Emotional Breakdown. Please help. :((

[beyee]

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When are you going to be ready sis? When you'll be knocked up by this jerk?
Dako na na problema nuon.

Just humble yourself and accept all the scolding from your family, sis. That's
inevitable because they're family. After all the sermon, you'll start all over
again with their love and support.

Stubborn jud ka sis not knowing the gravity your partner is doing to you.
It's like bahala na he's hurting me, it's his way of showing how much he loves me.
Sorry to break it to you sis but it's totally CRAP.

[laxxx]

@starcatch: lots of times na nako siya itry talk. And lots of times na na fix naman namo.. pero after how many days iba na naman sya.. i mean wala na namang pakialam. Grabe ka impatient when it comes to me.. and says really harsh things to me. I just dont get it lang why these happen.. i mean.. we were so inlove.. and then this? Sakit2 kaau. Murag gi balewala na jud ko niya. As in wala jud paki.

@emailroy2002 thank u so much for ur words.. anyway, to be honest, financially speaking, I'm the one spending 95% for us.. even rent, food, gas, unsa pa.. but when he has money sad, he gives everything he can. Murag ga bawi ba.. i just have a question for u, when u were acting like how u were before, what were u thinking? Pls dont get me wrong i dont mean to sound off here.. i just wanna know.. coz dba if love mo ang tawo dili mo kaya ihurt? And if na hurt mo sad, it wouldn't take days before u realized u caused her pain?

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@lifeisbeyeeutiful ok sis i'll say it.. wala na sad ko parents since I was 12 y.o. they both passed away na. And Im an only child. Since they died, I lived with my half sister (we have the same dad). But we were never really close.. i mean we were okay but not the type I'd cry to. Not the type who'd comfort me at these times. Simply put, i really have nowhere to go to. Thats it.

[beyee]

Okay, thanks for the info sis about your family.

Given that you have nowhere else to go but would that justify how you allow yourself to be
treated like that? If you want that kind of life, then don't whine and cry why he's like that to
you. However if you want to put a stop to this, then start over and live independently.

The only person who can help you rise above from all these is only YOU, sis. Don't wait on
someone who'll run your life but be your own person. Be strong.

Worst case scenario, you'll soon find out he has another girl and he'll leave you right on the spot.

[laxxx]

@Lifeisbeyeeeutiful How do i start? I mean we live in one place after all. I cant just leave I'd have to look for a place.. when he gets home, do I still attempt to talk to him and try to sort things out? Or do I just keep quiet? Natatakot ako baka ma annoy na naman sya sa akin.. Being together in one place and not talking to each other is effin hard I swear.. but the fact that he ignores me is harder.

[beyee]

You guys should talk. Be firm in telling him what's happening.
If he gets too defensive then ask him what's causing him to
be like that to you. If he gets too violent, then there goes
your answer sis.

[laxxx]

@lifeisbeyeeutiful i already know what his answer would be sis. It would either be "ambot i dont know" or "sorry jud sa temper ko.." then he would go and say na naman na he really loves me, reassures me, and then i dont know.. but it could also be of a negative outcome. Like magagalit sya.. i dont know how or where to even start talking sis.. baka kasi nagsasawa na sya sa ganoong usapan.. im afraid magalit na naman sya and masaktan na naman ako.. btw thank u so much for helping me and listening to me ha..

[beyee]

You're just going around in circles sis. That's how emotional battery is.
You don't realize that you're trapped in a sick cycle pattern. He's never
going to change. The difference is, you can alter this by leaving.

If you still answer me that you can't because you have nowhere else to go,
then that's your call. I don't wanna go further anymore because there's no
sense in pointing out to you the obvious.

It's either you're soliciting ideas from us or just ranting about the whole thing.

To end this note, God bless and be strong.

[laxxx]

@lifeisbeyeeutiful Ang mean mo naman.. ansakit kaya. no sense talaga? Pwedeng denial muna pero ofcourse I will get there? Yes I am asking for your advices and ideas.. But also maybe a little comfort, not all harsh truth coz I already know that.. and this isnt ranting.. maybe the whole point of even posting this is to ask from u guys help so I can understand why he does this to me and ofcourse, how I should I handle it. Anyway, thank you so much.

[beyee]

Please read everything I posted sis, I "helped" you in
looking at the big picture about your dilemma yet
you're going in a different direction.

Comfort? Doesn't giving you advices entail consoling?

I'm sorry if I sound so mean and harsh but I'm just
being real here, sis. Reality is never sugar coated and
trimmed with all the good stuff but we have to hand it
to you even if it hurts you.

There are some people who ask for advices yet they
end up not listening or taking it because they refuse to
face reality... And like you put it, in denial...

[quirkychinita]

Hi istoryans..

Wala ra jd ko mo sturya karon.. And I dont know where to start. First and foremost, I dont speak and understand Bisaya very well so please bare with me.. All I know is sakit2 kaau. My boyfriend and I, well we're both not from Cebu. Ng move mi d about 7 months ago para mu start over.. New job, new people around us, most esp, new environment and new start para namo. Mo 2 yrs na mi sa Sep26.. But lately, wa jud sya gana. He always hurts my feelings. He tells me one thing, like sorry jud sya for hurting my feelings and he wants to make things right na then after pila ka hours gusto nya akong palayasin.. this has been repeatedly happening for the past weeks.. dili ko man kaya mo halin ky palangga2 ko sya kaau. He also tells asks me "are u sure about us? Ky ako sure jud ko.. i want to marry you and spend the rest of my life with u.." then after naman like katong ginising ko sya 30mins earlier than scheduled because I told him I had high fever and asked him if pwde niya ko palitan tambal sa pharmacy, he got mad at me. He didnt give a sh*t about me being sick. Then he didnt even say goodbye before he left for work. Before kay grabe man sya mag alaga sa akon and grbe ka lambing. I dont know whats happening. What i dont understand is why can he say things then just end up breaking my heart again?? In less than 24 hours. why? Ba't nya nakakayanang masaktan ako?? Why can he promise me things like marry me and MAKE THINGS RIGHT but then he cant do it naman?? Wala syang idea gaano kasakit. Ilang beses na namin napag usapan to and ngiging ok naman pero cycle lang eh, masasaktan lng naman ako ulit. Wala pa akong mpuntahan ksi wla naman akong kakilala o kamag anak dito sa Cebu. Help ((((((

leave before you are left!

pain is temporary.

Mistakes like HIM teaches you one big lesson in preparation for your next MAN.

And oh! Make him drool all over you when you're over him.

If you're not hIs everything, you're NOTHING to him at all, so might as well get off his hair.... When a man loves a woman, it's always 100%, not 50%, not 99.99%...

I know kokontrahin mo rin advices dito kasi there's that little voice in you that says NO. But then since lumapit ka dito sa thread, then LISTEN/READ well and comprehend, take the most useful tips from here, dont mind the trolls, LISTEN and call your FAMILY and then decide.


dont make things complicated!!