Met a Dream Guy??

[Blackjellybean27]

oh that's sad.. he's an a$$***e.. he doesn't deserve you..and you deserve someone better...
are your kids with you?

Yes, he is. hahaha! and i dont think any girl deserves that kind of man.
I am not saying I am perfect huh, grabe pod ko mangaway niya. especially those times na cla ng girl, but i think i have a reason. sigh, there i go again. trying to make him look NOT that bad. terminal illness na cguro nako na naa pa ko small na luoy niya. hahaha!
My kids are not with me though. They're with his parents. I just go home to visit them once in a while and my eldest kid has a cellphone, so i keep in constant communication with her. She always texts me when she's on her recess or when she's dismissed after school, telling me about silly stuff but really means so much to me. Their dad doesn't even give a sh!t bout them. really. especially sa younger one. He's accusing me na she is not his. I told him, I can prove that she is yours anytime, anywhere.

[jodoyz]

@Blackjellybean27: regarding your new guy, the fact itself na he accepted u even tho u have kids --- is a big thing already... (well lets be practical, usually guys think nah dako au na responsibility if u go for somebody hu has other big responsibilities such as kids --- thats what i know) well sis, i must have told u before na sumbody or anybody cud be a dream guy -- not just by actually saying he is one, but somebody could really grow to be one.

maybe ur ex, wala ta kahibaw, was just scared of the responsibility? he thought he was ready na when he asked u. but the truth is wala pa. lets just assume at that point when he asked u, he was just thinking of the short-term happiness not the long-term thing. most of us do bya, just thinking of what may bring you happiness today, but not thinking about what will happen the next day. 'would we still be happy tomorrow? -- he missed that question na he should be asking to himself!
makapressure bya sad if di pa ready then naa naka sa brink, ur married then u have kids, that kinda responsibility. thats why he needed to go to someone else, to get off that responsibility na he did not want to face yet. <--- why am sayin such? cos somebody once told me: na it doesnt always mean na a guy doesn't love you anymore when he goes out and sees others. he just doesnt want you to see how he is being a failure. how he cannot put up with the responsibility.
he loved you, with the fact that he even asked you to marry him. thats was kinda a big move. but what if he was just scared? then he acted in such a bad way na u wud really think na he cudnt live up to such responsibilities and want you to be the one to give up on him, kaysa sia muy mubulag.... you both might have settled things, pero tayg that was kinda too late. na carried away na cya. and then it led na wala na gyud. hehe

hehe ka gets ka sis or medyo confusing cya? hehe lol its 3am naman gud, myt be too sleepy to notice ug wala ba matarung akong point, hehe lol

[maddox_pitt]

ME like the statement!

agree sis?hehehe

[maddox_pitt]

Yes, he is. hahaha! and i dont think any girl deserves that kind of man.
I am not saying I am perfect huh, grabe pod ko mangaway niya. especially those times na cla ng girl, but i think i have a reason. sigh, there i go again. trying to make him look NOT that bad. terminal illness na cguro nako na naa pa ko small na luoy niya. hahaha!
My kids are not with me though. They're with his parents. I just go home to visit them once in a while and my eldest kid has a cellphone, so i keep in constant communication with her. She always texts me when she's on her recess or when she's dismissed after school, telling me about silly stuff but really means so much to me. Their dad doesn't even give a sh!t bout them. really. especially sa younger one. He's accusing me na she is not his. I told him, I can prove that she is yours anytime, anywhere.

....okay lang sis..at least you've gathered enough strength to leave him...
....it's sad you dont have your kiddos with you but it's good to know that your eldest is communicating with you...

[jodoyz]

....okay lang sis..at least you've gathered enough strength to leave him...
....it's sad you dont have your kiddos with you but it's good to know that your eldest is communicating with you...

with the you dont have your kiddos part,
nakoy na experience ani once... it was me and my mom... she and my dad had a very huge fight, as in, that day wala juy hapit nahabilin sa among house. kay either, nabuak or naguba. as in nahawan kadali ang house, in.adto ka grabeh...

then my mother went up to me, in my room. and she said with teary eyes, 'can i go? i can't take it anymore' -- then tears again start falling from her eyes. it was something na ive never seen her do, my mom was the happy-type, you'd never see her cry. she always smiles and all. and if she feels down, she'd look at us like there's nothing wrong.
before she went, i promised na i really wont cry. i'd stay strong. but seeing my mom like that, for the first time, begging. it hit me, as in nakahilak nalang pud ko apil. when she told me those words, syempre i was thinking, i did not want to have a broken family -- for pete's sake, i have a younger sister and she might not understand. as the eldest, i want us to be just any normal family. living, eating, laughing, day by day.

further she said: 'i have to bring myself up before i could take you with me.' --- she meant that she can't take us away yet, it was better daw na we stay with our father first. cos she doesn't have the money yet to brought us up... i understood that, cos she gave us man pud what we want, even if wala nay mahibilin sa iyang personal savings.
but then it strucked me, my mom did everything for us. she doesnt even have time to do what she really wants just to take care of us.. cos thats what mom's do right? but even so, she's still a woman. and a woman has every right to do whatever she wants. i wanted her to be happy. to do what she wants, giving her a chance of a freedom she should be having before.
my mom married my dad when she was still 19. so yah, she was still young.

so i said: 'yes,we will let you go' but 'come back'..... those words were all i could say, nakahilak nalang pud tawn kog apil. grabeh jud toh na moment da. dili jud toh nako maforget..

i know bisan sakit kai toh, she took up the courage to ask me. i was still 16 back then.

[Blackjellybean27]

@Blackjellybean27: regarding your new guy, the fact itself na he accepted u even tho u have kids --- is a big thing already... (well lets be practical, usually guys think nah dako au na responsibility if u go for somebody hu has other big responsibilities such as kids --- thats what i know) well sis, i must have told u before na sumbody or anybody cud be a dream guy -- not just by actually saying he is one, but somebody could really grow to be one.

maybe ur ex, wala ta kahibaw, was just scared of the responsibility? he thought he was ready na when he asked u. but the truth is wala pa. lets just assume at that point when he asked u, he was just thinking of the short-term happiness not the long-term thing. most of us do bya, just thinking of what may bring you happiness today, but not thinking about what will happen the next day. 'would we still be happy tomorrow? -- he missed that question na he should be asking to himself!
makapressure bya sad if di pa ready then naa naka sa brink, ur married then u have kids, that kinda responsibility. thats why he needed to go to someone else, to get off that responsibility na he did not want to face yet. <--- why am sayin such? cos somebody once told me: na it doesnt always mean na a guy doesn't love you anymore when he goes out and sees others. he just doesnt want you to see how he is being a failure. how he cannot put up with the responsibility.
he loved you, with the fact that he even asked you to marry him. thats was kinda a big move. but what if he was just scared? then he acted in such a bad way na u wud really think na he cudnt live up to such responsibilities and want you to be the one to give up on him, kaysa sia muy mubulag.... you both might have settled things, pero tayg that was kinda too late. na carried away na cya. and then it led na wala na gyud. hehe

hehe ka gets ka sis or medyo confusing cya? hehe lol its 3am naman gud, myt be too sleepy to notice ug wala ba matarung akong point, hehe lol

hahaha! ana jud kay 3am mu reply!LOL. ok lang oi, naka gets man ko what you mean sis. Yup, I have thought of it already and I assured him when he started going out with someone that if he was scared of the responsibilities then it's not just him, that I can help him with that. Unfortunately, it's not the case jud. oh well. What can I say pa bah? I don't want to say bad things about him too much. Even though he can't read this. He's still the dad of my kids noh. hehehe.
I just hope he's happy where he is at. That's all. 'Cause it simply means, hurting me was worth it i guess. LOL. martyr effect. but it's true

[jodoyz]

@Blackjellybean27: btaw2 sad. ur ryt. he's till the dad of your kids. hehe its all in the past now... hehe

[maddox_pitt]

with the you dont have your kiddos part,
nakoy na experience ani once... it was me and my mom... she and my dad had a very huge fight, as in, that day wala juy hapit nahabilin sa among house. kay either, nabuak or naguba. as in nahawan kadali ang house, in.adto ka grabeh...

then my mother went up to me, in my room. and she said with teary eyes, 'can i go? i can't take it anymore' -- then tears again start falling from her eyes. it was something na ive never seen her do, my mom was the happy-type, you'd never see her cry. she always smiles and all. and if she feels down, she'd look at us like there's nothing wrong.
before she went, i promised na i really wont cry. i'd stay strong. but seeing my mom like that, for the first time, begging. it hit me, as in nakahilak nalang pud ko apil. when she told me those words, syempre i was thinking, i did not want to have a broken family -- for pete's sake, i have a younger sister and she might not understand. as the eldest, i want us to be just any normal family. living, eating, laughing, day by day.

further she said: 'i have to bring myself up before i could take you with me.' --- she meant that she can't take us away yet, it was better daw na we stay with our father first. cos she doesn't have the money yet to brought us up... i understood that, cos she gave us man pud what we want, even if wala nay mahibilin sa iyang personal savings.
but then it strucked me, my mom did everything for us. she doesnt even have time to do what she really wants just to take care of us.. cos thats what mom's do right? but even so, she's still a woman. and a woman has every right to do whatever she wants. i wanted her to be happy. to do what she wants, giving her a chance of a freedom she should be having before.
my mom married my dad when she was still 19. so yah, she was still young.

so i said: 'yes,we will let you go' but 'come back'..... those words were all i could say, nakahilak nalang pud tawn kog apil. grabeh jud toh na moment da. dili jud toh nako maforget..

i know bisan sakit kai toh, she took up the courage to ask me. i was still 16 back then.

how's your mom now? maybe sometimes letting go is the best thing to save yourself from complete madness...and maybe sometimes you just have to leave and pick up yourself first...

[Blackjellybean27]

with the you dont have your kiddos part,
nakoy na experience ani once... it was me and my mom... she and my dad had a very huge fight, as in, that day wala juy hapit nahabilin sa among house. kay either, nabuak or naguba. as in nahawan kadali ang house, in.adto ka grabeh...

then my mother went up to me, in my room. and she said with teary eyes, 'can i go? i can't take it anymore' -- then tears again start falling from her eyes. it was something na ive never seen her do, my mom was the happy-type, you'd never see her cry. she always smiles and all. and if she feels down, she'd look at us like there's nothing wrong.
before she went, i promised na i really wont cry. i'd stay strong. but seeing my mom like that, for the first time, begging. it hit me, as in nakahilak nalang pud ko apil. when she told me those words, syempre i was thinking, i did not want to have a broken family -- for pete's sake, i have a younger sister and she might not understand. as the eldest, i want us to be just any normal family. living, eating, laughing, day by day.

further she said: 'i have to bring myself up before i could take you with me.' --- she meant that she can't take us away yet, it was better daw na we stay with our father first. cos she doesn't have the money yet to brought us up... i understood that, cos she gave us man pud what we want, even if wala nay mahibilin sa iyang personal savings.
but then it strucked me, my mom did everything for us. she doesnt even have time to do what she really wants just to take care of us.. cos thats what mom's do right? but even so, she's still a woman. and a woman has every right to do whatever she wants. i wanted her to be happy. to do what she wants, giving her a chance of a freedom she should be having before.
my mom married my dad when she was still 19. so yah, she was still young.

so i said: 'yes,we will let you go' but 'come back'..... those words were all i could say, nakahilak nalang pud tawn kog apil. grabeh jud toh na moment da. dili jud toh nako maforget..

i know bisan sakit kai toh, she took up the courage to ask me. i was still 16 back then.

Yeah sis, kmusta naman mom mo ron? are they still together with your dad?
I come from a broken family too. But believe me, I'd rather have my parents separated than to hear them fight all the time. It's just a little hard for me, since I'm the only child. So, i dunno lang unsaon ko ni in the future when I have to take care of both of them. They don't live in the same city pa man. palit nalng ko lot and then build two houses. one for my mom and one for my dad. hehehe. so that they dont reach for each other's neck.LOL!

[jodoyz]

@maddox_pitt and blackjellybean27: my mom? she's at her best! better! hehe LOL. she and my dad got back together, after a year and a half.. realized that, theyve been missing each other... so m pretty happy! that thing, taught them both a lesson! hehe hahaay.. mga gulang uy! hehe..

but it doesnt really matter, whether theyve got back together (but im really happy na they did), all i wanted was just to see them both happy...