When is Too Much, TOO much?

[thedarkprincess]

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love is something i have waited all my life - and now i have it. My boyfriend is everything i caould ask for in a guy - Sweet, Thoughtful, Very Loving, Etc.. the problem is, he cares too much about what everyone else thinks. i personally value his opinion above everyone else, and i just can;'t understand why he can't do the same
what hurts me the most is that he has repeatedly lied to my face and constantly went behind my back just to please his friends. i understand, but sometimes it makes me think that he doesn't respect what i say anymore. i'm scared to confront him coz i'm afraid that he'll leave me and that i won't find someone else like him - much yet, i won't love someone else anymore help please T.T

[Tirong-say]

I have a question is he still your ideal guy?...................

[maitoots]

if you think he doesnt respect and value your feelings and you as a person, i tell you don't have second thoughts on leaving. the fact that he goes behind your back just to please his friends.. ask yourself, is this really the guy you wanted to spnd the rest of ur life with?? more than anyone else dapat ikaw ang iyang unang i please before pa ang laing taw..

[Tirong-say]

if you think he doesnt respect and value your feelings and you as a person, i tell you don't have second thoughts on leaving. the fact that he goes behind your back just to please his friends.. ask yourself, is this really the guy you wanted to spnd the rest of ur life with?? more than anyone else dapat ikaw ang iyang unang i please before pa ang laing taw..

Bilib na gyud ko nimo toots.................he-he
One of the astute istorians...............

[nangatrad86]

things like this has a lot of factors.... how long have you been together?? if you guys just started or youve been together for years in your relationship?.. the guy can feel a bit to tightly gripped... sometimes he chooses between you who he just met or his friends whom hes been with for a while already... and in the end it just becomes a domino effect.. he lies to you.. so that he can be with his friends.. coz he feels your too clingy.. and then you find out he's been lying you confront him... he tells the truth... then a few days after lies again... and again you find out.. then becomes a loop.. and trust slowly degrades then slowly vanishes.. there is only one thing essential for a relationship to work and that is "TRUST".. i know its hard especially when you found out he's been lying... try to trust him more.... when he goes out.. agree to it and just ask as little questions as possible.. let him know that your ok with his friends and with him going out... no matter what people say... in a long term relationship there isnt just the 2 of you.. you both have a life... you have friends and he has friends... there isnt just the 2 of you.. dont believe me? try asking your friends who's had relationships for more than 5 years.. both of you will always have an outlet and sometimes it isnt your significant other but your friends... anyways back to the topic... just trust him and dont be to clingy.. if he is what you say he is "sweet, thoughtful, loving, ETC." then hes just feels a bit caged and needs to go out with he's friends... but! another senario is when he is going out with his friends and he isnt "Sweet, thoughtful, loving, ETC." like he was when you guys 1st saw each other... then theres a good chance that he's falling out of love and is confused ergo leading to 2 timing and going out with friends and when you meet wont be that "sweet, thoughtful, caring, ETC" to you as he was.

Guys are jerks but not all of them are... and by the way your describing him i think he just needs time with his friends and he'll come running back to you.

If still he just neglects you even after what you did.. then he is not for you.. breaking up can be heart shattering but its not the end of the world. Keep in mind that no matter how many replies you get here on the thread on what to do. We cant really do anything... its you who has to realize your situation coz no matter how many times we or your friends tell you what to do if you dont believe it. nothing will happen and you'll just be stuck to your false truths and reality. we're just here as options nothing more.. its you who has to decide.

[missingyouso]

when you can't stand the pain anymore

[Hellblazer 2.1]

if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.

[iMnOtUrSuPeRwOmAn]

things like this has a lot of factors.... how long have you been together?? if you guys just started or youve been together for years in your relationship?.. the guy can feel a bit to tightly gripped... sometimes he chooses between you who he just met or his friends whom hes been with for a while already... and in the end it just becomes a domino effect.. he lies to you.. so that he can be with his friends.. coz he feels your too clingy.. and then you find out he's been lying you confront him... he tells the truth... then a few days after lies again... and again you find out.. then becomes a loop.. and trust slowly degrades then slowly vanishes.. there is only one thing essential for a relationship to work and that is "TRUST".. i know its hard especially when you found out he's been lying... try to trust him more.... when he goes out.. agree to it and just ask as little questions as possible.. let him know that your ok with his friends and with him going out... no matter what people say... in a long term relationship there isnt just the 2 of you.. you both have a life... you have friends and he has friends... there isnt just the 2 of you.. dont believe me? try asking your friends who's had relationships for more than 5 years.. both of you will always have an outlet and sometimes it isnt your significant other but your friends... anyways back to the topic... just trust him and dont be to clingy.. if he is what you say he is "sweet, thoughtful, loving, ETC." then hes just feels a bit caged and needs to go out with he's friends... but! another senario is when he is going out with his friends and he isnt "Sweet, thoughtful, loving, ETC." like he was when you guys 1st saw each other... then theres a good chance that he's falling out of love and is confused ergo leading to 2 timing and going out with friends and when you meet wont be that "sweet, thoughtful, caring, ETC" to you as he was.

Guys are jerks but not all of them are... and by the way your describing him i think he just needs time with his friends and he'll come running back to you.

If still he just neglects you even after what you did.. then he is not for you.. breaking up can be heart shattering but its not the end of the world. Keep in mind that no matter how many replies you get here on the thread on what to do. We cant really do anything... its you who has to realize your situation coz no matter how many times we or your friends tell you what to do if you dont believe it. nothing will happen and you'll just be stuck to your false truths and reality. we're just here as options nothing more.. its you who has to decide.

nice one...agree on this...

its ur call sis...among all the people here, u're the only person who can best decide on wat to do...we can give u pieces of advice but only based on the info u provided unlike u who have all the details about the sitch...u can weigh things properly and come up with a better resolution...what we are giving u here are merely opinions that could help u decide...goodluck to u sis...ull be alright...

[Baeybe_Bryce]

Love comes along with respect..if you cant get it now from your guy how much more if he's already your husband??or maybe....get to know him better...take time...dont be in a hurry..If tym comes that both of you decide to part ways,always remember..there are billions of man out der waiting for der girl so be ready enaf and take good care of urself so that if ur man comes..he'l say..you made it good..your wait is worth it..

Real men dont need to impress their barkada's. That's my POV. What you see is what you get. I can be wid my barkadas but dey cannot share the same bed wid me..they aren't da last person running in my mind after da day,dey aren't da persons who i ended with..so be it. Management and Priority. That's what he needs.

[miramax]

Hahhhaaayz...I always said this to my girl friends everytime they'll confide their love problems to me.
"unsa gud nah dang, kunsomisyon kanah nga uyab pa gani mo unsa naman lang kaha tawn ug maminyo namo"?
Most of them follow their heart and ...I was right...karon tawn nanagkaga ug nangwintas ug bukog ako mga miga.

Think about it sweetie...