Ask me any question about relationships

[organ_nic]

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Good day doc,

Dili ko segurado kung valid ba ni akong pangutana, I've been loveless for quite sometime and though I have been into past relationship before mora ug gikapoy naman ko in trying to get into relationships na tarong. I know this will sound like an excuse for not having a descent lovelife but is it possible to be complete all by myself, to be totally happy without gf/bf? Possible ba na na maka learn ta to be happy without the need of other people? And if yes unsaon?

Thanks in advance and God bless.

[organ_nic]

I think there is something wrong with the way you think about life.

You put too much importance on finding the right person for you.
The other person is nothing but an extension.
Enjoy life alone with family and friends first.

I think you should find yourself first.
I think you have a lot of things to do to find yourself.
If you found yourself,
then it would be easy for that person to find you too.

Doc, can you elaborate on this?

[Ginalyn]

ahhh... karapatdapat ka nga maging soul doctor. hehehe...

naa na sd ko lain question. ive been single for 3 yrs now. do u think drs sumthng wrong w/ me?
naa ko gipanguyaban pero ni stop ko ky naa ko nakita sa iya batasan na dili ko ganahn. dn naa sd nagkagusto nako pero wala sd ko ni patol ky dili mn sd ko ganahan niya. ingon ako mga brkada pilian ra kaayo. pero mkaingon ko dili. gs2 lang jd ko na ang ako mauyab seryoso. sa past nko nga mga nauyab seryoso ko nila pero sila lang jd makasala nako so ako mkgbuwag. nganong ang akong gipangita nga seryoso mahulog mn nuon sa walai klaro.

basin seryoso ra kaayo ka bro.
with all the problems today, women do not want serious guys.
they want funny, confident guys who makes them laugh after a hard days work.

whats important is security.
as long as you got money for survival and you make them laugh then you are good.

[Ginalyn]

Good day doc,

Dili ko segurado kung valid ba ni akong pangutana, I've been loveless for quite sometime and though I have been into past relationship before mora ug gikapoy naman ko in trying to get into relationships na tarong. I know this will sound like an excuse for not having a descent lovelife but is it possible to be complete all by myself, to be totally happy without gf/bf? Possible ba na na maka learn ta to be happy without the need of other people? And if yes unsaon?

Thanks in advance and God bless.

that is they key.
learn to be happy without a special someone.
be happy with yourself. be happy with your job. and with the things you do.
have fun, dont be stiff and serious.
and when girls see that happiness in you---
they want to be happy like you too.

[Ginalyn]

Doc, can you elaborate on this?

be happy as a single person.
your happiness should not come from the other person you are with.
choose to be happy ----alone or with another person.

you have to be happy regardless of what you do not have.
Happiness is a choice.

wrong mantra:
if only i have a girlfriend---- then i would be happy.

right mantra:
i choose to be happy ---with or without a girlfriend.
just appreciate what you have.
family, job, career, friends, good health etc.
if you appreciate things you will feel happy.

[the Messenger]

OT: I don't have a problem to share, but I just wanted to comment that this is a very nice, informative thread. Excellent advice. Bravo!

[vrjayce]

mam Gin,
why man naa girls magpakipot kuno di musugot peru mukuyog sa ngit ngit nga dapit..hehehe..

[krizitoyness]

mam Gin,
why man naa girls magpakipot kuno di musugot peru mukuyog sa ngit ngit nga dapit..hehehe..

waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.!

[katarinadal]

Why are there guys that are so commitment-phobics?

Is it normal for a guy who's in a live-in situation but is still not willing to commit to his partner?

[Ginalyn]

mam Gin,
why man naa girls magpakipot kuno di musugot peru mukuyog sa ngit ngit nga dapit..hehehe..

culture...and challenge.

our tradition tells women to behave in such a manner
which is not bad at all.

pakipot adds challenge.
challenge add value to a process.
kung manguyab ka unya walay challenge,
dali ra kaayo na mabiyaan nga uyab.

mas ma-value man gud nimo ang pagkalisodlisod.

ngano man?

tungod kay ang kalisod
--lisod sad kalimtan.

pareha gud og moapil kag fraternity--
ngano naa may initiation?
aron na mavalue nimo ang inyong fraternity
kay dili man ka makalimot sa kalisod nga imong mga naagian para lang maka-apil.