need advice!

[locust101]

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lge bro, ako prob jd is saon pgsulti sako family and frens na nakabuntis ko ug someone like her. kbaw na bya ta pinoy grabeh au mudiscreminate.

discreminate all they want.. ang ending ana bro kaw ra gyud makabuhat ug sakto.. inlove man kaha ka ana na girl dli na nah mo matter kung unsa siya... ang mo matter unsa imong guilt free decision na buhaton.. ma luoy tawn ka sa girl.. lisud na ang panginabuhi ron..

[bowee]

judging by your story...your just looking after yourself bai... and NOT looking for your gf's welfare...especially karon nga buntis na cya.. and its your child pa jud iyang gidala..


luoy imong gf brad... NOT like you.. nagdako cya sa kalisod.. she made both ends meet thru her own efforts ug wala cya nagsalig bisan kinsa.. even her parents... kaw? asa man ka nagsalig? dba sa imong parents lang ghapon...??

your gf is a survival type... and I admire her for that... wala cyay gtamakan nga tao aron lang mabuhi cya dire sa kalibutan.. independent ug strong cya.. that is what I assess on her... tingali sa kadaghan niyang naagian nga problema, ni bisan usa.. wala cya nangita ug tabang or advice sa iyang problem.... KAW? gamay ra tingali nimo problema dangop dayon ka sa imong mga friends, parents... sya? i dont think so.. she is all alone in this world and she survived all the things thrown at her.. (pintas, insults, discriminations and etc)

paeta sa imong gf bai oi, imo man lang byaan.. d ka ma konsencya ani brad? mabdos cya, byaan dayon nimo? of course being a survival type, she is not that type nga ingon ka nga ipa angkon ug ipabuhi nya imong anak... pero mind you brad.. bisag unsa cya ka strong sa iyang self... deep inside she is crying... wala lang ka tingali kamatikod.. pero alone at night.. in her room.. she is crying for the fate she has been....

Where are you in this bro? imo lang personal ego imong gtanaw... what about her? though wala na cyay ego to face others (dugay na gitamakan iyang ego sa mga tao), she is still a girl or a woman in need of someone to love and accept her.. esp sa karon nyang gdangatan....

dont be a chicken bro.. if ako pay naa sa imong stand... dugay na nako cya g.cheerup ug gsupportahan all the way.. bisag d cya mosugot.. she is just testing your capacity as a MAN to support your actions.. and by the looks of it...

Your less than the guy she knows for.... and probably your no better that the rest of her clients/customers who just wants her or her body.. all for their self satisfaction..

paeta sa imong gf bro... i pitied her jud....

[bowee]

permi mo mag away because after all she has been through.. she badly needs your attention.. though she hates admitting it... kaw nalang tay mosabot TS.. she has been worned and tattered already...

cguro she may have some deep secrets wala pa nimo mahibaw.an.. maybe in her childhood.. you have to understand nalang her always bro... sikop jud ang ulo basta wala kay makit.an future for yourself... and the guy she thought she can help her (in you), is doubting whether he wants to stick with her or not..

put yourself in her situation kaha TS... all your life you've been insulted.. thrashed and used by people for their own self satisfaction.. tarong kaha imong personality jud? d kaha twisted sad...

imo nalng ta sabton imong gf bai.. wala cya nagdako parehas anang mga lain mga girls naa juy family... and who is supported by their parents thru thick and thin... gpadako sa mga exclusive schools and graduated with medals..

your gf is the opposite of those girls.. and you should accept her for what she is.. because she didnt hide it from you the first time you met her in the bar......

[mike5]

i can sense here nah ang reason why ganahan ka mobiya nya tungod kai magcge mo ug away and everytime magaway mo makathink ka sa iya past.

pila na diay mo ka months/years nagkuyog, if i may ask??

if bago pa, dugay jud kau nah mawala sa imu ang kaagi sa imu partner esp ug bati ang iyang kaagi but as time goes by and maka-appreciate naka sa inyo relationship, di naka makahuna2 atong mga saona.

advice lang nako bro sa imu, ang pagbuntis sa babae kai critical kau nah, ug wala ka kai kinsa may mosuporta ug mo-abag nya? its best to receive support sa papa sa iya gidala. anyway, if she doesn't want you around, she'll get rid of you.

kinda, although she changed alot, d japn nako malimtan iya past. at first pd she admitted man na wala jd cya nagseryoso nako until she fell head over heels for me. the worst thing she did to me before kay nangutang cya nako nya kn d ko makapaulos kay mubalik cya work, maski naa cya kwarta. spoiled man gud au cya sa iya ex-partner. wa daw cya naanad d tgaan ba. nya ako d man sad ko mubasta2x ug hatag kay lage i don't see her as wife material ba.

we've been together for almost 2 years na..

i know it's very crucial and that she wants me around. i know sad na kon mutakas ko naa ra cyay madaganan kay ubay2x pud ang nanguyab/magtigminyo unta nya sauna before pa nagkakami.

dba fair raman if magtunga mi sa tanan gasto for the baby?

[mike5]

judging by your story...your just looking after yourself bai... and NOT looking for your gf's welfare...especially karon nga buntis na cya.. and its your child pa jud iyang gidala..


luoy imong gf brad... NOT like you.. nagdako cya sa kalisod.. she made both ends meet thru her own efforts ug wala cya nagsalig bisan kinsa.. even her parents... kaw? asa man ka nagsalig? dba sa imong parents lang ghapon...??

your gf is a survival type... and I admire her for that... wala cyay gtamakan nga tao aron lang mabuhi cya dire sa kalibutan.. independent ug strong cya.. that is what I assess on her... tingali sa kadaghan niyang naagian nga problema, ni bisan usa.. wala cya nangita ug tabang or advice sa iyang problem.... KAW? gamay ra tingali nimo problema dangop dayon ka sa imong mga friends, parents... sya? i dont think so.. she is all alone in this world and she survived all the things thrown at her.. (pintas, insults, discriminations and etc)

paeta sa imong gf bai oi, imo man lang byaan.. d ka ma konsencya ani brad? mabdos cya, byaan dayon nimo? of course being a survival type, she is not that type nga ingon ka nga ipa angkon ug ipabuhi nya imong anak... pero mind you brad.. bisag unsa cya ka strong sa iyang self... deep inside she is crying... wala lang ka tingali kamatikod.. pero alone at night.. in her room.. she is crying for the fate she has been....

Where are you in this bro? imo lang personal ego imong gtanaw... what about her? though wala na cyay ego to face others (dugay na gitamakan iyang ego sa mga tao), she is still a girl or a woman in need of someone to love and accept her.. esp sa karon nyang gdangatan....

dont be a chicken bro.. if ako pay naa sa imong stand... dugay na nako cya g.cheerup ug gsupportahan all the way.. bisag d cya mosugot.. she is just testing your capacity as a MAN to support your actions.. and by the looks of it...

Your less than the guy she knows for.... and probably your no better that the rest of her clients/customers who just wants her or her body.. all for their self satisfaction..

paeta sa imong gf bro... i pitied her jud....

thanks for this bro.

sakto jd ka bro, survival type cya na babae. she's very independent from her family because wa cya nilive up sa ila expectations nila. naa man kaya iya family but angkon cya na d cya nahan magpacontrol. which is also my problem now. d jud cya gusto controllon nya dali ra au cya sapoton. sakto pd ka na dependent pa au ko sako family. i don't want to disappoint my family cuz they have high regards for me.

i wish i could share to all you guys what me and my gf went through. sa nyo pagsabot, selfish jd au ko and i accept that, but there's a reason behind it all.

anyway thanks for your inputs bro, nabagting ako utok.

[Blackbeard]

aw independent mn diay sya, buwagi para dili ka mahasol. bahala ug makalisod IMONG mag-ina, basta ikaw okay ra, diba?

[bowee]

@TS

put your reasons aside lang sa bai... she may not be the girl you would take to the altar.. but reality bites.. you made love to her and it resulted to a baby...

whatever reasons you have.. it doesnt justify you leave her hanging now or not supporting her karn... I bet when you courted her.. it wasnt really love that you pursue her sa... it was the BIGA.. that urge you to court her.. to have her as you and only you lang.. aron ikaw ra ang maka.angkon jud nya.. sakto? or dili? love was just second or third reason why you courted her...

you admit your selfishness bro...because now you just realize how hassle you just made and this 'problem' that is staring right at your face...

face it squarely and be a MAN bai.. whatever its worth.. when you made out.. she gave you a big smile on your face after.. RIGHT??

don't end it nalang ana kasayon...kay judging by it sad.. karon nalang ka nangitag mga sayop niya.. pero katong wala pa nimo cya maka score... you forgot where she came from and where she's been....

now you got her impregnated.. daghan na kaau kag reasons on NOT sticking with her.. tsk tsk tsk....

[mike5]

@TS

put your reasons aside lang sa bai... she may not be the girl you would take to the altar.. but reality bites.. you made love to her and it resulted to a baby...

whatever reasons you have.. it doesnt justify you leave her hanging now or not supporting her karn... I bet when you courted her.. it wasnt really love that you pursue her sa... it was the BIGA.. that urge you to court her.. to have her as you and only you lang.. aron ikaw ra ang maka.angkon jud nya.. sakto? or dili? love was just second or third reason why you courted her...

you admit your selfishness bro...because now you just realize how hassle you just made and this 'problem' that is staring right at your face...

face it squarely and be a MAN bai.. whatever its worth.. when you made out.. she gave you a big smile on your face after.. RIGHT??

don't end it nalang ana kasayon...kay judging by it sad.. karon nalang ka nangitag mga sayop niya.. pero katong wala pa nimo cya maka score... you forgot where she came from and where she's been....

now you got her impregnated.. daghan na kaau kag reasons on NOT sticking with her.. tsk tsk tsk....

ya, i admit part ang biga, maybe the 3rd factor lng guro. what really pushed me to court was my ego.. i couldn't shake it off that time na naa cyay gientertain na suitor, in parallel nako. wla jd ko planu manguyab nya until i found out about it.

we talked about going separate ways on countless occassions na. every week naa jd away, every other week guro muask cyag space or magtigbreak na cya nako kay kapoy daw cge away yet she starts all the ruckus. usually amu awayan kay ako cya controllon, pero d cya magpatoo.

kbaw ko either way akoy bati tanawon ani, but what can i do..

[AntitaniC]

just support the kid... and it's up to you if you wanna be with the girl or not...

if you think you're not meant for each other... then don't push it. Don't add another mistake to your existing one.

[Eve's Apple Project]

@ TS: bai, hard to say imoha ang bata & not good to judge your GF since we don't know her pesonally. but since nagka-uyab man mo then i suggest panagutan nimo. Marrying her is like suicide as of the moment,you don't have to marry the girl just because na buntis sya.

If we follow logic bai: you can't say imo ang bata because of your GF's former work (did you mention how long she worked there & how long she has left the job). A girl on that industry (although harsh, but just a reality) is likely to have more experience over you & they can easily trick you for stability's sake.

if you follow your heart: you should provide for her since it is possible nga imo jud nang anak. again, you don't have to marry her just because you got her pregnant (at early 20s, bata pa kaayo mo bai). For sure partly lust na ang reason why you got into relationship with her anyway. ang problema is if one day you realized that it is just physical attraction & pride (prince charming effect, we "guys" sometimes has that illusion). once you get married bai, & basing from your situation di mo makaafford og annulment (sad to say). so do the matured way here, don't rush into things. for us Pinoys marraige should only be for matured people kay daghan na kaayo nagbasol nga nisulod ani..wehehe

SO for me bai you only need to give her the support she needs (labi na ang financial). carrying your kid is not easy bai, & you should be greatful for that gift. your family will understand someday. Good luck!