tarong ba ni? (need some advice)

[blu bizcuitz]

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respeto lang men!
yahay ra kaayo siya naka girlfriend siya ug parehas nimo...taas ug patience...tsk tsk

[butong101]

TARUNG BA? this is more of a moral issue depending if that is acceptable to you and our present culture as others would say. But understanding the reason why is much a better guide.

As you can see, you are in a level of BF/GF thing now. Both are looking for someone who we think is the best, to be our partner and who has better compatibility to make us happy as a whole. Obviously, your BF is getting to know more ppl/gurls for these traits. GF paman ka, dili man ka wife niya. You dont have legal hold of him yet and he knows exactly this. Mangabit man gani ang minyu pa. If he can keep himself after all what he has seen and learned with other gurls (exploration) and found out that you have a better package to offer..he will be coming back to you...you'll see that soon.

The question is do you have what he is looking for and would keep himself to stop looking for others. Or is he worth accepting back inspite of the risk and flaws he has shown you after some explorations/mind-decision stability issues....hehehe. throwing back the coin to you.

just my 3 cents

can't help but react when i saw the BOLD words found above..
im not a moralist nor naive..
i know and had acknowledge that human as we are, we will explore what is good for us; even in relationships and romantic partners, exploration is inevitable..

If this kind of reasoning is allowed without opposition, the much cared sanctity of loving will definitely be undermined.. yes of course, legally they are not bound for each other.. sometimes, what is legal is not always moral.. and what is moral is not always correct and right for us..
my point is, even in the west - which claimed that they are not moralists, fidelity is very important and valued. That is why divorce and legal separations are very common there because of this fidelity issues..
The thing here is not about being possessive nor restrictive to our uyabs but respect, respect that each uyab needs.. not just for the good of the relationship but for the good of each partner..

my last thought.. wala ngpasabot nga uyab namo, dili na nimo siya respitohon.. ang uyab ng expect nga siya ra gyud sa imong kinabuhi.. kun dili man gani nah nimo mahatag nga siya ra gyud, mas maayo nga mo sulti sa tinoud ug mag buwag na lang.. luoy ang uyab nga ng tarong sa relasyon..

[mhelgarfield]

can't help but react when i saw the BOLD words found above..
im not a moralist nor naive..
i know and had acknowledge that human as we are, we will explore what is good for us; even in relationships and romantic partners, exploration is inevitable..

If this kind of reasoning is allowed without opposition, the much cared sanctity of loving will definitely be undermined.. yes of course, legally they are not bound for each other.. sometimes, what is legal is not always moral.. and what is moral is not always correct and right for us..
my point is, even in the west - which claimed that they are not moralists, fidelity is very important and valued. That is why divorce and legal separations are very common there because of this fidelity issues..
The thing here is not about being possessive nor restrictive to our uyabs but respect, respect that each uyab needs.. not just for the good of the relationship but for the good of each partner..

my last thought.. wala ngpasabot nga uyab namo, dili na nimo siya respitohon.. ang uyab ng expect nga siya ra gyud sa imong kinabuhi.. kun dili man gani nah nimo mahatag nga siya ra gyud, mas maayo nga mo sulti sa tinoud ug mag buwag na lang.. luoy ang uyab nga ng tarong sa relasyon..

--this is what im pointing out.
he choose to be with me. he courted. he promised everything and beyond.
and how come bisag hanyu lang delikadesa as what others said...dli niya i grant naku..

bg-o lang mi nagchat gnha...
and i asked him ako or sila?
ako nga dugai nga nagkaila or sila nga the other week lang?

then he replied, "nganung imu man kung papilion?"

i asked that question because as what he stated sa iyang message naku last dawn of 27:

"kung against ka sa akong pag expand sa akong circle of friends especially ato nila den just tell me ako nlay mo layu nila"

then he asked me nganung papilion naku xa? kadali ra niyang nalimot...

[havaianatic01]

kana nga klase nga laki dapat dli seryosohon. unsa man intawn na, kabalo naman cguro imu bf na ang kwartu private kau. bag o pa cla ngkafrndz taz psulod2 dayn.kana iyaga geingun nga watch lang movie alibi lang na, impossible kau. dunay sala nanu sa kwartu pa? basin biya sab style nana nya sis aron mgkabikil mo and molayo na ka sa iyaha.

[maraksot23]

i bet, its ur bf is not dat loyal..

[xxxerorrxxx]

that's what bothering me right now..
and worst part is..
nag movie marathon sila this 26 lang...which is our ika 3years and 4 months..
i waited for him that afternoon nga mag online xa.. (he is working on a callcenter 2am-10am iyang duty)
not knowing nga iya diay gpangtxan ang duha ka babai kai iyang g-invyt mag movie marathon coz he was bored daw.

silly me... i opened his FB account...then i found mga comment2 which annoyed me a lot!
mga 10.15 ntxt cyah saying iloveyou..then i just replied "HU CARES?"

then ni pm daun xa sa ako Fb explaining all the things that happened..
i was away sad diay pag last weekend niadto mig bantayan...
then siya pag sunday nangadtog portufino with his friends and the girls

SUS CALL CENTER PAJUD NGA MAG UNAY2x RANA CLA DIHA ..
MAG UNAY2 PA WALA SA DUKA BAH! hahahah ..

KLARO NANA AMEGA.. BUWAGE NA OI! NA PUL-AN NA cGRU NA XA.. NAG PA GAHI NA SA IYAGA PA MOVIE MARATHON PA DAW!

[rAiNe_]

eii.. gurlie wake up.. it's ok to have friends , there's nothing wrong with that, human as we are, we need some companions as well but your BF getting to know some girls and spending time with them in a private room, then its not appropriate anymore.. and the worst is,he's not telling you about it until you caught him..

talk to hik girl, tagae ultimatum, ug dili mag usob pasagdahe ui, ngano gud uroy mag ugtos ka ug mga tawong ingon ana..

[Klave]

Hahays...for what its worth I'll give my two cents...

At least niangkon siya nga nagmovie-marathon sila...

Masdelikado kung wala gyud ka nahibawo about ana.

Tarong mu storya....

[luke0917]

waahhhhh...dli na maayo oi. ug ngano iya man jud pasudlon ang mga girls sa iyang kwarto pra mag movie marathon? wla d ay TV ug DVD player sa ilang sala?? makalagot mana ingon ana sis. bsan pa moingon cya wla gbuhat pro alangan man ug nag tan aw ra cla ug movie kuyog iyang usa ka amigo, so meaning ng tagsa sila sa mga girls? ka bigaon ba sad anang mga bayhana oi. to think anniversary pa jud ninyo ato na day. buwagi na oi. wat if maminyo mo, if wla ka naa sad cya pasudlon na girl sa inyong kwarto pra mag tan aw lng ug movie?? y kwenta nga laki sis!

[mhelgarfield]

he's staying in a boarding haws by the way.

i don't know what to do.
im planning to go to his place tomorrow to reconciliate.
i felt like im the one who's responsible nganung na in-aneh.