Pls. Advice me!!i dont understand my attitude..will i need a guidance counsel?

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you dont have a father.... but you have a mother. and does that make you less of a human being?

youre experience right now has made you the person you are... a lifetime of insecurity may sound so awfull

but have you look at the brightside? you somehow adapted to it.. and has the presence of mind to ask these questions sa forums..

that means you still have the urge to make yourself better.. which is cool by my standards

Agree ko ni Fern sis, dili issue ang pagkawalay fudra woi. Ako bitaw i grew up as a daddy's girl & a brat.
But when I lost my dad. I lost my way too, however, later, it gives me more inspiration to transform myself into a better & strong person.

I have my own attitude which i hate too, yet day by day I try to overcome it.

Before somebody else can help you sis, you MUST help yourself first, help yourself to "CHANGE FOR THE BETTER"

"Self-control" is the name of the game you need to play.

[RainDrizzle07]

@TS.. sa imu pa lang first post.... klaru mna nga insecure ka

your Insecurity is dominant... bisag sa imung grammar, choice of words, and reply.... mu manifest gyud imung insecure nga nature


if i were you..... stop thinking about wht others think.... think of your self... and make yourself productive

101% Agree ko aneh,

I am just curious though, are you dependent on someone or something for your happiness?

Love yourself first and love yourself more ^_^

[RainDrizzle07]

Yes.... Thanksss Sa advise.... Pero Easy to Say but HArd to Do.. Especially sa akong Situation and sa ako Experiences sa ako FAMILY sa past... wala mangud koy FATHER at all .....

you dont have a father.... but you have a mother. and does that make you less of a human being?

youre experience right now has made you the person you are... a lifetime of insecurity may sound so awfull

but have you look at the brightside? you somehow adapted to it.. and has the presence of mind to ask these questions sa forums..

that means you still have the urge to make yourself better.. which is cool by my standards

101Billion% na sad ko agree aneh ai.. ^_^


I just wanna share though...

We do have the same situation, I grow up without a father ( kay d man sad pd ug wla koy papa, g unsa man diay pag mabdos sa akong mama aber? ^_^ ) and honestly up until now I still wonder how it would be like growing up with a father, dli lang kay father ra ah.. with the complete family jud, when I was 10 and my brother is 8 we are already separated sa amo mama, coz she needs to earn a living man for us, so iyang gbuhat iya mi gibilin sa among ante, sa province, 2 years pud mi did2..then after balik mi sa cebu..same ra japon set up stay ra ghapon mi sa among ante and auncle, and same sa province me and my brother mura mi ug maid & boy, and we need to do a lot of errands sa mga neighbors para maka kwarta mi sa ako bro.. ^_^..

I am already 16 na na nag kyog na jud mi sa akong mama...up until now.. ^_^

Pero bitaw good thing lang is its not in my nature na masuko nor magdumot..

And base on what Fern said, It's the experience that made me who & what I am.

looking back maka ingon jud ko sis.. na ang akong kaboutan is to the highest level and to infinity and beyond, pero siguro because of all the experiences na ako na agi an, mao cguro I have a very sarcastic humor, murag I thought I am okey, pero its my attitude na diay na its changing and honestly I really miss the very boutan mi.. ^_^ at the same time I know na dli na sad jud to mabalik nga attitude nako.. kay I know namn na dli nako mosugot na saun2xon ug daug2xon ko sa mga taw nah.. ^_^

Pero same as the old me, I am not the pala away/nagger/mag yawyaw type.
(hate kaau na nako ang mag shinagitay, mao ng dli jud ko moshagit pud)
You can say any word you want to say, go ahead. ^_^ psagdaan tkaw..
Basta dli lang jud ko nmo dapatan physically. ^_^
And not a single word can hurt/affect me unless it came from the person who really matters. ^_^

pero base on my observation, thankful nlng pud ko na wla koy papa kay naa bitaw uban dha.. naa lagi papa, wla man sad au, ug d mangulata, manlugos or wla jud kwenta pagka papa ^_^ salamat ko kay I have the best mother jud!! ever mura ra mi ug berks sa akong mama and I am allowed to call her with her first name.. hahaha!..my mom, she is not the typical/cultural type mom...she doesn't nag, and if ever asa ko lakaw I just need to tell her where am I goin and kinsa ako kyog, wla jud daghan hassle...mao na ako nlng magbantay btaw na dli nako ma abuse ang trust na ghatag sa ako mama sa akoa, that's why I don't do stupid stuff, kay kbaw man ko ug unsa ang mahitabo nako...simbako..doble man ang pain iya ma feel.. ^_^

You just need to look at the bright side or positive in everything, I know its easier said than done, pero bitaw I have been to the darkest pit in my life man sd ^_^ but then one day I decided na I don't want to be in this situation. Insecure and I always compromise myself because of something or someone. ^_^

Pero ang Ending naa ra jud japon na nmo.. kay bsag mo sulod pa ka ug counseling then mo balik ra ka sa imong kina iya wla japon au ang tanan.. useless ra jud..


hope that by sharing with you my story will help you in a way ^_^
Wish u all the best ^_^

[r0mm3L]

awww kinanglan gyud ka ug professional help ani.

naa bay anger management dire?

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Do You Need Counseling?
If you feel that your anger is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counseling to learn how to handle it better. A psychologist or other licensed mental health professional can work with you in developing a range of techniques for changing your thinking and your behavior.
When you talk to a prospective therapist, tell her or him that you have problems with anger that you want to work on, and ask about his or her approach to anger management. Make sure this isn't only a course of action designed to "put you in touch with your feelings and express them"—that may be precisely what your problem is. With counseling, psychologists say, a highly angry person can move closer to a middle range of anger in about 8 to 10 weeks, depending on the circumstances and the techniques used.



JUst wanna Share with You LAng.....

[RainDrizzle07]

Maobah guyz.. well, ur correct gurl nah i am completely stabled, emotionally and quite financially maski wala pa xa.. and besides, i wasnt able to see and feel him SINCE BIRTH... I was being grown up only by my lolo and lola... Not on my mother... On my father's case, i admit that watever pain that he brought to me and to my mother, i cant still reject nor insist that hes still my dad.. But as ive said that, i dont think of him nor imagining how he looked like... Or even questioning myself if hes still alive or already GONE? Nevertheless, i am OK right now.. And i am happy in my life even without him ... But still, i cant deny d fact that i still belong to a broken family after all

I am not a counselor nor a professional whatever and I apologize if I copy & paste your post on the other thread.

Pero from what I have understand this is really the reason why you are feeling what you think you are feeling right now, am I correct?

Anyway, I just want to suggest though how bout if you will find your father then maybe thats time that you can really let go of all your pent up emotion.

but if I am wrong just ignore my post. ^_^

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I am not a counselor nor a professional whatever and I apologize if I copy & paste your post on the other thread.

Pero from what I have understand this is really the reason why you are feeling what you think you are feeling right now, am I correct?

Anyway, I just want to suggest though how bout if you will find your father then maybe thats time that you can really let go of all your pent up emotion.

but if I am wrong just ignore my post. ^_^

Hahahaha... Nakit-an jud nimo akong POST ha.... Nalimot na bya Ko ani unta.. But i recall nah I have posting a quote before sa other THREAD... and i was SURPRISED na imo gi COPY and PASTE.... its Ok anyway.. No Big deal for Me... Dont Worry, I am not allowing myself To became more WORST even i dont have a FATHER... Ang akoa PROBLEMA lang is MYSELF.... Maybe SAd low akong SELF ESTEEM.... But anyway, Thanx for the CONCERN....

[Fern]

Hahahaha... Nakit-an jud nimo akong POST ha.... Nalimot na bya Ko ani unta.. But i recall nah I have posting a quote before sa other THREAD... and i was SURPRISED na imo gi COPY and PASTE.... its Ok anyway.. No Big deal for Me... Dont Worry, I am not allowing myself To became more WORST even i dont have a FATHER... Ang akoa PROBLEMA lang is MYSELF.... Maybe SAd low akong SELF ESTEEM.... But anyway, Thanx for the CONCERN....

redhorse, vodka, or tequila? for the meantime?

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redhorse, vodka, or tequila? for the meantime?

The BAR

[Fern]

The BAR

cheer up... life has full of wonders... and God wants you to be happy

btw.... hows your sexlife... if you dont mind me asking