Love's lessons

[luke0917]

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I've read this from one of Melanie Lim's articles. I am thinking this article might be helpful to those people who need an advice about relationship...including me, hehe.!

LOVE'S LESSONS
I can’t claim to be a guru. But in matters of the heart, I’ve learned a
thing or two.

Despite what we think, men really can’t read our minds. A few have been
blessed with this supernatural ability but for the rest of the mortal males,
they need to be reminded to remember; they need to be told to take
action.

So stop expecting a surprise on your birthday or anniversary or you might
truly be surprised.

Say the words—don’t let the moment pass. But if that time has come and
gone, don’t beat yourself to pulp. To ruminate in regret for the rest of
your life benefits no one. Mourn but move on. It’s all right to let your
tears fall but no public wailing please.

If you don’t feel loved, you’re probably right. Stop making excuses for the
man in your life. He can’t be busy all the time. He can’t be perpetually
clumsy and clueless. When you feel the interest waning, it probably has
waned. If he can’t make room in his life for you now, it isn’t likely he
ever will.

If he is not brave enough to tell you he no longer loves you then ask him
yourself if it is true. Don’t bawl at the truth. Take it like a woman. Bow
out gracefully. There is no shame in no longer being loved only in clinging
on to someone who no longer loves you.

Don’t ask why. You don’t need to know. You need it for closure? You do
not need him to recite your faults and failings—real or imagined. He does
not need to hear your rebuttal either. He has rested his case. He no
longer loves you—that should be enough closure for you. Let it be. You do
not need to know everything.

Sometimes, love dies—for no logical reason. But then again, there is no
logic in falling in love so falling out should follow the same pattern.
Remember, you can’t love for two. And you can’t compel anyone to love
you—despite how wonderful you may truly be.

It’s still best to break up amicably. Should you keep in touch? Why not?
Should you hang out? What for? You can stay civil and compassionate with
each other but you don’t have to be friends if you don’t want to. You
don’t have to be mortal enemies but you don’t have to be bosom buddies
either.

I’ve learned that with age, I don’t have to be wiser—just braver. To love
someone is a blessing. But to stop loving someone is not necessarily a
tragedy. The dateless need not be desperate on Valentine’s Day. They can
actually be—simply delighted to be free.

It is a liberating feeling to no longer pine for anyone—not exactly where I
expected to be at this time in my life. But I can’t say I’m disappointed. It
actually feels pretty good to be able to find the courage to be finally free.
I’ve learned to be happy without a man and that, to me, is a gift far
greater than anything a man could ever give me.

[see_rxe]

nice nice.. thanks for sharing this..

[monochromatic]

nice one..

[dunat]

wow. kanindot

[ralf]

hastilan lab-lab nsad lageh...

[maitoots]

nindot oi... maau jud kita ka ani sis
memorize this and pt this at heart this will really help you a lot
hahahah

i hope daghan makabasa ani na gurls.. ka nindot ani oi

[luke0917]

nindot oi... maau jud kita ka ani sis
memorize this and pt this at heart this will really help you a lot
hahahah

i hope daghan makabasa ani na gurls.. ka nindot ani oi

hahaha! lge sis...

[emnace09]

happy for the one who wrote this..

[miyah]

i hope i can say the same for myself *sigh

[blackbutterfly74]

whew!!!!!!!!