Ask me any question about relationships

[beyee]

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Dear SD,

I'm so confused right now. I met a guy while I was on a trip whom we were introduced by a common friend. We hit it off right away and never stopped communicating even when I came home. We are still in the "getting-to-know" stage and everything is smooth-sailing til I began having these fears.

I asked him one time, if there's someone he longed for yet he can't have. And he answered his ex. OUCH! He was being honest about it and he had a feeling that it would hurt me. And that remark changed everything.

1. I am not good with guys' exes, from experience, guys leave coz they opted to go back to their exes -- these led me to think that I'm not good enough for them to stay

2. I always have this nagging feeling that something bad is bound to happen. It's like I'm waiting for what we have to fail in the end.

3. This guy who means so much to me makes me happy but makes me sad as well.

The last time we talked, I told him I have some issues to deal with and I'll stop our communication. Was I right to do so? I thought I'd feel better but the minute we stopped talking, I have this bad sinking feeling again.

[edliZjOhn]

what if naa ka relationship sa taw nga kabalo ka dili jud ka hatagan ug importansya but then mao man jud ang gi.declare sa imong heart, naa man unta to lain nga taw nga mas willing mohatag sa tanan para nimo. and aside from the fact nga nabantayan na jud nimo unsa ka kablewala para sA iyaha sige lang jud ka nga sige. ang naa sa imo huna2 basin samokan na xa nga sige ka ug pakita nga love nimo xa or ni care ka para niya..unsa ang pinka possible wy nga buhaton? is it like...let go and move on bahla na lang? or just give him more distance para mingawn sad siya nimo?

[miakka070]

what if naa ka relationship sa taw nga kabalo ka dili jud ka hatagan ug importansya but then mao man jud ang gi.declare sa imong heart, naa man unta to lain nga taw nga mas willing mohatag sa tanan para nimo. and aside from the fact nga nabantayan na jud nimo unsa ka kablewala para sA iyaha sige lang jud ka nga sige. ang naa sa imo huna2 basin samokan na xa nga sige ka ug pakita nga love nimo xa or ni care ka para niya..unsa ang pinka possible wy nga buhaton? is it like...let go and move on bahla na lang? or just give him more distance para mingawn sad siya nimo?

aahhh.. pwede m kuyapan kdale? pareho tag situation sis..hehe

[anjerika]

@rommel

I think you do not love her that much.
Cause if you do, you will do whatever it takes to woo her.
Church is just a little price to pay to have a good decent wife.

IT IS THEIR TEST TOO,
TO KNOW IF YOU REALLY ARE A GOOD MAN.

if you are an atheist
and she is religious christian,
then there is conflict there at the start.
So why bother.
Find yourself an atheist
daghan na diha sa mga night clubs and bars.

Wala koy simbasimba sad bro, by choice of course.
I just do not believe in religion.
But I believe in God. Not just the one described in the Bible.
Its good that my wife respects my beliefs.

pero if i were in your place
i would start going to church.
Walay mawala nimo kung mosimba ka para niya.

And ifshes busy with her studies,
all you need to do is support her in everyway you can.
Do not distract her by going out often on dates.
Give her the time she needs.
Tell her that you are always there if she needs your help.
Be patient.

ka relate ko ani hehehe. para sa ako, as long as you don't argue about religion often or as long as you don't let it get in the way of your relationship, it should be fine. although i love to debate haha

[Soul Doctor]

@ soul doctor: is it ok if i PM lang nko ako queries about love? makabasa nya gud ang hingtungdan, naa bya sad xa account dre.

ok ra.
ikaw ang bahala.

[Soul Doctor]

Dear SD,

I'm so confused right now. I met a guy while I was on a trip whom we were introduced by a common friend. We hit it off right away and never stopped communicating even when I came home. We are still in the "getting-to-know" stage and everything is smooth-sailing til I began having these fears.

I asked him one time, if there's someone he longed for yet he can't have. And he answered his ex. OUCH! He was being honest about it and he had a feeling that it would hurt me. And that remark changed everything.

1. I am not good with guys' exes, from experience, guys leave coz they opted to go back to their exes -- these led me to think that I'm not good enough for them to stay

2. I always have this nagging feeling that something bad is bound to happen. It's like I'm waiting for what we have to fail in the end.

3. This guy who means so much to me makes me happy but makes me sad as well.

The last time we talked, I told him I have some issues to deal with and I'll stop our communication. Was I right to do so? I thought I'd feel better but the minute we stopped talking, I have this bad sinking feeling again.

Sometimes people choose to be unhappy.
You were happy but your fears made you feel negative things about him.
Without him doing anything to make you feel that way.
It is all in your mind.
That's the sign of old age.
Young people look happier,
because they are carefree and they don't worry too much.

You seemed to be desperate for a relationship.
Desperation leads to broken relationship--- if you think about it.

Dont rush into things yet.
Take him as a friend.
No expectations.
Wait and be patient.
Maybe he is not the right one for you.
And maybe in time he will get over his ex and start loving you.
Thats the time you consider him as a lover.
Let him get over his ex first.

Help him as much as you can.

[Soul Doctor]

what if naa ka relationship sa taw nga kabalo ka dili jud ka hatagan ug importansya but then mao man jud ang gi.declare sa imong heart, naa man unta to lain nga taw nga mas willing mohatag sa tanan para nimo. and aside from the fact nga nabantayan na jud nimo unsa ka kablewala para sA iyaha sige lang jud ka nga sige. ang naa sa imo huna2 basin samokan na xa nga sige ka ug pakita nga love nimo xa or ni care ka para niya..unsa ang pinka possible wy nga buhaton? is it like...let go and move on bahla na lang? or just give him more distance para mingawn sad siya nimo?

How old are you?

It is normal for girls to feel that way if you are 18 and below.
You are at a very vurnerable age.
And most boys and men take advantage of that vulnerability.
That's the time they confuse you more.
They confuse you and present their lust as love.


Its a time when everything in new for you.
You are still controlled by hormones and you get confused easily.
You confuse admiration for love.
You confuse lust for love.
you confuse sudden hormone flow as love.
you confuse your curiosity with love.

when you are confused you assume things the wrong way.

So just relax and wait.
Wait till your hormone flows gets to normal at the age of 20 and above.

Most teenagers ruin they lives at a very young age
because they acted on those confused feelings..

Believe me
when you are young,
you do not need a relationship yet.

What you need is to develop yourself emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically.

Do some exercises-- join a sports club.
Strengthen family ties by bonding with them.
Read, read, read. feed your mind with information and knowledge.
Be active in church activities or outreach volunteer programs.

[beyee]

Thnx SD for ur insights... cge i won't sweat the small stuffs hehehe... we're back to talking again..

[anjerika]

find mr c.

mr c should have a stable job.
smart and walay bisyo
level headed
conservative and morally upright.
have good values and principled.
ok ra duolon og chicks basta dili lang mutubay.

agree ko ani. you don't deserve someone less. pangitag tarong oi. you deserve someone better than them.

[anej]

find mr c.

mr c should have a stable job.
smart and walay bisyo
level headed
conservative and morally upright.
have good values and principled.
ok ra duolon og chicks basta dili lang mutubay.

extinct naman ni si mr.c oi! anywayz.. thank u sa mga nag advice ug comment you really help me... '',