
Originally Posted by
Blackjellybean27
wow! amazing naka survive ka four years of that sh1t? hehehehe!
grabe ha. bow nako nimo sis!
naa ko tpad ron na guy na naka read sa situation mo.
what he has to say:
"about his pagka "nice guy", you're making that sort of a reason to yourself na d jud na sya that kind of bad guy. hmmmm think bout it this way daw. when he's being mean to you like that, he's not exactly good guy and just showing his true colors. ay kalisod e- explain. it's like who are you trying to kid? yourself? that's what he's doing to you, yet you say he is a nice guy. nice basta good mood sya, nice basta nice ka niya and good girl ka, nice sya kng wlay problema."
bitaw sis, i think my friend is right. we put up with our partner's crap sometimes k:
#1 (and most impt) - we love him/her
#2 - we keep denying that he's gonna change eventually
#3 - hard to let go
karon na uyab palng mo, he's like that na. putting you through so much pain. imagine kng married na kmu later on and living in one house, does that mean he'll just leave you whenever he feels like it, k nag away mo? unya in the middle of the night while you are taking care of the baby cge pa jud ka worry kng asa na sya, etc etc etc...
think about that...
@ blackjelly: bilib jud ko nimo mu.advice sis, bow jud ko everytime... seriously...
@ts: ka.relate jud ko both you and your bf's situation sis. I've been in both your shoes. Believe it or not, i used to be very much emotionally dependent on my partner. adto nga time, ako pirmi ang naa sayup, ako pirmi ang gagukod, ako pirmi ang g.sorry, even if dili ako ang naa sala. I was practically being a human doormat, that was until i grew tired of my situation that i decided that i should change. Change i did, but the thing is, na.reverse ang situation,ako na pud ang ma.pride, ako na pud ang dili mudawat sa sayop,nya i.palabas pa jud nga ang girl na ang naa sala, it would have been a good thing if only it was on the same girl,pra at least ma.feel pud niya unsa ako na feel all that time nga ako iya g.daog2x. Unfortunately, i did it on a different girl, coz by the time nga nag.change ko, buwag nman mi ad2 na girl, i guess the situation called for it nga mag.buwag mi ad2 niya pra mag.change jud ko, kay if wala pa, i wouldn't have been able to free myself from that cycle nga ako pirmi mag.pahiubos ug masakitan.
Both situations we're hellish for me, and i wouldn't want to be back to being either a human doormat or a jackass (forgive the expression, no pun intended). Just felt like sharing my experience lang sis.
Basta sis, advice lang nako. Learn to be more emotionally independent. I know it's hard, but you have to, kay ikaw jud ang louy. Kay if padayunon na nimo nga dependent ka sa guy, mudako lang jud pirmi iyang ulo, ang you will just make yourself more miserable. If it comes to worse nga mag.bulag jud mo, ayaw pag.think nga sayang inyong 4 years. Instead, realize that at least 4 years ra nasayang sa imo, and not the rest of your life. Imagine nlng kung kamo mag.kadayun. What guarantees do you have nga mausab xa. It's natural raba jud nga ayha mugawas ang tanang baho sa 1 ka tao if married na mo. For sure,musamot lang ka.grabe imong kalbaryo ana sis. I know there are no guarantees in life, but at least make sure that you will have a good and happy future. Another thing you should remember that there should be harmony in any relationship, particularly the intimate kind, coz how can you stand living under one roof if there is no harmony? I'll end it here lang sa kay taas na jud au ako reply dah.