Stage of Confusion

[nijazared]

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I suggest talking to both girls...it should be fair enough to both if you're honest to them. Then take it from there...i'm sure the girls would definitely tell you what they think about what happened. Pero IMO it is still too early for you to say kay the new girl is still "new", it could just be infatuation, worst thing that could happen is you lose your GF for a could-be-GF.

[meltd0wn]

@kimlee, that's what i am trying to do..i'm always trying my best to reach out to my girlfriend kay bisan nagpasakit pa na siya nako krn, a part of me says just be patient..so yeah..i'll talk with her face to face soon..hopefully i'll have the guts to tell her this..

@sol, that is why i am asking insight from a different person's point of view..cause somehow i am being unfair to my girlfriend right now..although mkaingon pa jd ko rn sa akng self na i dont feel anything more-than-friends feelings towards new girl, pero our closeness is just "selossable"..and tao ra mn pd ko..i have my weakness..

@nijarazed, aw wa mn sad mi naghisgot ni new girl about "us" mn pd gd..there was never an "us" sa amng discussions unless kanang binuang2x ra..otherwise, mura ra jd mig very close friends..as for my gf, she knows about new girl but she doesnt know the closeness we share..murag mao ra cguro na now akng sala pd niya.. T___T

[nijazared]

If that is the case you can let it stay that way. Just make sure you don't cross the line. But mind you, since the new girl is your officemate the tendency is you would be spending more time with her than chatting with your GF, this translates into the possibility of your relationship with the new girl going to another level and eventually breaking up with your GF.
Make the new girl a friend and only a friend, then try to ignite the fire once again with your GF, but remember that it always takes two to Tango. I'm afraid though that there is also a very large possibility in the future of you having to choose between both. Just be ready for the worst.

[bowee]

dont lose your gf... mao na akong tip nimo..

why? because your just carried away with your emotions that you feel your gf has neglected you na...

This new girl, im sure isnt the one you love.. your just carried away by the thoughts of her listening to your problems and helping you emotionally....

its unfair not only to your gf but to the new girl as well.. (if you decide to shift emotions)... Your just emotionally hurt (by your gf)... and entertaining a new girl (because she listens to you more than your current gf) will and will not solve any kind of problems...

you will just be fooling yourself and the new girl... if there was ever an emotional attachment on your part...

dala ra na sa bul.og sa imong emotion brad nga nasakitan ka... it will wither away in time...

[pinoy_09]

How sure are you that your gf is not doing the same? How sure are you that your gf's feelings aren't also fading away? The communication barrier she created should be a red flag my friend.

[bowee]

if we have full of doubts then walay padulngan ang relationship jud.. one has to make a sacrifices for anything to work..


im not saying that you should be the one to start the ball rolling.. but inorder for you to make that sacrifice.. you need to give trust to earn trust as well.....

[meltd0wn]

@nijarazed, i'm thinking that way too..i have to know my limits and not go to the point of no return..murag akng pag-treat mn sad ni new girl, according to some observers (mga other friends sad naku), kay mura ra daw ug manghod..though ang weird lng jd dw kay mag-uban dw mi pirme

@bowee, mao sad na bro akng gi-huna2x..i'm trying to muster every patience i have na musabot sa akng gf..i dont want to say in the end na nagkulang ko niya, or that it was my fault why we broke up..i want to hold on to that last point of hope..

@pinoy, naa na pd na niya bro if mao na iyang buhaton..well, i can say sakit jd siya at times na feel nimu neglected ka or taken for granted..bsta right now di lng jd ko ganahan magkulang niya..hehe

[icon_king]

@icon king, as i said, i am not romantically in it with new girl..we're just friends, though i'm not so sure if friend rba jd akng na-feel pra niya or i'm just denying to myself that reality..gave myself some time to think last night and i thought ani mn sad ko before with other female workmates pero wala mn to nagka-issue pd..and yeah, wa sad koy gipanguyaban sa mga previously close female workmates naku..

also, a part of me wants to go on with the relationship i'm having now..ang ako lng ba kay basin nakalitan lng bitaw ko na LDR mi sa akng uyab then na-divert lng ang akng attention sa kung kinsay naa sa duol..

later on ma develop ra nya ka anang imung workmate. labon na mag away mu sa imung uyab. asa man diay na padulong nya LDR pa gyud mu sa imung uyab...pabor kaayo madala ka sa work mate nimu believe me ive been there

[meltd0wn]

well, i was also once in an LDR..actually, my last relationship was one..pero since my ex constantly communicated with me, wa jd ko na-fall pra sa lain..in my current case now, mao lagi naay times na wala jd, naa pd times na mag-cge pd text akng gf..mao bitaw na mabaling akng attention sa uban..kay sila may makahatag sa akong attention na akng gi-need..the attention that i needed from my gf..i still hope though na dili muabot diha na point..

[icon_king]

well, i was also once in an LDR..actually, my last relationship was one..pero since my ex constantly communicated with me, wa jd ko na-fall pra sa lain..in my current case now, mao lagi naay times na wala jd, naa pd times na mag-cge pd text akng gf..mao bitaw na mabaling akng attention sa uban..kay sila may makahatag sa akong attention na akng gi-need..the attention that i needed from my gf..i still hope though na dili muabot diha na point..

then dont take the blame if something will happen to your relationship...ang tao mangita gyud ug kalipay ug tagaan ka sa imung uyab ug problema aw dili nana sala nimu ug makakita kag lain. If ikaw ang nag control sa inyu relationship, good for you , pwede ra ka mag ego sa imung time nya and imung friends. Pero in most cases in LDR relationships dali ra gyud mu fall out of love...