Help me on this pls..wat would u do?

[bolivar1985]

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just give time

[aozora]

Nice timeline you got there bro...
but would you still make the same timeline if ur gf, the girl of ur dreams, whom u thought that angelic face,that sweet smile,those tantalizing eyes did this to you?

thanks for the compliment.

it depends kung naa ko time, busy pmn krn.

for guys ok ra jud diay kung magtwo time,three time 5time whatever mo?

sample ramn na sa guy in your story. kaun man pud na...kanang...increasing the chances of getting the right one bah dba? mura gud ug raffle draw. the more entries, the more chances of winning. haha

[fejazir]

if ako lang sis..

ako buwagan ang guy.. i would ask for some space to heal my wounds..

ako xang i-CARE FRONT...

ako xang istoryahan nga wa gyd ko mouyon sa iyang gibuhat and that i am deeply hurt and need to heal myself..

dali rman gud maguba akong salig sa usa ka-tao.. if maguba.. most of the time dili na gyd na mabalik.. then, if dili or wala na koy salig niya.. i know nga dili gyd mo-work ang relationship if ever man gani nga madayon gyd mi og kasal.. unsaon man na namo ang among kaminyoon kung wa nakoy salig nya.. ryt?

like for example, kada lakaw nya.. lain na akong huna2x.. mag cge nlng ko'g duda nya.. mag cge ko'g huna2x nga katunga sa iyang gisulti nako puros bakak.. i guess it would even be better if dili nlng gyd mi mag minyo kaysa mag cge og paka buhi sa usa ka butang nga nag cge ko'g duda..

it wouldn't be a happy marriage if among pugson og pakasal..

ako lang na ha.. akong i-suggest nimo.. imo usang pangayoan og space.. aron nga ma-Ok ka.. basin pa diay og mobalik ang imong salig nya..

naa pud ka point sis...pero i think it's too harsh for the guy na buwagan nmo cya for a mistake he did so long ago(maybe kani na tym dli pa buo iya love and decision na ikaw na jud)...b4 cguro buwag, if you really wanted to bring the issue up to him, take time to listen...maybe all along he is just trying to find the right timing to tell you about it as well and is just too ashamed or too scared he would lose you kay *take note* ikaw na bya ang love niya...if you really love a person, nothing is too small or too big an issue pra dli nmo cya kaya i-forgive especially if he is deeply, truly repentant about it. If he has shown you kindness and true love after the alleged period he 'cheated' on you, why end such a wonderful and promising relationship? In relationships there are trials and only the strong and mature couples who make the effort to listen, understand, forgive, trust and love immeasurably, will be able to take home the prize.

Of course, put God in the center of your relationship. Nothing can go wrong with Him. Gud luck!

[Girl4Rent]

@TS, dont be offended that maybe during the first few months of your relationship he was just testing waters kun ikaw ba gyud iyang gusto.. Don't tell me dili sad ka in-ana.. if naka try naka lain na uyab di buh pg start kay leveling stage pa man nah.. imo pang timbangon kun mao na ba gyud.. way relasyon nga na serious ug dritso oi.. kun mao nah imong thinking na dili naka maka trust niya because saona nan hambog siya nimo wa jd padulngan inyo relationship & for sure di sd jd ka kita ug laki o babay nga dili mamakak.


If I were you, just embrace the fact that he stayed and he chose to love you because true love starts when falling inlove stops. When staying isn't about trivial kilig moments anymore but a matter of choice and commitment..

i tell u bro,im not the kind of girl who cheats...if naa koy bf,i dont test waters...once kami na,i put all my loyalty and faith to him..i see to it that he gets all my attention...pwera eskwela,family o trabaho..sori but honest to goodness jud ni akoa.. it might be hard to believe but naa pay girls nga pareha nako... i respect my bf too mch that i dont txt or see any guy..if naa man gani ako jud isulti sa bf..much more,dili jud ko magkita2x ug lain..

that's why its really hard on my part,that i was faithful and he wasnt even though it happened a long time ago..

[Girl4Rent]

thanks for all the replies guys... im still on the anger phase..sa stages of grief..there are 5 stages..
1.Denial
2.Anger
3.Bargaining
4.Depression
5.Acceptance

mana ko sa denial phase katong sauna bag.o pami na nakit.an daw sa ako kauban sa work ako bf kuyog lain girl...gibalewala rato nako..then here goes what i discovered now..imagine urself being in my situation wherein you hate this person so much because of the scandalous things she did to you and ur guy who also supported ur anger towards that person like naglagot pud kuno xa ana niya but then nagkita2x diay cla,suroy2x pa,on the days nga nahibung ka y wala nitxt o tawag imu bf ang gi rason kay natulog ra...

the person whom you hate the most is the person nga gikuyog kuyogan sa imung bf..how would u handle it?

[Blackjellybean27]

i guess that's the way the guy does it.. does that mean that the sayings are true? "The more you hate the more you love?" coz that's what the guy did..he let his girlfriend feel his rage for the ex but behind the girl's back he's having indecent proposals..

as for a person who has never ever cheated on a guy since birth,It really is quite unfair on the girl's part..

i can relate to this, coz i know my ex says a lot of bad things about me to his gf, but he still communicated with me thru text, phone calls, emails.. and in fact, always initiated the "doing it" part whenever there was a chance.

actually i get confused at that time as well, 'cause he used to tell me to my face that he didn't love me anymore, and i knew as well that he used to tell that girl that "he hated me" but i didn't understand why he was still around... and of course i knew about the girlfriend. i hated the fact that i was still in love with him, which of course lead me to do things with him even after we broke up...

eventually it stopped. he's still with his gf, very much in love i heard.
I'm not sure if the girl found out or if he decided to stop on his own.
i don't know what his purpose was, but at least it stopped... we're no longer communicating.

i think it's better if you chill out, girl... i think it was just an "ex thing" that first 6 months.
it hurts to be betrayed, but i think the fact that you think they made a "tanga" out of you hurts the more...i don't think it's meant to be that way, that they were making a fool out of you... it just happened, it was a mistake...

[Sarevok]

thanks for all the replies guys... im still on the anger phase..sa stages of grief..there are 5 stages..
1.Denial
2.Anger
3.Bargaining
4.Depression
5.Acceptance

mana ko sa denial phase katong sauna bag.o pami na nakit.an daw sa ako kauban sa work ako bf kuyog lain girl...gibalewala rato nako..then here goes what i discovered now..imagine urself being in my situation wherein you hate this person so much because of the scandalous things she did to you and ur guy who also supported ur anger towards that person like naglagot pud kuno xa ana niya but then nagkita2x diay cla,suroy2x pa,on the days nga nahibung ka y wala nitxt o tawag imu bf ang gi rason kay natulog ra...

the person whom you hate the most is the person nga gikuyog kuyogan sa imung bf..how would u handle it?

so ikaw jud diay ni sis?

bitaw sis mas better kung imo siya iconfront about ani. know his side and only then ka mudecide unsa imo buhaton. basin naa siya explanation about ani. kung wala aw hunahunaa kung mapasaylo ba nimo siya? what would it take man para maforgive nimo siya? It is better jud kung magcommunicate mo and wala dapat itago.

[Girl4Rent]

i can relate to this, coz i know my ex says a lot of bad things about me to his gf, but he still communicated with me thru text, phone calls, emails.. and in fact, always initiated the "doing it" part whenever there was a chance.

actually i get confused at that time as well, 'cause he used to tell me to my face that he didn't love me anymore, and i knew as well that he used to tell that girl that "he hated me" but i didn't understand why he was still around... and of course i knew about the girlfriend. i hated the fact that i was still in love with him, which of course lead me to do things with him even after we broke up...

eventually it stopped. he's still with his gf, very much in love i heard.
I'm not sure if the girl found out or if he decided to stop on his own.
i don't know what his purpose was, but at least it stopped... we're no longer communicating.

i think it's better if you chill out, girl... i think it was just an "ex thing" that first 6 months.
it hurts to be betrayed, but i think the fact that you think they made a "tanga" out of you hurts the more...i don't think it's meant to be that way, that they were making a fool out of you... it just happened, it was a mistake...

thanks for this enlightenment sis... it really hurts to be betrayed... and what hurts more is that ive been the "tanga" person all my life..whew..they say mga bright daw bogo sa love..hahay... ambot lng..tinuod jud siguro ni..

there's this message sa email that para nako sakit kau..even though the meaning is for the ex to give space to my bf..
this one was from my bf who sent this to the person i hate the most...and ingon jud xa na galagot jud xa ug never will he try to communicate or see that girl agen..bt anyways,here it goes..

"I love u beyond doubt to the extent that even my heart would instruct me to stay away from u because of what uv done to me..but where am I? Im still with u aside from the fact that u cheated on me..but My point is I care and I love u that much and I expect u to understand me to the extent that u will be giving me time to work things on my own and would not depend on ur orders because I accepted u before even thought your soaked in the mud of lies and deception..Love u me.."

tsk..tsk tsk...

[luke0917]

mka relate pud ko ani gamay, hahahay...

if ako ang girl, i will really ask my bf why they were still communicating that way when in fact we were already starting the relationship. maybe the strength of our relationship will depend on his answers.

pro if ng plan namo magminyo, maybe think about it all over again lng sa guro, kay lisod na if maminyo na jud mo.

make sure na maresolve sa ni na crisis sa inyo relationship before deciding to get married.

[ricardo042386]

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