Dealing with In-laws

[Rakuen]

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Maybe, naging strong ako dahil sa bf ko at sa baby namin.
Mosukol nako nila bisan asa pa mi moabot. Usahay maluoy naman gani ko sa ako kaugalingon, maghunahuna ko kun unsay ako sala nila nga ila man ko daug-daugon. Kapoy bya, pero di na jud ko magpadaug-daog karon ug di nako mohilak tungod nila. Bsan kausa, wa na silay natabang or nahatag namo, sila pa hinuon maoy sige ug pangayo namo. If moingon sila nga didto sila pangayo sa ila anak, moingon ko nila nga naa koy katungod sa ila anak ug nagtrabaho sad ko para di sila kasulti nga ila anak maoy nagpakaon nako.
Sige pa jud ug panghulam ug sapatos, polo shirt, blouse ug kwarta kapin na siguro sa 10k, wa jud bayad-bayad. Moanha ra sa balay nya mokaon, matulog unya mangita kun unsa nasay ikalibak nako. Pagkawala juy mga batasan.
Siguro, mao na ni ako kapalaran... heheheh.
Pero okey ra man nako nga ingon ana na sila nako. Basta kay happy mi.

ok lang na Florevic, dili man sila ang imo pakaslan unya... as long as you and your partner are at peace and loving each other.

in-laws will always be in-laws. some are nice and some are nasty. even the nice ones can be nasty!
nevertheless, isn't it time for your partner to give a name to your baby? i'm not saying this because i'm trying to influence your relationship but so long as you're not married, you're in-laws will always have something againts you.

[malditangtisay]

@Tamblot - my way is to understand their individual attitudes and reach out to them as much as i can to avoid conflicts. i don't mind what they think and say about me. what's important is i'm giving my best effort as part of the family. so far, i'm having a good relationship with my in-laws.

[cebufox]

ok lang na Florevic, dili man sila ang imo pakaslan unya... as long as you and your partner are at peace and loving each other.

in-laws will always be in-laws. some are nice and some are nasty. even the nice ones can be nasty!
nevertheless, isn't it time for your partner to give a name to your baby? i'm not saying this because i'm trying to influence your relationship but so long as you're not married, you're in-laws will always have something againts you.

marriage will never change the way they will treat a person..dili ni pasabot nga im against marriage..ako lang gi-quote ba these words above..i just don't agree nga magminyo na lang para mausab ang pag treat sa parents sa bf ni florevic niya. i don't think so.

[florevic]

@florevic: unless you are still not serious about everything, i suggest you two should get married by now. Why?

1. marriage would put you in legal grounds. As for now, you have no right with respect to their son. That is, if we base things according to the law of the land.

2. You already have a son. I know you dont want him to grow as a "bastardo."

yes, sa wa pa mi anak, we are planning that nga ig ka 28 yrs old sa ako bf nya 25 sad nko magpakasal mi. kay wa pa jud mi budget, nya nabuntis man ko. mao nga nagtipon nalang mi, wa man sad koy plano nga ipa-abort ang baby at that time nya maghulat nga ma-25 ko para lang ma-legal amo pagtipon.
my son will never b a bastardo, pinangga man kau namo, he gave everything to him, he also give his surname kay pwde naman karn moda sa surname sa papa even if dili kasal ang parents.
thanks kaau sa inyo mga advices.

[Tamblot]

@florevic: mao ba. all i know is that, when the parents are not married. The baby becomes illegitimate (bastardo) and would carry the family name of the mother. With this, the father wont have the right to the child.

Anyways, going back to the topic, i suppose with you getting married would give you the legal rights to your family over your in-laws.

[florevic]

@florevic: mao ba. all i know is that, when the parents are not married. The baby becomes illegitimate (bastardo) and would carry the family name of the mother. With this, the father wont have the right to the child.

Anyways, going back to the topic, i suppose with you getting married would give you the legal rights to your family over your in-laws.

Nope, pwde na moda sa surname sa papa ang anak bsta mopirma sa Acknowledgment of Paternity ang papa nga naa sa Live Birth. And maybe because of that, the father has the rights to the baby.
We are planning soon, di pa karon kay lisod pa kaayo.

[Gwynhuever]

@florevic - stay strong...dedma na lang na imong in laws...samok2 lang na....

ako lucky ko sa ako in laws ..palangga ayo ko...akong feeling dili ko daughter in law...DAUGHTER jud....ang ako sad mga in laws ( wives sa ako brothers, husband sa ako sis) ok kaayo with my parents and with us...generally kami nga manag suon na swertihan...wala nag ka problema sa among mga in laws...

[rey04]

as what i have posted on the other topic "swerte2x ra ang kaminyoon" same ra pud aning topica kay "swerte2x ra pud kung unsa ang imong ma-in law". as for me i got clashed already to my inlaw regarding how to govern my family coz they assume man gud that theirs are better than ours which sometimes it is not quite right pud. it feels better to talk things straight to your in law kay morespect na sa imo right kay if you wont tell him or her then till death do us part pud inyo libak2x, hehehe....

[baruto]

i'm happy that my mother-in-law loves me....

i'm concerned about my own mother coz she and my partner don't have a very good friendly relationship... maglalis jud ambot nalang!!!

but not in front of me coz my mother knows sayop sad cya panagsa hehehe...sumbong nalang tawn na ako lovey-dovey kung unsa ila gilalisan...luoy pud bya...

[wise_mary888]

Mutual respect is highly needed in this type of situation. In all things, respect your mother and father-in-law. Remember, they are the parents of someone very special – your spouse. But it is best for each family to realize the independence of the other. Your spouse must know your parents will not interfere with the family you are building. Your parents must realize you and your spouse need to build a life and relationship separate from them. This requires patience and, at times, may be painful.

It’s important to honor and respect your in-laws, but above that, protect your marriage. This principle will pay great dividends in the future.