need advice!

[tatajhun]

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sure man kaha ka bro?

[mike5]

sure man kaha ka bro?

yup, no doubt about it. but still i don't know what to do. murag unwanted baby btaw, i know many will hate me for saying that including myself.

[reginakrys]

first of all, i love my gf and i care for her so much. the problem now is she's pregnant and i don't know what to do. from the start complicated na jd au amu situation because of her past and i don't think she's the one i want to spend my lyf with. we're both in our early 20's.

tanaw nako, naa ra diri imong answer.. "i love my gf and care for her so much".. you're just scared now kay you don't know how to handle the situation.. you say you knew from the start nga complicated inyong situation, but why did you continue with your relationship? (I'm hoping here nga it's because you love her, and not solely out of lust)

throughout our relationship, makaingon jd mi na d mi compatible because of our differences. cge rami argue ug halos every other week naay muask ug space or sahay break up pa gai, but we worked it out ra japon. as time goes d naman gd ko ka let go nya kay nakainvest nako sa ug dako, ako feelings, time, money and even pride.

every couple has their own set of differences.. no two people are alike so magclash gyud na in one way or another.. what you should think about is how far both of you would go to compromise, not how you two are poles apart..

karon buntis na cya, nagduha2x jd ko unsa buhaton. she gave me the options to stay or to go away.
if i stay, kbaw ko lisud jd kay i don't know how to say it to my family. also, my frens know about her kn asa mi nagkaila. another thing is ang gasto, dako2x na pd ko nagasto nya unya kn mupadayon ko samot pa jd na kadako. ug ang iya pa jd past magcgeg hunt nako.

you're too worried about how others will react.. your family and friends should be able to accept your mistakes.. and you know her better than anyone else, so you shouldn't let that bargirl=[insert whatever stereotype here] bother you.. natural, gasto gyud nang bata.. but it can be worked out labi na you and your partner are both capable of working..

if i go away, ang ako pd kay ang gaba ug ang akong image basin madaot na jd. also, i don't want her to live miserably cuz most likely mubalik cya trabaho sa bar f mawala ko.

you're more worried about your image than how your child will be raised without a father? tsk3x.. i'm starting to think here nga you're just trying to dig up every excuse available (her past, your parents' expectations, gasto, imong image) para muescape kas situation..

[tatajhun]

TS: nganong gi enter ahahaha

[emow]

@ TS: whatever your decision is...it will be alright.... free yourself from all these worries....its good that you have all these issue within you, which means you're not a no-good MF...weighing things honestly is the best course of action right now... it seems like you really like this girl..if it wouldn't be for her past, there would have been no issue right now... what ever you decide, just don't let your child suffer...

[mike5]

@ TS: whatever your decision is...it will be alright.... free yourself from all these worries....its good that you have all these issue within you, which means you're not a no-good MF...weighing things honestly is the best course of action right now... it seems like you really like this girl..if it wouldn't be for her past, there would have been no issue right now... what ever you decide, just don't let your child suffer...

yes, i've learned to love her because of what she is despite her background. but i don't know if i can take and accept that the mom of my child is someone like her. i admit that im a very close-minded person.

[philcrasher]

judging by your story...your just looking after yourself bai... and NOT looking for your gf's welfare...especially karon nga buntis na cya.. and its your child pa jud iyang gidala..


luoy imong gf brad... NOT like you.. nagdako cya sa kalisod.. she made both ends meet thru her own efforts ug wala cya nagsalig bisan kinsa.. even her parents... kaw? asa man ka nagsalig? dba sa imong parents lang ghapon...??

your gf is a survival type... and I admire her for that... wala cyay gtamakan nga tao aron lang mabuhi cya dire sa kalibutan.. independent ug strong cya.. that is what I assess on her... tingali sa kadaghan niyang naagian nga problema, ni bisan usa.. wala cya nangita ug tabang or advice sa iyang problem.... KAW? gamay ra tingali nimo problema dangop dayon ka sa imong mga friends, parents... sya? i dont think so.. she is all alone in this world and she survived all the things thrown at her.. (pintas, insults, discriminations and etc)

paeta sa imong gf bai oi, imo man lang byaan.. d ka ma konsencya ani brad? mabdos cya, byaan dayon nimo? of course being a survival type, she is not that type nga ingon ka nga ipa angkon ug ipabuhi nya imong anak... pero mind you brad.. bisag unsa cya ka strong sa iyang self... deep inside she is crying... wala lang ka tingali kamatikod.. pero alone at night.. in her room.. she is crying for the fate she has been....

Where are you in this bro? imo lang personal ego imong gtanaw... what about her? though wala na cyay ego to face others (dugay na gitamakan iyang ego sa mga tao), she is still a girl or a woman in need of someone to love and accept her.. esp sa karon nyang gdangatan....

dont be a chicken bro.. if ako pay naa sa imong stand... dugay na nako cya g.cheerup ug gsupportahan all the way.. bisag d cya mosugot.. she is just testing your capacity as a MAN to support your actions.. and by the looks of it...

Your less than the guy she knows for.... and probably your no better that the rest of her clients/customers who just wants her or her body.. all for their self satisfaction..

paeta sa imong gf bro... i pitied her jud....

Agree ko nya BRO.......

[emow]

yes, i've learned to love her because of what she is despite her background. but i don't know if i can take and accept that the mom of my child is someone like her. i admit that im a very close-minded person.

then what made you stay with her for some time? it may help that you won't focus so much on her experiences... what do you think could help you accept her? what would you like her to do?

[mike5]

then what made you stay with her for some time? it may help that you won't focus so much on her experiences... what do you think could help you accept her? what would you like her to do?

nothing much really cuz she's a sweet loving partner to me and i know all our differences can be sorted out.

if only we can live elsewhere where we could start a new life, there wouldn't be much of a problem. my biggest concern is really my family and loved ones. i could say im my parents favorite child and they regarded me highly. i know it's part of growing up to be independent, and i know i can do that. what im really afraid of is i might disappoint my family especially my parents. but in the situation im in, i really don't know how.

[kurdapia.nikki]

DO OR DIE. Ay pag binayot
It would be so gay if you get rid of this.
You didn't mention nga ikaw nakabuntis nia, ikaw ba?
I assume ikaw. HAHA.

PERO, libog lage ka Brah?
Love nimo sha? Pero you knew right from the very start that your relationship won't work out.
Nia niabot sa point nga imo sha gibuntisan? Ana ka you love her, but why are you so ashamed to tell your family about it? Why are you so hesitant to be a father to your baby? If it's love, you wouldn't think twice nga imong angkonon ang responsibilidad and dili nimo sha ika-uwaw.

Murag di na love. HAHAHA.