Confusing and painful stuff...

[bowee]

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There's this girl I really like that likes me back too...there's no problem there...we both want each other, the problem is we still cant be together...unless...she gets into an open relationship with me with the certainty that there will be other girls who are gonna "join" her...its too complicated to explain here...but I just cant settle down right now, and I cant NOT have multiple relationships, but trust me if I could just be with her and her alone, I would. It just really hurts both ways this time, not having her would hurt like crap, but I think having her will hurt just as much coz I think she'd be hurt every single day of the relationship. I'm really considering just keeping her as a friend or not doing anything at all. But I'm gonna ask questions first on if we get into a "relationship". So here they are:

1. How would you feel if you are in a relationship with a guy that you really love but you know, and I mean CLEARLY know you're just "one of his girlfriends" instead of THE ONE?

2. And if you were in this situation, being one of his GFs, but you knew sometime in the future that the guy will actually be able to settle down and have just one and that one just might be you, would that be enough solace?

3. How'd you feel if it wasn't you?

4. If he was the best guy you've ever met in your whole life, the guy you'd die for in a heartbeat, the guy you know you'd want to spend the rest of your life with, would you endure being in a multiple relationship with him before you can actually be in a proper relationship? (I'm not saying I am that guy to her, but I will do everything in my power to be that guy to her if I put her in that damn hurtful situation!)

Man its just one hell of a dilemma right now.

btw...d questions above are just for girls, but if guys wanna answer just post ur opinions if u have any.

before anything dude.. your just the one really complicating your own problem.

Anyway. if your not a player or a chickboy.. then why can't you be with just one girl and never with 'multiple girls'? Cant you not get any satisfaction of just having one rather than having many?

1.) if I am the girl, of course, common sense.. I would be HURT!, why? because Im just fooling myself loving a person but in the end I can't really have him/her... what's the purpose of having a no commitment type? just for the heck of it well, its really advantageous on your part as a guy on this type of relationship.. and its a lose and lose relationship to the girl... sa kinsa lay maigo una sa feelings.. mao to ang alkanse jud...

2.)Every person is selfish to his or her needs... Again, why continue in a relationship that doesnt have any endings at all.. and knowing that the person your in right now..isnt sure he will pick you as ultimately his partner in the end... You mention 'might' ... so there's still a 50/50 chance the guy will not pick up the girl in the end.. its really the girl's losing side again...
If I were the girl? mo move on nalang kog guy nga who has no doubts in ending up with me jud.

3.) Silly question!!

4.) TS.. You are not a model that I would kneel down in your midst... hell even if your the super gwapo or even if you are.. TO hell with your charm... I would rather look for a guy (though not born quite handsome) but still with a penchant that will stick with me in all my ups and downs.. than to a guy who thinks highly of himself and of his selfish plans..

So there you go... either way.. You are not and DEFINITELY NOT Worth STICKING TO... to a girls standpoint....

[sugbuana]

The more the merrier TS?

wa jud nay maayung padungan ng istayle nimo. may pa mag sugod ka ug seryoso ug tao para seryosohon pud ka...

[miyay]

an open relationship for two consenting adults, why not?

but if you can take the higher road, let her go so she can be someone else's only girlfriend.

[reginakrys]

first of all, i think what you're saying nga "can't NOT have multiple relationships" is BS. as in necessary gyud nga daghan imong uyab?

but okay, we'll pretend for a second that you REALLY have to.. i wouldn't get into a relationship with you, even if i really like you, and even though i know it's going to be difficult for me to stay away from you.. i'm going to save myself from even greater hurt that will surely come my way if i do consent to be just "one of your gf's"..

but my decisions are based on experience.. it's no good being just "one of the few".. yes, you might enjoy the time you spend with him, but that's only temporary.. kadugayan, hurt gyud ang abton ana.. and more and more hurt as magkadugay ang relationship and mas ma-attached ang girl sa guy..

if you really love her, spare her all this and let her be with a guy who can make her the ONLY ONE.. whether it be another guy, or you yourself be that guy who will make her feel truly happy..

[ViperRKO]

First of all, judging by WHAT you only wrote here, mao ra sad na among ika say nimo!

As for you reason why YOU have do it, and you have to do it because YOU HAVE TO, then kana lisod nana namo sabtun if you are not gonna tell us what really is the real score or the real deal behind your problem!

So back to the matter, you are posting this here because you are confused and in pain and you want advice from us. How are we supposed to give you advice without all the details that are locked up there in your head? Unsay point na nag post ka diri to ask for advice but giving us only a few options but still want us to end up giving you a clear advice?

It is like you are asking US to bake you a cake but only giving US Sugar and Salt! NO Flour, NO Milk, NO eggs and whatever it is needed to make one!

So brad, this is a forum and yes we respect that THIS is your thread. If you want help that you need, then give us what we need here. Anyway, we do not really know each other here. At least man lang bah, maka specify sad mi ug hatag nimo ug advice anang problema nga imung geka gul-an dinha!

Murag na igo ka ani nga dili ka angay ma igo...I don't recall u insulting me or anything on this thread.

That post wasn't for everyone, sa ma igo ra...wa na ko'y sala ana kung na igu diay ka.

And besides you dont need to know jud ug unsa jud ang rason ngano di ko ka stop, pero if u think u need it in order for you to give me proper advice then u know what to do.

[ViperRKO]

mga ingun-ana na situation ba, sakit jud para sa girl sa imong part kay ikaw man gud ang option ra. Mura rag katung sa MMK ay as in! Hinuun maglisod man jud ang laki but He has to decide which is which kay dili pwede daghan intawn.

OT
Nya asa naman tong laki run?

Di man hinuon ingn ana, open relationship man cya, she's free to date other guys. If she prefers another guy over me in the end, wa na ko'y mabuhat ana...baling sakita, but thats life.

[ViperRKO]

Ani nlang para saun saun na sabton, having multiple relationships is part of my job.

[Sol_Itaire]

Ani nlang para saun saun na sabton, having multiple relationships is part of my job.

dako sweldo? pwede apply?

[nijazared]

Ani nlang para saun saun na sabton, having multiple relationships is part of my job.

If that's the case then better not get into any serious relationship or yet make "paasa" to any girls. It would be unfair to them.

[jjonez_800]

Now I am starting to wonder what kind of a job is it?!?! And yeah, pwede mo apply diha? LOL