I am so STRESSED!!!! Help me please!

[Scott Bernard]

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my job now revolves on real estate.. its stressful bcoz we just started our operations here in cebu this month. im on training for a few months and after that, i would handle the operations of the branch.. what adds up to my stress is the fact that after 4 months, i would be left alone to handle everything.

i mean, we have so many agents but there are only 2 office based employees.. i cant leave this job because this is my cream and crop..am i using the right idiomatic expression? i have also wanted to become a part of this company ever since i started working.

and another thing, my bf doesn't want my work. he gets too jealous about every man i meet. it flares up my stress..

Ah, so you're position is managerial as you have described it. In management, you have to delegate your job to your subordinates, so that they would feel they are part of the company. Managers cannot do it all by themselves, you have to use the available resources around you. Do you recall the 5 M's of management?

From what you have posted, it seems that even if you are pressured in your work and stressed out, you still love your career, and that is what's important. Because job satisfaction is a key ingredient on job motivation. So the reason you cannot leave your work is because you enjoy doing it, inspite of the hardships... !

Just try your career. Who knows you could get a hang of it after quite awhile. But if your job could lead you to bad health, then better look for another.

[lainedram]

learn to love your job.. eat healthy and sleep early... also it helps to be friends with your workmates para lingaw mo while working...

honestly, i love my work because I have been waiting for this job ever since.. i mean, company wise, its one of the major players in the real estate industry..

but we are so undermanned here..

[lainedram]

Ah, so you're position is managerial as you have described it. In management, you have to delegate your job to your subordinates, so that they would feel they are part of the company. Managers cannot do it all by themselves, you have to use the available resources around you. Do you recall the 5 M's of management?

From what you have posted, it seems that even if you are pressured in your work and stressed out, you still love your career, and that is what's important. Because job satisfaction is a key ingredient on job motivation. So the reason you cannot leave your work is because you enjoy doing it, inspite of the hardships... !

Just try your career. Who knows you could get a hang of it after quite awhile. But if your job could lead you to bad health, then better look for another.

thanks.. that really helps.. but how can i delegate when there are only 2 office based employees here? me and my boss who is here to train me? after the training, i would be left alone here doing all the jobs.. i dont think the head office has any plans of hiring someone to assist me..

can you please refresh my mind on the 5 Ms? it has been a long time since my last management subject..

[fern-pewee]

cguro dile na stress...burnout na sa work...
kng stress take stresstabs! as advertised...
do gym
do nightouts
do out of town

[zilb]

SMILE
u nid a break, vacation perhaps..
relax see a movie..
spa, massage & refreshment!

[TheInfidel]

annoyance of some people i guess... but more on continuous and multiple unfinished jobs..

Err, are you a guy? If so, get yourself laid. Get some *** <--- you know what this censored word means.

Kidding aside, you'll just have to be optimistic about your work. Before you can even achieve that, first, you must confront what causes your stress. If you can then confront it, solve it. Once solved, you'll be amazed to see that unfinished workloads and those "people that you can't get along with" are just a thing of the past. Being stressed and pessimistic about work will obviously reflect on your output.

Remember, that if you can't do this alone (and most probably you won't be able to), you can ask your friends for some help. It eases the burden and widens your options in thinking.

I know it's always easier said than done but you really have to stay optimistic

It's all in the head.

[reptoid]

Stress is anxiety caused by inability to satisfy demands ergo a symptom of failure and can manifest in manic thinking and even physical illness. Best address the root cause and set yourself practical limitations while making necessary professional/lifestyle changes.

[kurdapia.nikki]

Drink a cup of coffee

[lainedram]

you BF has some issues..basin di jud mo magdugay ana... you need a day off TS..
you can do it TS, you just hve to believe in yourself..the fact that the company is willing train you means they saw something in you (i hope, since i dont know you personally). you will not learn, or you will not know if yu can't do it unless you try...

10 hours a day...(ive done worse..).. batan-on paka TS..just make sure you have enought time to sleep..& if you have friends, hang-out with them. much better if your friends are you motivators, kay kung dili..sos kadako na nimo og problema jud...again..relax TS, then believe in yourself.

i have few friends here because im not really from cebu.. i just came here for work.. thanks for the encouragement.. i really dont want to waste or gave up my relationship with my bf.. medyo dugay na sad me.. and i dont want to waste this opportunity either.. i think this is already my break.. but is it so unfortunate that i have undergone a very intolerable stress..

my only way of releasing my stress now is my opening up in istorya...

[lainedram]

Drink a cup of coffee

yes.. i can finish as many as 5 cups of coffee a day.. =)