of course....
daghang wawartz!!!!
Instant millionaire in a year....
i have a friend na seaman iya papa.. hmmmm mohatag financially but then the famiy itself....
"welcome to the devil's lair.."
but case to case basis ra na ha.. wa sad nako generalize...
The bad impressions about seaman started a long long time ago when the contract was still 1yr. or more. Those seaman nga extravagant maong walay pondo or those naay project to accomplish mo extend pa gyud para naay take home.
The issue of infidelity depends on the person himself,whether you are a seaman or not or you are a wife of a seaman or not? Kadaghan nga broken families nga dili mga seaman ug dinhi ra sa Phils. nag trabaho diba?
As far as I know,not more than 10 months nalang ang term of contract sa mga seaman nga gamay ra ug rank, and for the officers 4-6months the most. There are cases wherein they can reach 1 yr. esp. if the shipping agency cannot find a reliever for them.
About "women" in every port, it is not true to all , bec. it all depends of the person and the kind of ship they are in. In a chemical, product or oil tanker ships for example,the port is too far from the city "women" are not allowed to go on board.bec. the cargoes are highly volatile and or dangerous to ones health if not wearing the proper gears.
Since the time nga naay nakit an nga filipina entertainer nga nag lutaw sa dagat in Singapore and believed to be murdered by a " seaman ", naa nay law that prohibits visitors to go on board any international ships. Dili na maka sayon sayon ug saka ang visitors w/o proper documents and official business permits. They must pass series of port officials and security guards for inspections.
Well, am sure seamen are already wiser these days because they have to undergo pre departure orientations and management crises seminars every time they join any vessel.Some agencies also give lectures to their wives or families. And if we are going to compare them w/ land job workers nga 2 yrs. or more ang contract abroad, the vulnerability of temptation is totally very different since seamen cannot go out anytime as they pleases,they experienced long travel that even lasted for more than 30 days yet it would form part of the hectic schedule when at port, one can only go out for a very limited period of time if he is not on duty and if they got the chance, thats to "UNWIND".
Drink and dine? or Pay,Play and Go, otherwise known as Hit and run. Majority of seamen w/ 2nd families are just here in the Phils. very few lang na ang toa sa lain nga countries bec. kalain lain man nga countries ang ilang adtoan, so dili sila maka permanente. Those who have 2nd families here chose to do it to compensate whats lacking from his ist family.
We should not condemn all seaman for this matter because not like anyone else they offered their lives at sea and away from their loved ones just to give their family a better future and they are a boost to our country's economy too.
Being the wife of a seaman, is a very tough job,she must do almost everything, washing clothes, taking care of the kids and the home, cooking,sewing, teaching the kids how to read and write, attending school activities alone, driving to and from school. plumber, electrician,gardener, etc. one has to balance everything, being a mother and father to the children at the same time. Lisod jud most esp. if the kids are in the adolescent stage.
To those faithful wives, I know that there isn't an hour in her life without his husband in mind, they are a lot more scared than they would admit of losing him one day because of his husbands work and the distance that separates. There are times that they feel jealous but just don't want to go into details of arguing about these things all over again when his already home bec. they have no evidence at all,and they don't have enough time to discuss about it at a limited period of time coz she wanted to live a peaceful life w/ him.
Money wise, it is very true nga mas naka lamang jud ang mga seaman or OFW workers, but it all depends on how they handled their finances in the right place. There is always a social cost to it and one should be ready.
Nowadays, a lot of people fear of KARMA, whether we are to indulge or not it is our prerogative, none of us would want to see our family crumbling into pieces like others just bec. of a one night stand, diba?Our choice must be something based on a solid reasons and a balance of feelings.the much awaited guidance comes from the Lord if we will ask for it.
My husband's work entails him to be away from us for months, I fought these fears by telling myself i am the only one in his heart.I tried to make our house a home worth coming and make him feel he is wanted, needed and loved. I tried a hundred possibilities on how i can be w/ him all the time and I was able to achieve it. He lets me join w/ him halfway in almost all his trips....sooo there must be an effort for both.
Lack of time is already part of our journey as husband and wife but it has also shown us what is precious....our love for each other, our family and the value of hard earned money.
To TS, If you have already found the man of your dreams, the love of your life, whether he is a seaman or not, we always have to climb the highest mountains and swim the deepest sea if you really wanted your relationship or marriage to work.
I received a wedding gift from a friend . He personally wrote the saying and box framed it ,,,,,,and it says.....
" Love knows no bounds, nor hurt and pity, it doesn't give reasons, it just feels and understands, with true love, everything is wonderfully beautiful including sacrifices, pain, and self denial."
My dear,,,,,,the choice is yours,,,,,cross your fingers when you get there.
Wish you luck!
basta seaman imo mabana daghan mo kwarta....so pangita mo ug seaman.....ayaw na lng mi ninyo lingi-a....ana man gyud mo
This is a copy of my posting at the other thread too, I hope this will give more information to others who really dont know..... and how I really wished people will be open minded na because its very discriminating/ really hurts to hear bad comments about seaman. Lots of people pinned them down for others mistake. Kawawa naman sila, they are just like any of us- human beings too!
When one remains at sea for a long time, he loses his contacts, his qualities to deal with people, expansion of his view of the world. He serves for months at time on ship and goes back on leave for short duration. I do like to look at seamen now as well, but in a different way - with a different eye.
Yes, seamen earns good salary and for the good ones, he is able to provide better living conditions for the one’s he cares about. A nice house w/ a swimming pool, different cars,a stable business,children all enrolled in the best schools etc. just name it,they really can afford it, if they are that smart enough. Yet, a seaman’s own life do not get benefits of luxuries within his buying power, He has the money to buy all what he and his family desired but he was not able to enjoy it bec. he is on board. He works like a money making machine. Over time the seafarer forgets himself and points his planning towards others only, but most of all- his Family!.
He was sold to sea in the beginning of youth but I know it is satisfying enough to feel that one day he have 2 buy himself back from the sea and the ships and will be among many common people, average people, who live with their families and worry about their day to day needs. Who see children grow and are part of their families instead of being a guest who arrives 'home' after six months, introduces himself to children and waits for kids to get used to him to enjoy their company.
There is a price for either end of the coin: one has to let go the benefits of career at sea and lose a lot in gaining what life on shore has available. The decision is difficult and depends upon ones commitments and responsibilities. A desire to live the way majority leads their life: good or bad, rich or poor, deprived or fulfilled is vital.
Life on shore is busy and demanding too, but end of the day one is home and free. You will be able to walk around when off and see
others around - new people and new faces .
Ship job provides the most important financial independence but buys a seaman’s life in return.These are the reasons why not any of my sons did not study to become a seaman.
On ships one has to be able to do everything from operations to maintenance, from administration to accounts.Sore job is not that easy either. His routines are tough. He work long hours, it is normal so far as the private employment is concerned. But the people are different, they are more descent, not all but most of them. They take their jobs easy - unlike ships where lots more deadlines need to be met and fast actions are required. It is not an 8-5 job, where one goes to an office sits on a table and gets up in the afternoon to go home.
Many years have passed in ship dry-dock, I was standing on deck with my husband and the duty A.B. when my 16 yr.old son approached us and started talking about life at sea and on board ships. By the way, we were on an all expense paid holidays by the company and had come to visit the ship. After hearing about their contracts, leave duration and the scale of our salaries - my son liked the income part of the information. Seeing his interest, I asked him if he would like to join sea. ---
"You stay away from your home for so long and you are confined to the ship all the time, you are selling your lives for money, I want to live a free life - a NORMAL LIFE!!!” was his straight reply .
nice ang seaman na job...but dli sayon kay mabyaan nimo imong family...big problem is mosakay ka sa barko and manganakay imo asawa. mogawas ang bata na wala ka. modako ang bata na wala ka....nig kadako sa bata magkita mo mura ra ka ug wala like sa ako barkada...he thought ala na cya papa....pag abot sa iyang papa kebberrr lng and mo ingon lng na NEED NAKO ANG MONEY DAD....tnx daan....
as a seaman pwerting sakita jd kng ikaw ang ingon anaon sa imong anak!!! they know that u are his dad but doesn't treat u as his own DAD!!!!
bitaw di sd ko kasabot ana na part...nano naa uban anak nga inganaon mn ang amahan?
my mother gave birth to me alone..kai wala akoa papa...
ngdako ko wala cya..pero i never treated him as if di nko xa amahan..i am close to my father despite..
him spending a lot of time in the sea...
pero i think..the mother plays a role..kung unsaon niya pagpasabot iya anak...why naa sa layo iya amahan...
kai ako..akoa mama mn ngpasabot nko....
hangtod karon..cge pa larga akoa papa..
ang kuyaw aning maminyo nlng ko larga ghapon xa...hahaha....
i don't hold it against him...i hope ang uban anak sad...di mag ing-ana..
di bya saun..malayo..
anyway...balik sa topic..if nagworry kung mangabit ang bana or di..
the question is...HOW WELL DO U KNOW UR PARTNER?
kai as mentioned...di mn ang propesyon basehan kung magbinuang ba or di..
naa gali diha adik2x left and right pa ang kabit....
think about the irony lang cguro![]()
..hmmppp..ok ra man cguro..all you need is TRUST..and you have to pray jud always..
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