Unclear Triangle. HELP!

[ashcries]

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Hi everyone.

I am in a dilemma of sorts right now and I am hoping that naa unta mga people who will take time to answer this.

I'm in a close friendship with a guy right now. I have known him for years, ever since bata pa mi since we go to the same church. But it is just recently nga nagka-close mi. Sauna dili gyud gani mi magtagad.

Our "closeness" started when he asked me to help him with his school project. Then even if wala na ang project kay almost everyday na mi cge txt (this has been going on for 9 months na karon) until ni reach na jud sa point nga we went out on a "date of sorts" because it was not really planned. It just happened.

Everything is fine with us except the fact that he is still in a relationship with someone for years na (and I am aware of this fact ever since we started talking). Dugay na jud daw siya ganahan mustop sa ila relationship. But the prob is naglisud siya. And it is not his habit pud to be the one to leave. Ang ganahan niya mahitabo is ang girl na ang mu leave. Since it is clear nga sila pa gehapon I told him nga maybe it is best nga hunong nami ug communicate ug kita2x outside sa church. Dili man pud sya musugot oi. Huhuhu. Mingawon pud ko niya but I am willing to let go and let God take control of the situation. Siya pud. Hadlok pud sya if mahunong na amo commu kay mubalik napud mi sauna nga dili magtinagdanay. Lain na dayun kaayo kay we will always see each other every Sunday.

Unsa angay ani buhaton? Should i really stand firm on no longer being too friendly with him or just wait and see, go with the flow on where this whole thing will lead?

Naa pud times nga magkuyog mi nga kami ra. Okay ra kaayo if daghan mi but if kami ra duha naa jud feeling of guilt and paranoia kay basin naa makakita nga kaila nila duha sa iya gf. Dili pud ko ganahan nga ako ang e blame why they won't be able to work things out na hinuon.

We're both praying about this and hoping nga tagaan mi ug time nga magkastorya jud about the situation.

I really need help on this. I also need prayers. Thanks sa mu-respond.

[WengIA]

kung ako ang laki bitaw kung ganahan jud ko nimo unya nahigugma ko..labi na way klaro na ang relasyon namo sa akong uyab. ikaw na jud akong pilion oi'.bisan pa dili nako habit ang mobiya.isakrispisyo na lang jud nako tungod kay nahigugma na gud ko nimo..ana lang ka simple, cguro ang feelings sa laki dili pa kaayo strong para makabiya siya or basin sad iya2 ra nang istorya nga wala na sila'y klaro..

[maitoots]

girl i think, on my opinion.. stop lang sa cguro seeing him. if he truly has feelings for you let him be man enough to settle his issues first kay lisud kaau imo situation ikaw ang alkansi ana, mahug na ikaw ang other girl although tinud anay imo feelings toward sa iyaha, delicadeza nlang pd ba. doesn't mean that you will stop the friendship, it is already there nman, besides friendship is a very good foundation of a relationship. kay when all else fails in the relationship, the friendship still remains. you can still text and talk to him once in a while but i suggest, stop going out with him kung kamo ra duha. tell him nga if gusto pd d ay ka nya, then i settle nya ang closure nla sa iya uyab.. kay naa rba uban laki nganha nga maau kaau mohimo ug story.. ing ana jud ang reason if naa cla gnahan lain nga gurl ang reason kay dli na cla happy sa ila present relationship etc.. etc..

[Tirong-say]

You have an untimely love at the moment, Let Go let the time judge if both of you are really meant for each other, Love will always finds a way no matter what. By this way I think everything is fair enough for you, your friend, and his GF.

[ashcries]

kung ako ang laki bitaw kung ganahan jud ko nimo unya nahigugma ko..labi na way klaro na ang relasyon namo sa akong uyab. ikaw na jud akong pilion oi'.bisan pa dili nako habit ang mobiya.isakrispisyo na lang jud nako tungod kay nahigugma na gud ko nimo..ana lang ka simple, cguro ang feelings sa laki dili pa kaayo strong para makabiya siya or basin sad iya2 ra nang istorya nga wala na sila'y klaro..

thanks sa imu pov.

i have to make clear nga he did not say nga wala na sila klaro. what he said is naglisud na gyud sya sa kinaiya sa girl kay grabe ra daw kaayo masuko. dili pud kaayo ko ganahan nga magstorya mi about nila duha kay kiwaw kaayo. okay ra unta if purely platonic ra jud ako feelings niya kay walay bias. tsk. and it is not just feelings we are talking about here. it's about making an important decision in life. we both are Christians and we both believe nga in decision making kelangan part si God sa process that is why we're praying about it. mura pud sya gamahay kay with this current relationship right now, nagkasila kay tungod siya ra ang "ga-buot2x" (his exact term used) ug decide. that's why he feels like dili jud unta angay nga magka-sila. hahay. and dugay na pud gyud sya ganahan makigsuod nako. lisud lang gyud ko duolon sauna mao iya liking sa akoa before wala jud na develop and ako pud wala sad gyud nakabantay.

[krizanya]

over raman kaau gud..

[ashcries]

girl i think, on my opinion.. stop lang sa cguro seeing him. if he truly has feelings for you let him be man enough to settle his issues first kay lisud kaau imo situation ikaw ang alkansi ana, mahug na ikaw ang other girl although tinud anay imo feelings toward sa iyaha, delicadeza nlang pd ba. doesn't mean that you will stop the friendship, it is already there nman, besides friendship is a very good foundation of a relationship. kay when all else fails in the relationship, the friendship still remains. you can still text and talk to him once in a while but i suggest, stop going out with him kung kamo ra duha. tell him nga if gusto pd d ay ka nya, then i settle nya ang closure nla sa iya uyab.. kay naa rba uban laki nganha nga maau kaau mohimo ug story.. ing ana jud ang reason if naa cla gnahan lain nga gurl ang reason kay dli na cla happy sa ila present relationship etc.. etc..

salamat.

lage mao pud na ako gi-huna2x nga e limit na namu amu time spent on each other. although dili manpud nga 24/7 mi nagtxt or everyday kita but usahay maingana mangud without really intending it to be. he kinda acts like my bf napud. mao na ako gikahadlokan nga ako ang "other girl". dili bya jud ko ingana. haaay.

[ashcries]

sureness.?! promise.?! 1st prize.! surprise.! sunkist orange juice.!

hehehehe. sureness. kaw jud. drama na kaayo ko sagulan pud nimo ug binuang. tsk tsk tsk.

[sweetsophie]

if u think he loves u then he will fight for u no matter what but on the contrary aren't u afraid that what if magkauyab mo den if magdugay pud mo pero wala na siyay love nimo d same situation nga inyong gibuhat karon sa iya gf .......... dili kaha ka masakitan pud......... we sometimes called that as karma..... if i were u let the time be the judge of ur untimely relationship....... hu knows ang girl na mismo ang makigbuwag kay naa na siya lain hihihhi diba ok ra??

den the more magkadugay kay the more magkadako ang pain..........we call that as mind torture and heart failure hihihih peace sis....

[ashcries]

if u think he loves u then he will fight for u no matter what but on the contrary aren't u afraid that what if magkauyab mo den if magdugay pud mo pero wala na siyay love nimo d same situation nga inyong gibuhat karon sa iya gf .......... dili kaha ka masakitan pud......... we sometimes called that as karma..... if i were u let the time be the judge of ur untimely relationship....... hu knows ang girl na mismo ang makigbuwag kay naa na siya lain hihihhi diba ok ra??

den the more magkadugay kay the more magkadako ang pain..........we call that as mind torture and heart failure hihihih peace sis....

wahuhuhu paita ana oi. hehe. tsk. but thanks.

i also have that fear nga basin dili gyud sya kasaligan. but for him to be that honest about them and waiting nga ang girl na mismo mudecide nga dili na actually tells me nga he is different from most guys out there nga once gani ma-establish na nila nga ganahan pud nila ang lain nga girl kay biyaan na dayun ang ila current gf.

UNTIMELY jud ni amoa. hahay. nganu bitaw pud 3yrs ago igo ra ko niya gihatod sa amua then after ato wala napud mi gatagad. sigh.