Ask me any question about relationships

[Ginalyn]

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See the beauty of this thread?
In every questions asked
we learn a lot of lessons.
I just hope other people appreciate this thread.
And not do anything to get the TS muted.

[krizitoyness]

parents: "do you understand.?"
kids: "yup, but we have different feelings.. so we're sorry.."
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me: (pokes the kids) "of course you rats cant feel what your parents feel right now.. you're young, as a cat.. lol"

[amvilicious]

^^ wow, gi career gyud ni nimo doc dah.. Hehehe

anyway, i have a question. Why do siblings fight each other, like why does sibling rivalry exist??

well gs2 nila ug more attention sa ila parents..or maybe ang isa kay jealous ky naay favoritism..mao na..

[Ginalyn]

well gs2 nila ug more attention sa ila parents..or maybe ang isa kay jealous ky naay favoritism..mao na..

basic cause is:
selfishness, envy and greed

a selfish child always wants to have more than the other child has.

and when he doesn't own what the other child has (--may it be material things, parents attention or popularity).
he feels envy--

this starts and fuels the rivalry.

[krizitoyness]

well gs2 nila ug more attention sa ila parents..or maybe ang isa kay jealous ky naay favoritism..mao na..

babawa anang favoritism maam uy.. hahahaha xD

[histrionic0311]

basic cause is:
selfishness, envy and greed

a selfish child always wants to have more than the other child has.

and when he doesn't own what the other child has (--may it be material things, parents attention or popularity).
he feels envy--

this starts and fuels the rivalry.

that is true,

he/she will eventually grow up into a typical spoiled brat.. good thing for me i am not one of those kids.

[anjerika]

ginalyn why man naay mga bad parents? i mean kanang naa sa news, ilang gi rape/molest/patay ilang own anak, or ilang byaan, ibilin sa uban nya di na balikan, etc? and some of them are already sakto na og pangutok.

[anjerika]

naa sad ko laing pangutana, how do u tame a spoiled brat? i have a cousin man gud na sukad pa sa bata siya nagdako siya nga ihatag ang tanang gusto. naa man gud siya nagpuyo sa iyang lolo nga spoiler sad kaayo. tanang gusto ihatag, and naanad siya hasta attention naa sa iya. though bibo sya nga pagkabata, and buotan, though pag mutukar lagi iyang spoiled brat instict kay magminaldita, di masabtan ang timpla, mag dumot effect. now she's already ten years old and i would want to help unta kung unsaon siya pag disiplina. luoy man gud akong uncle (iyang lolo) kay old na ba nya retired na og wa na sad iyang wife, nahug na lang na siya ang nag alaga sa bata

[granz]

doc,

jst want to ask y man lisod mo let go sa ex.. y man mag expect pa na mo balik cya nimo after all wat happen. y man i still look for the same man as wat i have before? y man nag start ko pag ka bitter

[Ginalyn]

ginalyn why man naay mga bad parents? i mean kanang naa sa news, ilang gi rape/molest/patay ilang own anak, or ilang byaan, ibilin sa uban nya di na balikan, etc? and some of them are already sakto na og pangutok.

Vices! Vices! Vices!
Sa Bisaya pa B.I.S.Y.O. ---BISYO

B-babaero, barkadista, boys(para sa girls)
I--inom
S--Sugal
Y--yupyup, apil na shabu ug uban pa
O--Otang

Kasagaran usa or combination niini ang hinungdan.

RAPE
Kanang morape sa ilang kaugalingon anak, dili na nila mahimo kung wala silay bisyo nga nakapatuyok sa ilang utok. Kung imong tan-awon ang statistics kasagaran palahubog nga tiguwang ang morape sa anak. If batan-on nga amahan ang nagrape sa anak--adikadik na. Mas kuyaw kung combination na sa inom ug drugs.

PSYCHOLOGICAL POWER PLAY
Usahay sad kung ang asawa dominant and verbally abusive
sa bana nga walay trabaho ug mobo og self esteem
ang resulta --adto manimalos ang bana sa babaye nga anak.
Mo feel siyag power kung nacontrol na niya ang anak by fear or by abuse.
Samot pa jud kung moinom ang lalake.

PARICIDE or HOMICIDE or MURDER
Usually is a product of depression for women.
Again for men it is a side effect of vices.
Anger leads to violence when one is under the influence of alcohol or drugs.

ABANDONMENT
Most parents Abandon their child because of other vices.
Especially if they become alcoholics or drug dependents so they need to focus on themselves.
Fathers leave their children and wives for another woman. (B-babae)
Women leave their husband and children for another man (B-boys)
Others just escape from their responsibilities.

In general, it is due to their vices that they become irresponsible parents.