is love just a game??

[sweetz]

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nope... if you love, you'll always be a winner...

[nolex]

indeed

it's a game played by the heart.... an instance like letting someone go is similar to losing a certain game (say basketball) wherein you have to accept your lose & frustration.. because with it, you'll learn... and because you learn, you make sure you play better next time... but if you still lose, then there is still some other time... and so on..

[lover_online]

how do you play the game??
how should we win??
any rules??

you asked for some rules?? here are some...

Never allow your partner or yourself to denigrate the other.

You must have personal respect and consideration for yourself.

Everyone deserves respect and love, but you can't expect to get it unless you give it.

If you allow your partner to disparage you, expect to hear other damaging words.

Whatever you are willing to accept is exactly what you're going to get.

Be compassionate, understanding, forgiving and merciful.

Patience, kindness, consideration and thoughtfulness can never be in short demand.

Never let a person use names or words to hurt or degrade you or your partner.

Vow to protect yourself from thoughtless, rude, mean or punishing behavior.

If destructive words are being used, for whatever the reason, it must Stop. If not, a relationship can't survive.

Once you've reacted you can then be proactive.

A controlled mouth shows a controlled mind. Use words for empowerment, encouragement and positive recognition.

Ask for respect. Quietly demand it. If your lover, partner, parent or friend can't exhibit self control over their mouth, seriously consider looking elsewhere for a relationship.

Pick an appropriate the time to discuss important issues. This is particularly true if there is an emotional charge where feelings of anger or vexation need to be vented.

Never enter into discussion of personal, private or intimate issues in public. Wait until you have privacy and the time to tackle issues.

If a person makes a mistake, or does something that disappoints or angers you, belittlement or badmouthing them in front of others will only lead to further resentment, anger and frustration.

Trying to discuss things in bed just before sleep, or while getting ready for bed is simply thoughtless, inconsiderate and a remedy for disaster.

Trying to discuss anything when the other person won't cooperate or take the time to talk is a waste of time.

If necessary make a date to talk.

If the person keeps on delaying or avoiding conversation or discussion on issues that are important or significant to you, you may need to put it in writing and place it in their hands.

Talking is good for closure of some issues. And, unless allowed, will create a wound that won't close.

rules loveYou can never truly waste your thoughts and words on the separated or departed. Life and thought continues.

Romance doesn't just exist, you must make it happen. You must make a sincere effort to keep it alive to help your relationship flourish.

Little things count, it doesn't have to be a dozen roses and champagne all the time. A favorite piece of candy in a pocket or a little note can mean a lot.

Commit yourself to do something romantic every day. Show it. Demonstrate it. It's the accumulative total of all the little things that in end adds up to a super special love and romance.

[meOwkyU]

waaa lover_online! grabe na nah!!!

well actually love IS a game...juz like LIFE, which is also a game

think about it, sometimes we define life as a play wherein everybody is the actor...ing-ana ra gud na na pagkasturya....

metaphor raman to ang pag define sa love as a game.....not the literal play-boy game definition

so chill out pipZ love IS a game...depende na nah sa tawo kung unsaon nya pag sabot, ug unsaon nya pag play sa game....its either he will PLAY by the definition or play na walay hinungdan lang.....

so people, enjoy playing...juz put in mind that during the game, someone is gonna get hurt if u play dirty... ^_^
-meOw-

[nolex]

you asked for some rules?? here are some...

Never allow your partner or yourself to denigrate the other.

You must have personal respect and consideration for yourself.

Everyone deserves respect and love, but you can't expect to get it unless you give it.

If you allow your partner to disparage you, expect to hear other damaging words.

Whatever you are willing to accept is exactly what you're going to get.

Be compassionate, understanding, forgiving and merciful.

Patience, kindness, consideration and thoughtfulness can never be in short demand.

Never let a person use names or words to hurt or degrade you or your partner.

Vow to protect yourself from thoughtless, rude, mean or punishing behavior.

If destructive words are being used, for whatever the reason, it must Stop. If not, a relationship can't survive.

Once you've reacted you can then be proactive.

A controlled mouth shows a controlled mind. Use words for empowerment, encouragement and positive recognition.

Ask for respect. Quietly demand it. If your lover, partner, parent or friend can't exhibit self control over their mouth, seriously consider looking elsewhere for a relationship.

Pick an appropriate the time to discuss important issues. This is particularly true if there is an emotional charge where feelings of anger or vexation need to be vented.

Never enter into discussion of personal, private or intimate issues in public. Wait until you have privacy and the time to tackle issues.

If a person makes a mistake, or does something that disappoints or angers you, belittlement or badmouthing them in front of others will only lead to further resentment, anger and frustration.

Trying to discuss things in bed just before sleep, or while getting ready for bed is simply thoughtless, inconsiderate and a remedy for disaster.

Trying to discuss anything when the other person won't cooperate or take the time to talk is a waste of time.

If necessary make a date to talk.

If the person keeps on delaying or avoiding conversation or discussion on issues that are important or significant to you, you may need to put it in writing and place it in their hands.

Talking is good for closure of some issues. And, unless allowed, will create a wound that won't close.

rules loveYou can never truly waste your thoughts and words on the separated or departed. Life and thought continues.

Romance doesn't just exist, you must make it happen. You must make a sincere effort to keep it alive to help your relationship flourish.

Little things count, it doesn't have to be a dozen roses and champagne all the time. A favorite piece of candy in a pocket or a little note can mean a lot.

Commit yourself to do something romantic every day. Show it. Demonstrate it. It's the accumulative total of all the little things that in end adds up to a super special love and romance.

rules are meant to break.... just as promises are made to be broken...

because nobody is perfect...

[lover_online]

when you break these rules...it makes the game unbearable..some became crazy because of breaking these rules or being the one who is the victim of the one breaking the rules...

[maerkz]

depends who the person is. pag not
serious then its a game

[lover_online]

^^ I disagree... can u elaborate?? or give reasons why u say such??/ pleasssssssse??

[naz]

you asked for some rules?? here are some...


Romance doesn't just exist, you must make it happen. You must make a sincere effort to keep it alive to help your relationship flourish.

Commit yourself to do something romantic every day. Show it. Demonstrate it. It's the accumulative total of all the little things that in end adds up to a super special love and romance.

i like these rule... :mrgreen:
do you have ways in making romance happen??

[meOwkyU]

@ naz
lalaki man ka sah? ikaw juy makatubag ana! hehehehehehhehe
girls are juz meant to respond....pero there are times wen women need to initiate<---about this one? i dunno how to do it

pero i think....do something special everyday...bring her to places she hasnt been to....watch the sunset together (i know this is old but i guess it works) etc etc etc...pwede sad ligo sa rain with matching ki-at or watever (samtang rainy season pa kay walay gasto den ma enjoy pa ang girl...kuan pa jud na..unusual which is very attractive!!! den pagkahuman trapo trapo daun sa tubig-ulan....pa concern effect kay basi sip-onon...SWEET!!! )