud na u will prefer divorce if naa.

magulo ka chong... para kang...nagcha-cha. front---back... sideways chachacha! hehehehe. paki-expound nga ang "and i didnt have any choice if there is no solution." sorry. anyone reading this--- help me understand that statement nga pls? hehehe.

at least nag chacha with a partner unlike yours na tinakasan nang partner, hehehe.....very simple to understand, no solution then what would be your choice. your lawyer beloved could be the answer to your request na paki-expound nang sentence koh. the two of us are having a great conversation here huwag ka nang hingi ng tulong sa iba!

The topic is... Divorce, Legal Separation, Annulment: What is your stand? --- your stand according to you is STAY MARRIED and only because the law says it. That is what I gleam from your posts.

Oh and speaking of posts... I should have said.. posts...IN THE MANY DIFFERENT THREADS here in the Family Life section.

Just because you have been married it doesnt mean that you are the expert on it. Anyone who is exposed to married folks would know almost as much. Being unmarried does not mean that we are ignorant. Just as I know that putting my hand over open flame will hurt and I do not have to do it to prove my point.

Because we are in the Philippines and not in your loving U.S.A. setting. Don't americanize the topic madam! Be vigilant in our laws here!
it is you are the flame and not marriage. you say marriage is the flame and not you? goshhhhh.....kailangan ko nang tubig dito....
kung hindi ka pa ignorante then you should have married your sperm donor instead miss marriage expert.

God has His plan for each one of us... we sometimes go against His perfect will by making stupid decisions. Some He has planned to be married and some He has planned to be single for life. To make a sweeping statement such as single people are married to careers/money is such bigotry if you ask me.

And what pray tell, is your notion about women being single forever?

It is not God who planned to you being single, but you against his plan. buhay ka pa inday! now you say marriage with you sperm donor miss expert is a stupid decision. does he knew this? what a presumptuous you are!

To my notion about women staying single, tanungin mo nalang yung vendors outside your shop. they have great answers to your question. :mrgreen:

i didnt marry him because he is one irresponsible person. he has a well-paying job... before he used to earn more than me...and when i was dependent on him for our child's needs...he gave so little. and just because he is the BIOLOGICAL father... IT DOES NOT OBLIGATE ME in any way manner or form to make him part of my son's life (according to my lawyer). IF he wants to be part of my son's life... there are corresponding responsibilites that he has to accomplish (again, according to my lawyer). If we have parted ways... WALA AKO OBLIGATION in the eyes of man and God na sinira.

Now i earn enough for me and my son...and earning more than him. hahahaha. God is good indeed!

Oh and you really didnt answer my question....
Ganun diay? ALL the sacraments instituted have a sacrifice? How about Baptism? Ano man sacrifice nun? Yung LIFETIME ka na parent? If we follow your logic.... would you say that being a parent is a burden now?

there it is! you want to control your sperm donor's earnings. you want 100% of it because its what your beloved lawyer advices. pambihira ka inday, meron ka pang lawyer adviser(bigat mo chong!). Other reason could be that you want your sperm donor to be a female like you. when you say sit then he should sit. BIGAT MO PARIN DAY!

tingnan mo naman sabi mo expert ka dito then nasa uyab2x pa kayo then separate na agad. idealistic ka inday! baka gusto mo magbasa about marriage yung sperm donor moh. then bakit ka bumigay sa kanaya inday? you should not have given him your precious "YES". ilang buwan lang ba kayo nagkarelasyon then bigay agad, very intelligent decision......tsk,tsk,tsk...

[angelfyre]

that is where me and evs and whoever else it was here... disagrees with you... you see marriage as a burden. the burden is the problem NOT the marriage per se.

@rey 04: haaay naku. if u see marriage as a burden, e d wag magpakasal. tapos. nya kng kasal na tapos na realize na burden pala, ang masasabi ko lang....nganong ni enter!

[rey04]

the topic speaks by itself.

@rey 04: haaay naku. if u see marriage as a burden, e d wag magpakasal. tapos. nya kng kasal na tapos na realize na burden pala, ang masasabi ko lang....nganong ni enter!

[jugs_06]

OT: la sa nanghilabot ko ha.. pero you guys are getting personal here.. ngano naabot gud mo ug sperm donor..

kalma lang mga bro's and sis..

[angelfyre]

^^LOL@ jugs.

btaw. i wanna reiterate....if dli na jd magkasinabot, after all efforts/means have been exhausted, im pro divorce. i think its more unhealthy to see the parents, together nga, tapos cgeg away.

[charmz_fire]

Bitaw.. why stay in a relationship if both side r sufferring,..d ba?
so better na lng jud na mgseperate cla ug ways in a legal way.
para mgmalinawon ang usag usa.

[angelfyre]

ang puso mo rey04.....ang grammar hehehe. btaw oi...kalma lng kuno mo

[charmz_fire]

if you have a balanced marriage then dili na siya burden but if you have a problematic marriage then that is very burden. if marriage is not burden then why not marry your sperm donor instead?

sir.. ikw ra mn gauna2 ug ingon ug burden2..
uhmmm.. u hav da idea mn but.. libog lng nimo pagkaxplain!
try to evaluate it daw.. den han-aya imong mga thoughts..
para everybody here will fully understand wat u really mean.

***peace every body!
our hot discussion here is a
positive sign ra ni nga dghan jud mgpakabana.. if about building a family na ang hisgutan!
(*smile for everyone*)