Unfaithful husband....kinsa man jud ang sad-an?

[unDisclosed]

In general sense, marital infidelity (unfaithfulness) is any form of sexual relationship outside of marriage.

Technically speaking, kadtong kaso ni Abraham ug sa iyang mga asawa, walay marital infidelity nga nahitabo adto kay iya man tong mga asawa ang iyang gikalambigit, which means the relationship is 'INSIDE of marriage'. Kun buhi pa si lolo Abraham karon, kasong polygamy (dili adultery) ang iyang atubangon.

Kun ang kapikas makig-relasyon og lain, automatic na mahulog nga marital infidelity (unfaithfulness) kay ang relasyon nahigawas man sa kaminyoon. In that case, dili relevant kun motug-an ka o dili. Unfaithful gyud ang tawag sa imoha. Unya magbantay2x na ka'g sugod kay simbako unya'g makasuhan ka'g adulteryo. Na, kwartong dagha'g rehas gyud ang mahimo nimong puy-anan sa umaabot nga mga katuigan. Hehe...Taas2x ra ba pud ang sentensya anang adultery.

Thanks to this sir. This is very informative. But I just have some clarifications, though.

I am no expert of the law. So gusto lang nako i-verify, does adultery anow applies to both gender? Since the last information I knew of was adultery is for wives who was unfaithful while for husband it is called concubinage (with a much less punishment).

Please enlighten me.

[yanong_banikanhon]

does adultery anow applies to both gender? Since the last information I knew of was adultery is for wives who was unfaithful while for husband it is called concubinage (with a much less punishment). Please enlighten me.

I am not a lawyer, so please don't take my words as legal advice. View them at your own risk. Anyhow, I will share my understanding on the question you've asked.

Adultery applies to the unfaithful wife and her lover. So kun mapamatud-an nga sad-an, ang asawa ug ang lalaki nga iyang kalambigit magtingkagol gyud sa bilanggoan. Apil sa sentensya ang lalaki nga lover, regardless kun single, married or byudo na siya.

Usa ka nindot nga example ani is kadtong nahitabo ni David Scott, usa ka british national. Nakauyab si David ni Cynthia nga usa ka filipina. Nagpadayon ang ilang relasyon hangtud nga nabuntis si Cynthia. Unya kay minyo man diay to si Cynthia, pagkahibalo sa iyang pinoy nga bana nga naa siya'y kaipon2x nga Briton, nisumbong kini sa pulis. Gidakop si David ug Cynthia unya gipasakaag kaso nga adultery. For more details about their story, please follow this link:

http://philfaqs.com/live-there/culture/moral-and-legal-dilemmas-and-wrong-head-thinking

Ang balaod bahin sa adultery (RPC Article 333) duna po'y shortcomings. Kay bisan pareha ra'g silot ang lalaki nga lover ug ang unfaithful wife, ang kasong adulteryo mahimo lamang ipasaka kun ang babaye nga involved sa usa ka unfaithful relationship minyo. So kun ang imong bana manguyab og dalaga o byuda, walay kasong adultery nga mahitabo. Mahulog na siya og concubinage.

So ang pangutana, unsaon na man lang tong mga bana nga single o byuda ang trip ?

Don't worry, there is a specific law for that. That is RA 9262, also known as 'AN ACT DEFINING VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN AND THEIR CHILDREN'. This law is also mentioned here:

https://www.istorya.net/forums/family-matters/226733-very-important-republic-act-no-9262-a.html

RA 9262 Sec 3C
Psychological Violence refers to acts or omissions causing or likely to cause mental or emotional suffering of the victim such as but not limited to intimidation, harassment, stalking, damage to property, public ridicule or humiliation, repeated verbal abuse and marital infidelity.

The penalty for "psychological violence" is a minimum of six years up to twelve years of imprisonment. The maximum penalty is imposed if the violence is committed by the intimate partner against the woman when she is pregnant or in the presence of the common children.

src: http://famli.blogspot.com/2006/01/adultery-concubinage-and-psychological.html

One important point to note: The violent acts (including marital infidelity) mentioned in RA 9262 are considered public crimes. Nagpasabot nga, dili lamang asawa/bana ang pwedeng mo-complain. Kun ang usa ka silingan nalooy na kaayong nagtan-aw sa usa ka asawa nga gidaog2x, pwede siya mismo ang mangunay og complain aron masugdan ang imbestigasyon. So kadtong mga bana diha, bantay2x na ta'g sugod.

P.S.

Kinsa tong gustong mobasa sa full content anang R.A. 9262, please follow this link:

http://dswp.org.ph/reading-materials...c-act-ra-9262/

[THE SKULLS]

kaning "Faithful" nga term, mao ni atong hubaron. Sa asa man gud ni gibase? Sa pulong kaminyo-on o pagbati?

[yanong_banikanhon]

kaning "Faithful" nga term, mao ni atong hubaron. Sa asa man gud ni gibase? Sa pulong kaminyo-on o pagbati?

This is obvious. Kay kaminyoon man ang gihisgutan, so 'marital infidelity' refers to the act of unfaithfulness to your marriage vow/contract, not to your own feelings (pagbati).

[reginakrys]

ang husband, kay cya may nangabit.. maskin pag losyang na kaayo ang babae, even obese, or even if daghan na kaayog problems within the marriage, finding a kabit is not the answer..

PS. sayon ra kaayo ignon para sa mga lalake nga ayaw lang pud patuyang ug pa-losyang, kamo kunoy bantay bata whole day beh? (hehe defensive)

[bowee]

ang pagbantay sa bata doesnt mean you forget yourself najud... there are things you need to look after.. and not your kids lang sad... its about quality time and time management...

if you can afford to tend your kids.. im sure somewhere, somehow you can also afford to tend yourself sad... its a poor excuse to say that because you have kids na.. you tend to lose yourself nalang because all your attention are on your kids na... that's just pure baloney...

if there's a will there's a way jud...

its goes both ways.. for the husband... and for the wife...

[reginakrys]

ang pagbantay sa bata doesnt mean you forget yourself najud... there are things you need to look after.. and not your kids lang sad... its about quality time and time management...

if you can afford to tend your kids.. im sure somewhere, somehow you can also afford to tend yourself sad... its a poor excuse to say that because you have kids na.. you tend to lose yourself nalang because all your attention are on your kids na... that's just pure baloney...

if there's a will there's a way jud...

its goes both ways.. for the husband... and for the wife...

have you tried being a full-time parent? heck, even your sleep gets interrupted kay the baby needs to feed in the middle of the night.. and not just once ha, but twice, thrice, even TNTC for newborns.. add that stress to the pounds you've gained while you were pregnant.. voila!

for new mothers, tending to ourselves means getting a quick shower and a toothbrush.. this was the case for me before we got a yaya..

but don't get me wrong, i'm in perfect agreement with taking care of our bodies sad.. it's just that sometimes, people underestimate how much time and energy taking care of a baby can take..

[bowee]

have you tried being a full-time parent? heck, even your sleep gets interrupted kay the baby needs to feed in the middle of the night.. and not just once ha, but twice, thrice, even TNTC for newborns.. add that stress to the pounds you've gained while you were pregnant.. voila!

for new mothers, tending to ourselves means getting a quick shower and a toothbrush.. this was the case for me before we got a yaya..

but don't get me wrong, i'm in perfect agreement with taking care of our bodies sad.. it's just that sometimes, people underestimate how much time and energy taking care of a baby can take..

i totally understand the point on the mothers and the wives out there.. its really not easy rearing a child and juggling also to manage the family and your career... BUT.. bsag unsa ka busy nimo tingali..there's still one hour or two that your free from all of the worries.. and even that single hour lang.. if your really willing to make it work out... you can tend to exercise (at the premise of your own home), bsag unsa ka gamay tingali sa time.. if tagaan jud nimo ug oras imong kaugalingon..naa jud nay time.. bsag.. unsa pa ka busy.. if your willing to make sacrifices to yourself.. you will and you can jud...

P.S.

even having a diet is an effort of sacrificing naman..

[jumper_stage]

dili nalang gyud mo enter

[reginakrys]

i totally understand the point on the mothers and the wives out there.. its really not easy rearing a child and juggling also to manage the family and your career... BUT.. bsag unsa ka busy nimo tingali..there's still one hour or two that your free from all of the worries.. and even that single hour lang.. if your really willing to make it work out... you can tend to exercise (at the premise of your own home), bsag unsa ka gamay tingali sa time.. if tagaan jud nimo ug oras imong kaugalingon..naa jud nay time.. bsag.. unsa pa ka busy.. if your willing to make sacrifices to yourself.. you will and you can jud...

P.S.

even having a diet is an effort of sacrificing naman..

yes, and in that 30mins to 1hour that the baby's napping, you're going to have to nap along with her man sad kay mahugno na jud ka if dli ka makatulog.. kulang man jud imong sleep at night due to frequent waking ups.. again, dli jud ka maka-realize how time-consuming a baby can be until you have your own.. and more demanding pa jud na on the mother's part kay more often than not, dli man ang papa gipangita sa baby, ang mama man..

i'm speaking from experience.. but i must say it gets better as time goes by kay the baby will learn how to entertain themselves naman and they can go on longer at night without waking up to eat.. but during the first few months? sos kuwang ra jud ang 24hours sa usa ka adlaw (if you don't have a yaya)..

so husbands, instead of looking somewhere else for pleasure kay abi dli na sexy imong partner, maypa you will help your wives with her responsibilities (household chores, errands, etc), so she can take care of herself more sad..