Why do women love BAD BOYS?

[kleah]

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i dont know..maybe because most of them are smart and fun to be with..
and i always end up loving their kind too..

[sassy_suzzy]

they're fun to be with and they are spontaneous...

[kleah]

and there's always room for another adventure and another challenge..

[nHaRuToH_XXX]

I just can't figure it out why I like this type of guyz...kilig to the bone man gud.

[Phantim3dx]

nah once they get older and discover the bad boy cant provide the dollars, then they'll start hittin up the sugar daddy's

[kenoidz]

u knw wat?....usualy,bad boys dat grlz usualy gt attractd 2 r dose dat luks rili lyk a a bad boy and acts lyk 1 at 1st glance yt upn knwing dat guy ul c hw dip he s...i min d elemnt of surprise of hw a bad boy cud acquire sch dipnes s a plus 4 mst grls...also, grlz lyk taiming a ferocious beast...hehehe

[Phantim3dx]

i second thee

[P-Chan]

i think it's the natural... look at the animals.. the dominant males are not hard to spot right? i think bad boys stick out like a sore thumb...

[mosimos]

Girls thought to be a bad boy is the "in" thing. Their preference to bad boy is influenced by the media, movies and advertisements. Bad boys are portrayed as cool people in beer, liquor, cigarette, jeans commercials. They depict them as the "real" male.

In movies, bad boys are always portrayed as animalistic when it comes to bed and sport cool tatooes and well sculpted bodies.

Im wondering, why most women are so stupid to fall for this propaganda. Look, the result is that, after they hooked up with bad boys they usually got hurt, got dumped but still they insist on loving the badboy because they are hypnotized by the propaganda made in favor of these types of people.

[voight]

One of the more intriguing observations when it comes to primary relationships is that of women who fall in love with men who treat them terribly and, yet, they simply cannot break free from the emotions that tie them together. Whether it's verbal absusiveness, being a player (having lots of women), having a mean disposition, displaying violent tendencies, or any other number of negative traits, in short BAD BOYS, leave a woman short-changed in a relationship, these guys get away with murder.

The women who have emotionally bonded with them become willing victims in a dance to the death of their own self-esteem.

I have the privilege of talking with a number of women who have fallen prey to such men. Most eventually recognized the destructive nature of a "bad boy" relationship. However, some either have not yet figured it out or they fully realize their situation and feel absolutely trapped by it.

A co-worker of a dear friend took me home after an automobile breakdown. We had gone out with her and her boyfriend a couple of times. She is a tall, slender, gorgeous early twenty-something gal who is definitely front cover quality. He is a mid-sized dumpy looking guy who obviously hasn't ever had the experience of putting two thoughts together in the same day. Being a 'kuya' quality to her and a man who enjoys helping others with their relational issues, she asked me for some advice.

I told her that I would help her in any way that I could.

She began to relate to me how it is that this young man abuses her--emotionally, verbally, and even physically.

Yet, she loves him deeply and could not possibly conceive of ever breaking up with him.

Not only that, but she excused his actions based on her understanding that "...he had a very difficult childhood." Besides, she went on to say, he has been hurt by different women in his life and she was confident that she would be the exception that would change his mind and bring him to some kind of normality.

It was all there.

She is the perfect victim.

As we drove down the freeway, I listened to her explain her situation, describe her bad boyfriend, excuse his abusiveness, blame it on others, and tell me what a difference she is going to make in his life. She is going to tame him. She didn't want my advice. She wanted my approval.

I didn't give it to her.

Instead, I pointed out to her that a truly loving relationship precludes one person abusing the object of their love in any way. I went on to remind her that there are a lot of people who come from terrible family backgrounds who would never mistreat their special someone. Furthermore, her assertion that she was going to be both the exception and the agent of change in this young man's life was a fantasy. Nobody in this world can change anyone unless they themselves are willing to change. Not even GOD!!! How much more you?!

The only way to make a bad boy behave is to demand that his abuse stop immediately or he can hit the road!

She asked for my advice.
She ignored it.

This young woman is so blinded by her misplaced love for the guy that she is absolutely clueless as to what is happening to her. Her inability to see through him exposes her own lack of confidence and poor self image. She has allowed herself to become a slave to her own heart.

Her mind recognizes that she has fallen prey to a bad boy but her misguided love for him will not allow her to do what would be best for herself, as well as for him.